1 Corinthians 14:1 says to follow love and desire spiritual gifts.
We are to seek to be used by God in the Spirit.
Fruit of the Spirit:
Galatians 5:16 This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. 18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. 19 Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, 20 Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, 21 Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, 23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. 24 And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
The fruit of the Spirit are contrasted with the works of the flesh. A life yielded to the flesh is characterised by adultery, fornication, idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, strife, heresies (sects), envyings, drunkenness, revellings (partying), etc.
Those who do such things are lost.
In contrast to that, the life yielded to the Spirit is characterized by love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, etc.
Those who belong to Christ have put to death the flesh with its desires.
I would suggest one does not necessarily need to be 'taught how to have gentleness, goodness, meekness' etc - they are FRUIT - the natural result of the Spirit's control of a person's life. Paul is helping to identify those who have been truly converted and those who have not been. Those truly converted with bear the fruit he speaks of. Those who have not been will be doing the works of the flesh.
These lists are not exhaustive, but exemplary.
The teaching one needs is to be taught to surrender to God and crucify the flesh by faith, allowing the Spirit to sanctify your life. The fruit of the Spirit is a checklist of sorts, allowing you to see where you are in relation to the will of the Father.