Meeting biological mother

Margies3 · #1 07-11-2008, 10:13 PM

Most of you know already that we have two sons who are both adopted. They are not biological brothers.

We've always told our boys that when they are 18, we will give them whatever information they want in order for them to be able to make contact with their birth parents. Keith already sees his biological grandma and a biological half-brother once a year. Always has. His grandma is actually the one who had custody of him before we adopted him. So he's easy.

Justin has not seen or heard from his biological family since he was 11 months old. We got him at age 3 1/2. He was in foster care until we got him.

So this week, his biological mom called my mother and my uncle to try to find out a way to contact Justin. Walt and I talked it over and decided now was the time IF Justin still wanted to make the contact. We talked with him tonight and he really does.

On Sunday his biological grandmother is coming down to this area and Justin will get to meet her for the first time since he was 3 months old. In the meantime, I will be making a phone call to his bio mom to set up a time for us to take him up to meet her and her new husband, as well as at least 2 of his biological half-brothers. He has one full sister, but I am not sure that he will get to meet her right away.

We had to explain to him tonight that while his biological mom has come a long ways and is doing much better now than she was at the time that she lost custody of him, his biological father has not changed. In fact, he is sitting in prison right now for attempted murder. He threw battery acid all over his step-mother when she refused to loan him money.

I'm sharing all of this with you so that I can ask you this - please pray for Justin for the next couple of weeks. In addition to getting ready to move out and go away to college, he's also going to have this emotional rollercoaster to ride. He'll be ok. He's a good kid and very strong. But it won't be easy. He'll need your prayers. Thanks!

Blubayou · #2 07-11-2008, 10:41 PM

Praying for you and your boys. God will be with you during this time.

Ron · #3 07-11-2008, 10:43 PM

Will be praying. They both will do well, after all, look at thier adopted parents!

dizzyde · #4 07-11-2008, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Margies3

Most of you know already that we have two sons who are both adopted. They are not biological brothers.

We've always told our boys that when they are 18, we will give them whatever information they want in order for them to be able to make contact with their birth parents. Keith already sees his biological grandma and a biological half-brother once a year. Always has. His grandma is actually the one who had custody of him before we adopted him. So he's easy.

Justin has not seen or heard from his biological family since he was 11 months old. We got him at age 3 1/2. He was in foster care until we got him.

So this week, his biological mom called my mother and my uncle to try to find out a way to contact Justin. Walt and I talked it over and decided now was the time IF Justin still wanted to make the contact. We talked with him tonight and he really does.

On Sunday his biological grandmother is coming down to this area and Justin will get to meet her for the first time since he was 3 months old. In the meantime, I will be making a phone call to his bio mom to set up a time for us to take him up to meet her and her new husband, as well as at least 2 of his biological half-brothers. He has one full sister, but I am not sure that he will get to meet her right away.

We had to explain to him tonight that while his biological mom has come a long ways and is doing much better now than she was at the time that she lost custody of him, his biological father has not changed. In fact, he is sitting in prison right now for attempted murder. He threw battery acid all over his step-mother when she refused to loan him money.

I'm sharing all of this with you so that I can ask you this - please pray for Justin for the next couple of weeks. In addition to getting ready to move out and go away to college, he's also going to have this emotional rollercoaster to ride. He'll be ok. He's a good kid and very strong. But it won't be easy. He'll need your prayers. Thanks!

Praying Marge, this is heavy stuff. God can give all of you peace about this!

Rico · #5 07-12-2008, 02:18 AM

Most people don't know this about me and my wife, but we've actually made 5 children. The oldest son would be turning 20 this year in October. We weren't together when he was born, so she gave him up for adoption. We've tracked him down before, but have never attempted to contact him.

Margie, my guess is this meeting will be good for your son.

Sherri · #6 07-12-2008, 08:46 AM

Margie, I'll be praying for Justin. God will grant him peace.

Pressing-On · #7 07-12-2008, 09:42 AM

Praying for all involved, Margie!!

sherr34 · #8 07-12-2008, 09:46 AM

Will be praying. I just found my birth mother in Feb and Met her in May after 35 yrs. So I know that roller coaster ride.

Cindy · #9 07-12-2008, 09:55 AM

Margie, I will be praying for y'all. God is able to get us through all kinds of situtaions and I pray God grant Justin peace in this meeting.

Margies3 · #10 07-12-2008, 10:02 AM

I just want to say THANK YOU to all of you who are praying about this. I woke up this morning thinking how I have such mixed feelings about tomorrow. What in the world must Justin be feeling that he's not expressing? It brought comfort to me even then to know without even looking here that my AFF friends would already be praying. I love you all!