Going back to the UPC

[Jack Shephard]

Hello all-
Well some if not most of you know that I had left the UPC church I went to, but my wife and daugther stayed. Well this has put a strain on us alittle and has hurt my relationship with her family. Well my daughter is almost 2 and I came to the decision of returning to the UPC for now and maybe forever. This will keep the consitancy in raising our child/children. As oppose to them choosing to go the charasmatic church with me and maybe getting confused on the teaching. I will definately raise my kids right. My wife and I see eye to eye on most if not all issues, but she just can not leave there. So back I go. What do you all think? I am curious to hear what you all have to say.

[Michael Phelps]

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Hello all-
Well some if not most of you know that I had left the UPC church I went to, but my wife and daugther stayed. Well this has put a strain on us alittle and has hurt my relationship with her family. Well my daughter is almost 2 and I came to the decision of returning to the UPC for now and maybe forever. This will keep the consitancy in raising our child/children. As oppose to them choosing to go the charasmatic church with me and maybe getting confused on the teaching. I will definately raise my kids right. My wife and I see eye to eye on most if not all issues, but she just can not leave there. So back I go. What do you all think? I am curious to hear what you all have to say.

What can we say? It's your decision. I wish you the best.

My only question is - if you were unhappy enough to leave, what has changed? How long can you be happy if you go back?

[Sherri]

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Hello all-
Well some if not most of you know that I had left the UPC church I went to, but my wife and daugther stayed. Well this has put a strain on us alittle and has hurt my relationship with her family. Well my daughter is almost 2 and I came to the decision of returning to the UPC for now and maybe forever. This will keep the consitancy in raising our child/children. As oppose to them choosing to go the charasmatic church with me and maybe getting confused on the teaching. I will definately raise my kids right. My wife and I see eye to eye on most if not all issues, but she just can not leave there. So back I go. What do you all think? I am curious to hear what you all have to say.

I think having your family worshipping together is the most important thing. Otherwise, your children will grow up confused. If she cannot come to where you are, you did the right thing by going where she is. We had a similar situation here once; the guy was coming to our church and she was going to a UPC and just could not make the "jump". It was going to definitely hurt if not destroy their relationship with each other. We told him to go to the UPC with her. As far as I know, that's what he has done.

[scotty]

A divided house can not stand

Your daughter will grow in the church, recieve the Holy Ghost and have her own personal walk the Lord. He will show her how He wants her to live.

You are correct for now to raise her in a family undivided. Admirable courage...


--side note

Glad to have you back

[Scott Hutchinson]

Friend what you do is your business and if your cool with this so am I.
I don't agree with everything at my church nor I do agree with my pastor on everything,but where I live there very few oneness churches,and I won't go to a trinity church,I figure I'm better off to go to church than stay home.
But brother sometimes we do what we have to do.

[rgcraig]

As long as you can agree on "how" to raise her, I think that is the most important factor.

[Sept5SavedTeen]

Was your charismatic church oneness?
If you feel this is from the LORD, be ecouraged brother, I'll be praying for you. I'm still single, so I couldn't imagine my wife and I going to separate churches, but my sister and I go to different churches (she goes to the UPC and I go to the indep church) and it can get tough sometimes but the LORD has kept my sister (who is younger in the LORD than I am) strong through the whole ordeal.

GOD BLESS!
Bro. Alex

[scotty]

Originally Posted by Michael Phelps

What can we say? It's your decision. I wish you the best.

My only question is - if you were unhappy enough to leave, what has changed? How long can you be happy if you go back?

I believe God will reward and bless him greatly for this decision to do all he can to raise his family in the light of salvation.

[ManOfWord]

I think it is most important for a family to be together and that the husband and the wife make the decision together as to where they go to church.

My boys are oneness....to the core and growing up in a "charismatic" (the term some of you use) did not hurt them in the least. They know the way is a relationship, not a formula. I don't regret a single thing in following the pathway the Lord has laid for me.

[dizzyde]

I think in theory it can only benefit your child for her parents to go to the same church. I also agree that you need to be in accordance on how to raise her. It will not be helpful for you to go to the same church if you undercut or disagree with the church in front of her. I have seen many children permanently damaged by parents staying in a church that they disagree with. If you throw the ministry into doubt in front of your child, she will doubt every aspect of the church.

This isn't just a UPC/Non-UPC issue, I have a cousin who is the youth pastor of a non-denominational church, and the girl he married was the music minister of another non-denom. After they married they continued to go to the different churches because of their ministries in those churches, but once they had children they decided that it was not in the best interest of the kids to continue that way. So they made a choice and now attend just one of the churches as a family.