Raising Apostolic Children

[warrior]

I was wondering how much of your church rules do you infringe on your children. For example the following rules have been set by your church:

1. No movies
2. No television
3. No sports or attending sporting events
4. No prom
5. No marching band
6. No pants at all on little girls regardless of the event
7. Head covering everday and all day for little girls (even in school)
8. No participation in dance
9. No listening to secular music

How much do you think your children should experience and are these things going to cause your child to go to hell or end up on some type of slippery slope?

[freeatlast]

Originally Posted by warrior

I was wondering how much of your church rules do you infringe on your children. For example the following rules have been set by your church:

1. No movies
2. No television
3. No sports or attending sporting events
4. No prom
5. No marching band
6. No pants at all on little girls regardless of the event
7. Head covering everday and all day for little girls (even in school)
8. No participation in dance
9. No listening to secular music

How much do you think your children should experience and are these things going to cause your child to go to hell or end up on some type of slippery slope?

None of theses apply in my church.

Do I think any of these could cause a kid to go to hell??

Only if they were forced on the kid, and then said kid became a hypercritical legalistic pentecostal.

[aak1972]

Originally Posted by warrior

I was wondering how much of your church rules do you infringe on your children. For example the following rules have been set by your church:

1. No movies
2. No television
3. No sports or attending sporting events
4. No prom
5. No marching band
6. No pants at all on little girls regardless of the event
7. Head covering everday and all day for little girls (even in school)
8. No participation in dance
9. No listening to secular music

How much do you think your children should experience and are these things going to cause your child to go to hell or end up on some type of slippery slope?

I dont believe anyone can find a scripture that will prove any of these things will send anyone to hell!!!!

[warrior]

What happens when the children begin to act out in school and home in protest to so many rules? What is a parent to do while making the kids follow these rules?

[jimmyrrs]

Originally Posted by warrior

I was wondering how much of your church rules do you infringe on your children. For example the following rules have been set by your church:

1. No movies
2. No television
3. No sports or attending sporting events
4. No prom
5. No marching band
6. No pants at all on little girls regardless of the event
7. Head covering everday and all day for little girls (even in school)
8. No participation in dance
9. No listening to secular music

How much do you think your children should experience and are these things going to cause your child to go to hell or end up on some type of slippery slope?

It sounds more like standards. A lot of churchs don't want the members to mix with the outside world. I must ask how will a person learn to get along with others.
I have used this example before. Playing football is not evil. A lot of the guys get a lot of money and then go crazy. It's, the love of money that's wrong, not the money itself.
What do you put first in your life? God or the world. What do you let influence you? The Word of God or the word of the world?
If anything you listed is causing you or your family to lose out with God then it should go.
My home church does use standards but at the same time one must use common sense.

[jimmyrrs]

Originally Posted by warrior

What happens when the children begin to act out in school and home in protest to so many rules? What is a parent to do while making the kids follow these rules?

Warrior, do you follow these rules already? Is this something that is new to you or new to the church body? Have you ever been exposed to this type of teaching before. Do you have children yet?

[Sister Alvear]

First talk to the pastor and make sure he sees these things as heaven or hell issues...if you cannot comply move on... I think we must have rights and wrongs...black and white however there must be balance...
Some folks make a sin what they do not like and ok what they like...
We must all have our standards and personal convictions...however we must also be willing to admit we have all been wrong about something at some time or the other...

[warrior]

Jimmy, this is all based on a discussion I was having with a friend. He church is very legalistic, and her children are carrying on pretty badly in school. Because they really don't have anything to take away from them their only manner of discipline is to spank them.

I think they need to be experiencing things kids experience because it helps to mold who they are, provide the needed experiences for being well rounded and can assist in areas of discipline.

No, I don't have any kids. I wouldn't be a member of this church because they just have waaaaaaay toooooooo many rules to follow and none of them are in the Bible.

[Sherri]

If you're going to raise your children in this church, and you want to be involved, then you probably need to follow the rules/standards. If not, then find a church that you feel comfortable raising them in. I wouldn't want to raise mine in a place where I had to tell them, "well our church teaches this.....but this is what we do." I think it leads to confusion. JMHO.

[Sister Alvear]

Rules are in the Bible however we must determine IF all those rules are in the Bible...Thou shalt not....is for our safety and guide however for my honest opinion I do not agree with ALL those rules...
My kids went to public school and made it just fine however I know public schools do not help the cause of Christ as a whole. Some I am sure are ok...others put to much pressure on Christian children.

Some things kids are going to do if we like it or not...I will give a little example...for many years many churches in Brazil did not believe in letting kids play ball...I always let my kids play ball and one pastor here once told me, Missionary, you let your kids sin. I replied to him that I had rather my kids play ball with other christian kids than play hidden in some field with a bunch of dope pushers...I knew his boy played ball hidden from him with a very rough crowd...
So kids will find a way...if we are wise (and many times I failed) however if we are wise we will help them get involved in something they enjoy with the right crowd if not...they will rebel...and we will suffer more...
I would not teach them to go against the pastor...I would find a different church with more balance. Many churches do have good youth programs and keep the kids excited.