Last month, our nephew was on the verge of being homeless and making hints our way. I don't know where he is or what he is doing now. Last week, my brother became homeless and a hoopla with my parents ensued. All of us are on the same page with it....he needs to quit drinking and no one is helping him. And then, a couple of days ago, my brother-in law wrote wanting a 3 hour ride one way to a "job"....he is homeless on a pretty regular basis and might be now. We usually don't do much of anything for any of these three but it sure gets to be a drain. I wonder what it would be like to have normal brothers, brothers-in-law. I am just left shaking my head sometimes.
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Well, they say trouble comes in "three's"... so, maybe your troubles are done for a while...
Seriously, I feel your pain. I have family members with issues as well, not exactly the same as yours though, but it is so sad because of the hurt that it causes within families because of one person's bad choices.
I will be continuing to pray for you and your family!
Well, they say trouble comes in "three's"... so, maybe your troubles are done for a while...
Seriously, I feel your pain. I have family members with issues as well, not exactly the same as yours though, but it is so sad because of the hurt that it causes within families because of one person's bad choices.
I will be continuing to pray for you and your family!
Thanks, KBTW, it gets very draining.
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Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the people doing it. ~Chinese Proverb
When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
Sorry for the stressful situation with your relatives, ILG. Praying for you and your family.
On a lighter note, my daughter was so impressed by a homeless person's ingenuity, that she gave him some money.
Most of the homeless in her city stand around holding various signs.
This particular homeless man was standing at the corner holding up his arms with NO sign. She thought that was so clever, she decided he needed to get paid for that.
one of the least helpful things you can do for someone who is hurting themselves is to "help them"
it aint help. Its enabling. I have a cousin who his 50 and is a completely drug/alcohol addicted drain on society. He needs to go to jail so he can be saved.
when he was young and started in the wrong direction family members kept getting him out of trouble and keeping him from having to deal with the results of his behavior.
now he is utterly useless.
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one of the least helpful things you can do for someone who is hurting themselves is to "help them"
it aint help. Its enabling.
It's called "tough love", and it is indeed extremely tough. It is hard on families to just let their loved ones disintegrate, hurting themselves, and others. Sometimes tough love works, sometimes it doesn't. We must be brave enough to put them in the hands of the Lord. I do think that jail time can help someone in this kind of situation, but, it can also make them much worse, and more dangerous. We have a nephew in this situation, jail time has caused him to become more hard, more dangerous, and more of a threat to the general public. He should be locked up, and the key thrown away, instead, he is getting out in October
It's called "tough love", and it is indeed extremely tough. It is hard on families to just let their loved ones disintegrate, hurting themselves, and others. Sometimes tough love works, sometimes it doesn't. We must be brave enough to put them in the hands of the Lord. I do think that jail time can help someone in this kind of situation, but, it can also make them much worse, and more dangerous. We have a nephew in this situation, jail time has caused him to become more hard, more dangerous, and more of a threat to the general public. He should be locked up, and the key thrown away, instead, he is getting out in October
Lock your doors!
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Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the people doing it. ~Chinese Proverb
When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
ILG 
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