For those who want to know...RULES at my church!

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Thad

what would you do Renda ?

If I was under a pastor like that? Leave.

If I were the pastor? Repent.

If I were God..................well, that's left up to Him!

[Hesetmefree238]

Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

This is not about bashing...please don't to go there...this is just what my church was like and my Pastor wanted it....we didn't think it was necessary so we left! I love them, and I hope nothing but the best for them, I just think fear rules them and to me that is soooooo sad!

Rules...
1. No talking on the phone for more than 10 minutes
2. No friends outside of church, not even family (it was discouraged strongly)
3. No more than three families at a time in your home and not too often, if you had a gathering you are suppose to ask everyone in the church so no one gets offended.
4. No home bible studies without the ministry being there
5. You must attend all fellowships
6. So lunch dates, or shopping with friends even the ones in church...
7. No important decisions made without consulting the pastor...like, buying a car(new, used, how much you can spend)...same with a home or property.
8. You were not allowed to move, unless you had his OK.

Being we are older we did not attend parenting classes or marriage classes so we missed out on a lot of the rules...but over time we learned. This is not everything, but for the moment its enough...I might add more as I think of them.....

So there ya go Thad....

That's cultic in my opinion.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

Pretty sure. King left awhile ago and Glover took it over. Also, Kings nephew is one of my bestfriends and he was on staff there a while. I guess King went to somewhere in Indiana.

Hmmm...Ok, I believe you. I do know there is still a King in the NW and has been for many, many years.

[anapko]

Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

1. Pretty much…if you were talking more than 10 minutes your just gossiping! Funny though I had several very long conversations with my Pastor!
2. I don’t know how you win the lost if you don’t fellowship with them, you need to make a friend before they will want to hear your testimony…
3. Yes it is…but thems the rules, and that is why the church does not grow. It has a revolving door too many rules
4. NO home bible studies….I wanted to start a ladies bible study group, was told NO because we need to be there e to be sure you don’t get off track!
5. You were talked to if you did not attend all fellowships…scolded!
6. No daytime activities with friends….idle time…fun time
7. Nothing more here
8. I agree brother that is why we left….it was oppressive….

Whew...for a minute I thought you actually loved this church!!! I'm much relieved you clarified!

Originally Posted by pelathais

I know of several families over the years who have actually:
1. Relocated out of state
2. Moved their family, uprooted the kids
3. Found new work and a new home and new schools for the kids
4. Stayed out of state for a couple of years
5. "Relocated" back in state just so that they could transfer out of such church situations.

All of that disruption just to transfer to another church across town or in some cases to another church in another nearby town.

OH there is another one...I forgot the kids were not allowed to go to public school they had to go to the church school, which for some families was a hardship....but you MUST obey the pastor...sooooooooo

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

I have heard of rules like these. There was a church in the great NW that the pastor was very tough on the saints. I think King was the lastname not too sure. That guy left and a friend of mine is the pastor there now and it is much more mellow.

How about a PM on that....Please....

Originally Posted by CareyM

Not to be contrary, but we were only supposed to have family Birthday parties...no one in the church unless they were family.

I was remembering anew convert that came in by way of ACTS...his daughter wanted to have a BDay party and he was told only if he included ALL the kids in the church......which is just silly sense many were way too old!

Originally Posted by Thad

WHO CARES???????????? WHY do they even care who has a birthday party, who comes, who doesn't come, yada yada.... goodness
what's the big fuss over all this stuff??

do they allow christmas?? what if someone doesn't get invited for C'mas????? CRY ME A RIVER ! ! !

Well they didn't like Christmas trees....

Originally Posted by Joseph Miller

You guys are joking about all these "rules" right?

NO I wish I were....that is the main reason we left that church...

Originally Posted by CareyM

Another rule was that no one could go to college.

They have since changed this rule as their grandchildren are now grown and they needed a good education to get a decent job. ***VOMITS****

OH yeah that was another one....and you were not suppose to miss Wed...night BStudy unless you were pastors grandson and he was taking night classes!