How to get over the Greatest Hurt

[missourimary]

I think there is a huge difference between forgiving and putting oneself back in a situation to be hurt in again. There may also be different types of forgiveness. We can forgive-as in let go of our woundedness-without forgiving-as in forgetting anything ever happened and being repeatedly slapped. Therefore:
SLAP
I forgive you. *turns other cheek*
SLAP
I still forgive you. *steps out of situation*

And that is ONLY if turning the other cheek means forgiving. Actually that passage is talking about going the extra mile.

Matthew 5:39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
Matthew 5:40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloke also.
Matthew 5:41 And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.
Matthew 5:42 Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.
Matthew 5:43 Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy.
Matthew 5:44 But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
Matthew 5:45 That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.
Matthew 5:46 For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same?

That is talking about going above and beyond to be nice to people, not letting them deliberately do something against you repeatedly and just forgetting about it.

Now, the verses about 70x7 are about forgiving, yes. BUT, if God ONLY forgives us when we repent (and according to what I've heard, salvation is based on repentance for that very reason), can He ask any more of us? Therefore I think this verse is talking much more about letting go of hurt, for our own sake, rather than letting someone walk all over us.

The only time I've heard this adequately preached was when someone said: I forgive them. I still love them, even. But some people I just love a lot more when they are WAAAAYYYY over there. (not close enough to hurt him again)

[Sister Alvear]

There are some people I do not ever care to have in my life again but not to forgive them would be wrong....knowing they would enjoy hurting me again would be foolish on my part to become buddy buddy...
I think GOD gives us common sense and my common sense tells me to stay away from some people...that might sound unchristlike but it is true. Why put ourselves in a position to be hurt? A hurt can cause bitterness and in time destroy the person...

I have made the statement and broken it because I have a soft heart but usually the want be missionaries are not called and will only cause you trouble and tears in the end...
People that change churches today will usually change churches tomorrow...

Not too long ago I was deeply hurt by a young minister that wanted to make a name for himself...however I got over it...I have lived long enough to know that we must forgive and go on...but we do not have to camp next door to people that are out to kill us...

[Rhoni]

Wake up to a sunny day, not a cloud up in the sky
Then it starts to rain, my defenses hit the ground
And they shatter all around, so open and exposed
I found strength in the struggle
Face to face with my trouble

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken

Little girl don't be so blue
I know what you're going through
Don't let it beat you up
Hitting walls and getting scars
Only makes you who you are
Only makes you who you are
No matter how much your heart is aching
There is beauty in the breaking
Yeah

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken

Better days are gonna find you once again
Every piece will find its place

When you're broken, when you're broken

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken
Oh, when you're broken
When you're broken
When you're broken

Lyrics from "Broken Bridges" Lindsay Haun. This a good song. I do agree that there is beauty in the breaking. God is close to those who are of a broken and contrite heart...

[missourimary]

I needed to be reminded of this thread today. Thanks!

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

Wake up to a sunny day, not a cloud up in the sky
Then it starts to rain, my defenses hit the ground
And they shatter all around, so open and exposed
I found strength in the struggle
Face to face with my trouble

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken

Little girl don't be so blue
I know what you're going through
Don't let it beat you up
Hitting walls and getting scars
Only makes you who you are
Only makes you who you are
No matter how much your heart is aching
There is beauty in the breaking
Yeah

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken

Better days are gonna find you once again
Every piece will find its place

When you're broken, when you're broken

When you're broken in a million little pieces
And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore
Every tear falls down for a reason
Don't you stop believing in yourself
When you're broken
Oh, when you're broken
When you're broken
When you're broken

Lyrics from "Broken Bridges" Lindsay Haun. This a good song. I do agree that there is beauty in the breaking. God is close to those who are of a broken and contrite heart...

There is no getting over hurt...just learning to deal with it and know eventually God will use it for ministry.

Blessings, Rhoni

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

There is no getting over hurt...just learning to deal with it and know eventually God will use it for ministry.

Blessings, Rhoni

Is that what you really tell others?

I completely disagree.

[Scott Hutchinson]

One of the ways I have learned to deal with hurts,is not to harbor bitterness.

[rgcraig]

A dear friend posted on his FB today something that I think is very true:

When you forgive, you heal. When you let go, you grow.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Is that what you really tell others?

I completely disagree.

Renda,

It doesn't matter whether you agree or not. Nor is it your concern what I tell others...I told it here on AFF so obviously I told it as I see it to be.

You have made it your concern to speak from a perspective that you know all the answers on this forum. You state that it is to 'stir up conversation' but I think that you need to be careful to not set yourself up as the all wise all knowing wisdom of AFF. The only place to go from the top is down.

Rhoni

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

Renda,

It doesn't matter whether you agree or not. Nor is it your concern what I tell others...I told it here on AFF so obviously I told it as I see it to be.

You have made it your concern to speak from a perspective that you know all the answers on this forum. You state that it is to 'stir up conversation' but I think that you need to be careful to not set yourself up as the all wise all knowing wisdom of AFF. The only place to go from the top is down.

Rhoni

Okay.

I didn't realize I couldn't disagree with you. I merely told it as "I see it to be."

I don't believe there's anyone here except you that would say that I have "made it your concern to speak from a perspective that you know all the answers on this forum" or that I'm the "all wise all knowing wisdom of AFF."

That is your mis-perception and here on AFF we allow those.

I only stated that things are discussed by some "to stir up conversation" - not that I do. http://www.apostolicfriendsforum.com...&postcount=587