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[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by Ron

That is appropriate.

Let this family member know that "she" is responsible and will be held accountable if something happens.

Thank you Ron, for the encouragement.

[Blubayou]

Carey- I think your first step is to confront the care taker. Let her know that she is being held accountable for the care and that if the care she is giving is not improved, authorities will be contacted. I know I am coming across confrontational and you do not have to be that way with the caretaker. You can couch it in language that gets your point across. Do you have other family members that can go visit and get their assessment of the care of this elder. If so, I would encourage it- the more family members you have involved the better. Just some suggestions.

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by Ron

That is appropriate.

Let this family member know that "she" is responsible and will be held accountable if something happens.

The only thing with this approach (which I don't disagree with) is if you do confront the family member and they do nothing to change, if you subsequently make an anon report to the county agency, it is probably going to be pretty apparent where the complaint came from.

I guess it depends on how much you need to keep peace with this person. Either way, based on what you have said, I don't think you are overreacting, and I do think for the sake of your conscience, and for the sake of the elderly relative, you need to do something. IMO.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by Blubayou

Carey- I think your first step is to confront the care taker. Let her know that she is being held accountable for the care and that if the care she is giving is not improved, authorities will be contacted. I know I am coming across confrontational and you do not have to be that way with the caretaker. You can couch it in language that gets your point across. Do you have other family members that can go visit and get their assessment of the care of this elder. If so, I would encourage it- the more family members you have involved the better. Just some suggestions.

There is a son and DIL who understand the situation and feel the same way my husband and I do...so we have support. My immediate concern is this trip in the travel trailer for 2 weeks...I think I'll talk to the other son's and find out if there's something that can be done. There is a nursing home in their town where she could stay and the son's could visit on a regular basis.

Thank you for the suggestions!!!

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

The only thing with this approach (which I don't disagree with) is if you do confront the family member and they do nothing to change, if you subsequently make an anon report to the county agency, it is probably going to be pretty apparent where the complaint came from.

I guess it depends on how much you need to keep peace with this person. Either way, based on what you have said, I don't think you are overreacting, and I do think for the sake of your conscience, and for the sake of the elderly relative, you need to do something. IMO.

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....:reaction

Oh, DEAR!!!!



Will def. be praying for you!!!

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

Oh, DEAR!!!!



Will def. be praying for you!!!

Thank you, I really appreciate it...it will be a very touchy "talk". I will not do it without my husband there to support me.

[dizzyde]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Thank you, I really appreciate it...it will be a very touchy "talk". I will not do it without my husband there to support me.

Oh, I agree, I absolutely would not do it without him. Otherwise you will be the wicked witch, no matter what the relationship has been like previously. That is just human nature. If he is not there to back you up, it will all be on you.

[Kay B]

Originally Posted by dizzyde

The only thing with this approach (which I don't disagree with) is if you do confront the family member and they do nothing to change, if you subsequently make an anon report to the county agency, it is probably going to be pretty apparent where the complaint came from.

I guess it depends on how much you need to keep peace with this person. Either way, based on what you have said, I don't think you are overreacting, and I do think for the sake of your conscience, and for the sake of the elderly relative, you need to do something. IMO.

Sad. This happens here also a lot. Here they are more likely to believe it if there is documentation of neglect/abuse of the victim.
I will be praying for you concerning this situation sister.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Thank you...when I mentioned the situation to my mom (she's been a cna for years) she told me that it is abuse.

The biggest problem I see is that the person we will be confronting is my MIL....

Yikes!!! Good luck with that one!!