Advice to my son

[Baron1710]

My son is currently dealing with a tough situation that has tested him pretty seriously.

This is a portion of my advice to him:


Relax. Do what you can do, control what you can control and when others make a donkey out of themselves you can stand tall knowing you contributed your best. Learn from the situation, know what it means to be a true leader. Positional authority is fleeting those who revel in it will soon find that true leadership trumps position. Learn to lead without a title or a position and when you do have either of those, remember what it felt like to have a leader in name only.

Lead with your attitude as well as your actions, both are vitally important to a leader. Positional authority requires neither right motives nor right actions because their authority is in their title, leadership requires both. Be a leader.

Learn the difference between the confidence of a leader and the arrogance of a manipulator with a title. Leadership will always win out in time. Positional authority can easily be obtained and just as easily lost, leadership requires hard work and dedication everyday and when the day is over you answer to God and your conscience.

Just a reminder...

"If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;...

...If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son! "

Rudyard Kipling

Learn from the situation, become better from it or you will become bitter.