When your own wife and kids call you, Pastor

JamesGlen · #1 06-04-2019, 12:50 PM

Is that kinda weird, when while meeting with the church, the wife and children commonly, if not always, refer to their husband and dad, (The church pastor), as “pastor “? (Instead of dad, or honey or whatever)

Maybe it’s a common thing, I’m not sure, I just noticed it the last few months. Seems kinda strange to me.

Other denoms?

I mean when I think about ithe biblical nt church of the scriptures, I’m thinking Peters wife or kids did not call him apostle or pastor....maybe I’m amiss though.

diakonos · #2 06-04-2019, 07:15 PM

Maybe only around other believers?

JamesGlen · #3 06-04-2019, 07:40 PM

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Originally Posted by diakonos

Maybe only around other believers?

I’m confident that is correct.

Still seems strange to me.

diakonos · #4 06-04-2019, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by JamesGlen

I’m confident that is correct.

Still seems strange to me.

Yeah, I’ve never seen it done.

Sherri · #5 06-06-2019, 07:52 AM

I call my pastor/husband Eddie wen talking to other adults.
Excerpt around kids, then I say Pastor Eddie so they will learn to.

TK Burk · #6 06-06-2019, 01:00 PM

I had one pastor tell me he'd rather have his kids think of him as their pastor than their dad. I was shocked.

I have never enjoyed being called "pastor." I much prefer "Brother" being used before my name. I see it this way:

I introduce my self by the name "Tom Burk" because that's who I am.

My parents called me "son" because that's who I am.

My wife introduces me as "Husband" because that's who I am.

My kids call me "Dad" because that's who I am.

But "Pastor" is not who I am--it's what I do.

So, to me, calling a person "pastor" is like calling others in the church names like "housewife." "Fireman," "waitress," store clerk," retiree," or whatever else they do. Such names are titles or descriptions of what they do, not names of who they are.

navygoat1998 · #7 06-07-2019, 06:27 AM

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Originally Posted by TK Burk

I had one pastor tell me he'd rather have his kids think of him as their pastor than their dad. I was shocked.

I have never enjoyed being called "pastor." I much prefer "Brother" being used before my name. I see it this way:

I introduce my self by the name "Tom Burk" because that's who I am.

My parents called me "son" because that's who I am.

My wife introduces me as "Husband" because that's who I am.

My kids call me "Dad" because that's who I am.

But "Pastor" is not who I am--it's what I do.

So, to me, calling a person "pastor" is like calling others in the church names like "housewife." "Fireman," "waitress," store clerk," retiree," or whatever else they do. Such names are titles or descriptions of what they do, not names of who they are.

Good call Brother Burk!

Apostolic1ness · #8 06-07-2019, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by TK Burk

I had one pastor tell me he'd rather have his kids think of him as their pastor than their dad. I was shocked.

I have never enjoyed being called "pastor." I much prefer "Brother" being used before my name. I see it this way:

I introduce my self by the name "Tom Burk" because that's who I am.

My parents called me "son" because that's who I am.

My wife introduces me as "Husband" because that's who I am.

My kids call me "Dad" because that's who I am.

But "Pastor" is not who I am--it's what I do.

So, to me, calling a person "pastor" is like calling others in the church names like "housewife." "Fireman," "waitress," store clerk," retiree," or whatever else they do. Such names are titles or descriptions of what they do, not names of who they are.

IMHO If your "what" doesn't become your "who" in God's kingdom then your "what" is not subject to "who" God called you to be.

Dad is what you became when you had kids.
Husband is what you became when you got married.
If these titles became a "who" based on certain conditions, then Pastor is "who" you became based on the same premise.

hometown guy · #9 06-07-2019, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Apostolic1ness

IMHO If your "what" doesn't become your "who" in God's kingdom then your "what" is not subject to "who" God called you to be.

Dad is what you became when you had kids.
Husband is what you became when you got married.
If these titles became a "who" based on certain conditions, then Pastor is "who" you became based on the same premise.

I agree. Don’t see the logic of the difference in the “ dad “ and “pastor” example.

Evang.Benincasa · #10 06-07-2019, 06:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TK Burk

I had one pastor tell me he'd rather have his kids think of him as their pastor than their dad. I was shocked.

I have never enjoyed being called "pastor." I much prefer "Brother" being used before my name. I see it this way:

I introduce my self by the name "Tom Burk" because that's who I am.

My parents called me "son" because that's who I am.

My wife introduces me as "Husband" because that's who I am.

My kids call me "Dad" because that's who I am.

But "Pastor" is not who I am--it's what I do.

So, to me, calling a person "pastor" is like calling others in the church names like "housewife." "Fireman," "waitress," store clerk," retiree," or whatever else they do. Such names are titles or descriptions of what they do, not names of who they are.

I want to be known as shy and timid.