Who Would You Invite?

[Jermyn Davidson]

It is thought provoking indeed to read about what has happened in all of those people's lives.

[pelathais]

I agree with your position, NFS. I think that whatever healing might be needed could only come about if "everyone" were invited. Openness and acceptance of old friends and loved ones is not the same thing as necessarily condoning every single choice that they made over the years.

What's with "Reverend Hightower?" I remember that being a fictional character of William Faulkner's. Did someone make it a "reality?"

[Timmy]

Invite Jesus. Have plenty of water handy, and you won't have to buy wine.

[NotforSale]

Originally Posted by missourimary

If it is a church activity for people who used to come, invite everyone who used to come. If she is the one that wants a get together, and she wants to exclude people, she should have a get together for her old friends (no mention of the church) on her time and in her own facility.

I agree. This event is for those who were part of building this Church, and I feel all should be welcome. This whole issue has made me ponder much of who we are. When we begin to tell people they are not accepted because of a past, present, or potential future problem, that would leave us ALL out.

I also see this as UnChrist-like.

Maybe there could be some kind of clause in the invitation, stating, "We realize many of us have taken different paths in life, having similar experiences ourselves. Please be kind, patient, and considerate of those who attend that may have offended you, keeping in mind that all need forgiveness."

[NotforSale]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

It is thought provoking indeed to read about what has happened in all of those people's lives.

Amen, Jermyn. I have left much out, and I think there is something to learn from this.

The next Church we attended, which was quite large, is full of the same stories. Every now and then I pull out the old Church Directory, which is full of photos, considering the places people have gone.

It used to break my heart to look at these pictures, but I try not to be so critical anymore. People struggle in this life, and the burden is sometimes more than we can bear. I never want to forget this.

[NotforSale]

Originally Posted by pelathais

I agree with your position, NFS. I think that whatever healing might be needed could only come about if "everyone" were invited. Openness and acceptance of old friends and loved ones is not the same thing as necessarily condoning every single choice that they made over the years.

What's with "Reverend Hightower?" I remember that being a fictional character of William Faulkner's. Did someone make it a "reality?"

Pel, I had a powerful experience several years ago. I was angry with a past relative. I was bitter, and felt justified.

I went to Church on a Sunday morning and the message was on forgiveness. It hammered me to the floor. I realized I was holding a grudge, even though the relative was guilty of fault. But my fault was far worse, because I didn't want to pardon them.

The only answer was (for me) to tell this person to their face, "I'm sorry for holding this sin to your charge. I'm sincerely sorry". I acted and have never regretted this experience.

This was over 15 years ago, and this relative, who is my stepfather, is now one of my closest friends. In fact, he has told my mother that he loves me more than his biological children. When we are with strangers, he always introduces me as, "This is my son". (Tears come to my eyes typing this)

[NotforSale]

Originally Posted by Timmy

Invite Jesus. Have plenty of water handy, and you won't have to buy wine.

I'm hoping for a "Red" miracle...