Parents of Murdered gay student blame school

[Praxeas]

VENTURA, California — The family of a gay teenager who was fatally shot in class blames the school district for allowing their son to wear makeup and feminine clothing to school — factors the family claims led to the death.

The parents and brother of 15-year-old Larry King of Oxnard filed a personal injury claim against the Hueneme school district seeking unspecified damages for not enforcing the dress code, The Ventura County Star reported.
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,404502,00.html

[HeavenlyOne]

Already have a thread about that. It's the school dress code thread.

[Baron1710]

And if they had tried to enforce it they would have cried discrimination.

Maybe if the parents had done a better job then they would have had custody of the boy. Who took the 8th grade boy shopping for those clothes?

[HeavenlyOne]

In the parent's defense...

In this day and age when both parents work most of the time, that leaves the children fending for themselves.

I recently had a judge get on to me for not doing enough to ensure that my son went to school everyday.

I made no bones about straightening him out to the facts of the matter that I had been in school for the last 18 months and was trying to work with the school, even begging them to give him a truancy ticket that brought me to court in the first place! It took me almost two years, but they finally issued that ticket the last week of school!

Fact is, if my son wanted to wear girls clothes to school, there isn't much I can do about it. I'm not home to check him out before he leaves for school.

But thank God I don't have that problem!

[Baron1710]

Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne

In the parent's defense...

In this day and age when both parents work most of the time, that leaves the children fending for themselves.

I recently had a judge get on to me for not doing enough to ensure that my son went to school everyday.

I made no bones about straightening him out to the facts of the matter that I had been in school for the last 18 months and was trying to work with the school, even begging them to give him a truancy ticket that brought me to court in the first place! It took me almost two years, but they finally issued that ticket the last week of school!

Fact is, if my son wanted to wear girls clothes to school, there isn't much I can do about it. I'm not home to check him out before he leaves for school.

But thank God I don't have that problem!

There is never an excuse for expecting a school to do what a parent should.

[Hoovie]

Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne

In the parent's defense...

In this day and age when both parents work most of the time, that leaves the children fending for themselves.
!

uh... that's an indictment not a defense.

[HeavenlyOne]

Originally Posted by Baron1710

There is never an excuse for expecting a school to do what a parent should.

I'm glad you are in total control of your household.

I have failed. Please tell me what else I can do to make sure my son goes to school when I have to work.

Perhaps I should make a list of things I've already done:

Taken away the PS2, all games, controllers, and such like for over a year's time, consecutively.
Grounded him from going places.
Taken his phone away (which doesn't work because then I have no way of contacting him).
Not allowed him to speak to friends outside of school and church.
Forced him to do horrible chores.
Grounded him from TV and movies.
Spoken to the school officials on several occasions.
Spoken to his pastor on several occasions.
Spoken to his youth leader on several occasions.
Spoken to his guidance counselor on several occasions.

Now, what else am I supposed to do?

[Baron1710]

Originally Posted by HeavenlyOne

I'm glad you are in total control of your household.

I have failed. Please tell me what else I can do to make sure my son goes to school when I have to work.

I'm not attacking you. But it is not the job of the school to raise our kids. One year we had some problems with our son in school and I threatened him with this...

http://www.rma.edu/

[HeavenlyOne]

Originally Posted by Stephen Hoover

uh... that's an indictment not a defense.

Sometimes parents have no choice but to work. Both of them. Perhaps a result of bad choices made earlier, but no choice at the present.

Perhaps they did as I have done and have contacted the school for help on several occasions, only to be told what I've been told.

"But he's not a troublemaker and we have no problems out of him at all."

[Baron1710]

How old is your son?