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Originally Posted by 1399
I used to think that I wanted as many olives around my dinner table as possible.
Now that I am older and see how difficult life can be just providing for myself, I don't want 7 or 8 children.
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I thought it goes without saying that a man shouldn't get married and start a family until he can afford to. Well, it is prevailing wisdom where I come from anyhow.
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2 or 3 healthy children that I can adequately provide for is blessing enough for me.
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Before you do anything drastic in this regard, I highly recommend talking with older couples that limited their family in the manner you propose.
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Furthermore, in some large families, the children are raised not so different in the way one would raise their livestock. If the Lord blessed my future wife and I with 8 olives, I'd want to ensure that each olive got the love, attention and emotional support that he or she would need.
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This is not an argument against large families. This is an argument against uninvolved or uncommitted parents. This is a fear tactic and I can't help but wonder where you get your information. It is important that parents invest of themselves in their children no matter how many they have. Right now I daresay that most of the children in America who feel alone and disconnected from their parents are in families where both parents work, or in single-parent families. The children in the large families I know enjoy strong interactive dynamics and are far more advanced than their peers at taking responsibility, communicating with adults, emotional maturity, and helping cheerfully.
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That would be difficult to do properly with 8 children.
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Most people do not have 8 children all at once. They normally come along one at a time. It is a journey of learning and improving. Wouldn't it be awesome if God grew you into a man who could lead 8 children? At some point along the way you'll draw up some goals and ideals. You'll actually gain
management skills! I used to feel exactly the same way. But then I found out that 4 children was actually easier than 3 . . . . .
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I can understand that and I'm not even a parent yet.
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I remember when I was young and childless, how easy it was to judge young parents that I thought were doing it wrong, how easy it was to say to myself, 'when
I have kids, things are going to be different!'
However, I also remember that nobody could convince me that I would not know what I was talking about until I had one of my own.
God Bless you! I hope you'll continue to allow God to lead you in ALL areas of your life.
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