I am seeing a lawyer, sadly

[Originalist]

My father passed away back in June. Some months before he died I found out my older sister was pressuring him to cut me out of the will.

My wife, girls and myself moved in with Dad in November of 2016 after we sold my late mom's place which my sister and I also jointly owned. She was ready for a change and wanted to move to Colorado. She had been living with my Dad . When she left, we had nowhere to go but to his house. For 18 months all 4 of us lived in one bedroom with a closet that leaked when it rained. Thus much of our stuff was in plastic containers. My sister decided to use her room for storage instead of vacating it. She had already taken over my dad's two large storage sheds for more of her stuff. I had to buy my own shed.

My sister left for Colorado and completely bombed. She came back to Florida expecting us to move out of my dad's place. This year I had a blown knee requiring surgery and months recovery. I also had the shingles and I was hospitlized with a tick bite. I could not work until September. But none of things phased my sister. She simply lacks empathy. When we refused to leave my dad's house, she moved in with our half sister.

Long story short, she was really twisting dad's arm to cut us from the will when he suddenly died. His body was not even room tempertature when she was out trying to find witnesses that would cooberate her story that dad "intended" to change his will. I have kept my mouth shut, never letting on that I knew what she had been up to. My dad supplemented 30% of her income her entire adult life (she is 54). I took a total of 300 dollars from my dad my entire adult life. She was trying to convince my dad that my wife was plotting to divorce me and give our property to her family. This was a complete lie and has destroyed their relationship.

The other day I approached my sister about buying out her half of the estate. She turned me down on the basis that she is a single woman,does not want a mortgage, cannot afford rent, and does not want the debt of a student loan to improve herself. Thus, she expects us to move out and essentially let her live there while this 1937 home crumbles around her. Of course she will never buy me out, but would expect me to keep the place up. She owes me several thousand dollars from renovations I did on my mom's place. I was counting on her giving me a good deal on her half of dad's place as a way to pay me back. She has illegally removed documents from the premises. I am the executor and nothing is to be removed without my consent. Today I will be seeing an attorney about legal options. Sadly, I will have to use threats of legal action over her owing me money and the removal of documents as leverage.

Your prayers and input are desired.

[CC1]

Hmmm.....so maybe being an only child was not a bad thing! My adult children are so close I can't imagine this kind of relationship between siblings. As an only child it is something I never had to deal with but I always wanted a brother or sister when I was young.

[Esaias]

Originally Posted by Originalist

My father passed away back in June. Some months before he died I found out my older sister was pressuring him to cut me out of the will.

My wife, girls and myself moved in with Dad in November of 2016 after we sold my late mom's place which my sister and I also jointly owned. She was ready for a change and wanted to move to Colorado. She had been living with my Dad . When she left, we had nowhere to go but to his house. For 18 months all 4 of us lived in one bedroom with a closet that leaked when it rained. Thus much of our stuff was in plastic containers. My sister decided to use her room for storage instead of vacating it. She had already taken over my dad's two large storage sheds for more of her stuff. I had to buy my own shed.

My sister left for Colorado and completely bombed. She came back to Florida expecting us to move out of my dad's place. This year I had a blown knee requiring surgery and months recovery. I also had the shingles and I was hospitlized with a tick bite. I could not work until September. But none of things phased my sister. She simply lacks empathy. When we refused to leave my dad's house, she moved in with our half sister.

Long story short, she was really twisting dad's arm to cut us from the will when he suddenly died. His body was not even room tempertature when she was out trying to find witnesses that would cooberate her story that dad "intended" to change his will. I have kept my mouth shut, never letting on that I knew what she had been up to. My dad supplemented 30% of her income her entire adult life (she is 54). I took a total of 300 dollars from my dad my entire adult life. She was trying to convince my dad that my wife was plotting to divorce me and give our property to her family. This was a complete lie and has destroyed their relationship.

The other day I approached my sister about buying out her half of the estate. She turned me down on the basis that she is a single woman,does not want a mortgage, cannot afford rent, and does not want the debt of a student loan to improve herself. Thus, she expects us to move out and essentially let her live there while this 1937 home crumbles around her. Of course she will never buy me out, but would expect me to keep the place up. She owes me several thousand dollars from renovations I did on my mom's place. I was counting on her giving me a good deal on her half of dad's place as a way to pay me back. She has illegally removed documents from the premises. I am the executor and nothing is to be removed without my consent. Today I will be seeing an attorney about legal options. Sadly, I will have to use threats of legal action over her owing me money and the removal of documents as leverage.

Your prayers and input are desired.

Buy a couple deer cameras to record any activity (day or night, they have cheap IR photo and video capacity). Get a restraining order. Begin executing the estate (as executor, that's your job). If there is no will, and you are the executor, then it seems you have all the cards. If your attorney doesn't make that clear, GET ANOTHER ATTORNEY.

Oh, and file early, whatever you intend to file. Early bird gets the worm. Especially in court.

[Amanah]

Originally Posted by Esaias

Buy a couple deer cameras to record any activity (day or night, they have cheap IR photo and video capacity). Get a restraining order. Begin executing the estate (as executor, that's your job). If there is no will, and you are the executor, then it seems you have all the cards. If your attorney doesn't make that clear, GET ANOTHER ATTORNEY.

Oh, and file early, whatever you intend to file. Early bird gets the worm. Especially in court.