Accepting help offered.

nahkoe · #1 01-10-2009, 08:51 PM

I'm in a place..oh it's quite a place. lol

There's a church that has offered to help me out (probably). I work with a pastor in that denomination who's currently not pastoring. He's talked to people and given them information and they say they can help. However, they'd like to speak to me in person and the easiest time to do that is to attend a church service. So I'll be going tomorrow night.

I've had him and his wife in my home the last two nights for Bible study.

I don't believe anything like these people do.

I am very interested in learning about other denominations and doctrines, and respectful of what they believe (as in, I haven't said...THAT'S WRONG! yet..lol)

Talking to them has given me a lot of study material.

But, I still have this hesitation. I don't have any problems accepting help from anyone if it's offered. I've been through too much to have any pride left concerning that. But, is it wrong to go to a service knowing you won't be converting to their way of seeing things and to participate in the service (JUST to get help), and even continue to study with the pastor (this because I enjoy studying and the study material generated by the studies so far has been awesome...)? I'm not sure if I'll study with him or not from here out...but maybe. He's also said if he's got a Saturday off of work he'll go to church with me (we meet Sat am). So it seems to be a pretty mutually agreeable thing.

What do you think?

Cindy · #2 01-10-2009, 08:54 PM

Are they trying to convert you? If not, I say accept the help. If they are ,you probably need to explain to them your reservations. And see if they still want to help.

Scott Hutchinson · #3 01-10-2009, 08:55 PM

Nahkoe have you discussed this with your pastor ?

Scott Hutchinson · #4 01-10-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

Are they trying to convert you? If not, I say accept the help. If they are ,you probably need to explain to them your reservations. And see if they still want to help.

I agree with Texas Granny.

nahkoe · #5 01-10-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Cindy

Are they trying to convert you? If not, I say accept the help. If they are ,you probably need to explain to them your reservations. And see if they still want to help.

Well, I'm sure they're hopeful because, as most Christian denominations do, they think they're the only ones right.

But it's never been mentioned as a requirement for the assistance, or even actually been brought up at all.

The church service is just the easiest time to meet with the person responsible for making the decisions regarding the benevolence funds.

ChTatum · #6 01-10-2009, 08:56 PM

Are there no churches that believe like you willing to help?

Elizabeth · #7 01-10-2009, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by nahkoe

I'm in a place..oh it's quite a place. lol

There's a church that has offered to help me out (probably). I work with a pastor in that denomination who's currently not pastoring. He's talked to people and given them information and they say they can help. However, they'd like to speak to me in person and the easiest time to do that is to attend a church service. So I'll be going tomorrow night.

I've had him and his wife in my home the last two nights for Bible study.

I don't believe anything like these people do.

I am very interested in learning about other denominations and doctrines, and respectful of what they believe (as in, I haven't said...THAT'S WRONG! yet..lol)

Talking to them has given me a lot of study material.

But, I still have this hesitation. I don't have any problems accepting help from anyone if it's offered. I've been through too much to have any pride left concerning that. But, is it wrong to go to a service knowing you won't be converting to their way of seeing things and to participate in the service (JUST to get help), and even continue to study with the pastor (this because I enjoy studying and the study material generated by the studies so far has been awesome...)? I'm not sure if I'll study with him or not from here out...but maybe. He's also said if he's got a Saturday off of work he'll go to church with me (we meet Sat am). So it seems to be a pretty mutually agreeable thing.

What do you think?

From a pastoral aspect he is most likely wanting to help you to convert you, or hope that you will join their church.

Knowing that, how does that make you feel that you just want the help but not the spiritual leadership?

TJJJ · #8 01-10-2009, 08:57 PM

Are they LDS? If so, then conversion IS the only thing on their minds. No one joins the LDS church for doctrine, but they join for the social programs. Be very, very careful!

nahkoe · #9 01-10-2009, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Nahkoe have you discussed this with your pastor ?

Yep. He's not particularly helpful. lol

He laughed at me this morning when I told him I was going to go to service tomorrow night.

He's been trying to find resources to help me out and hasn't come up with anything. He knows very well what situation I'm in and how many brick walls I've hit (and how many amazing things God has done!)

nahkoe · #10 01-10-2009, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by TJJJ

Are they LDS? If so, then conversion IS the only thing on their minds. No one joins the LDS church for doctrine, but they join for the social programs. Be very, very careful!

They're not LDS.

And I have many LDS friends.

I'm quite aware of how things do, and do not, operate there. I've also accepted help from them before when needed. (and now as a matter of fact, but this church isn't LDS)