My son is currently dealing with a tough situation that has tested him pretty seriously.
This is a portion of my advice to him:
Relax. Do what you can do, control what you can control and when others make a donkey out of themselves you can stand tall knowing you contributed your best. Learn from the situation, know what it means to be a true leader. Positional authority is fleeting those who revel in it will soon find that true leadership trumps position. Learn to lead without a title or a position and when you do have either of those, remember what it felt like to have a leader in name only.
Lead with your attitude as well as your actions, both are vitally important to a leader. Positional authority requires neither right motives nor right actions because their authority is in their title, leadership requires both. Be a leader.
Learn the difference between the confidence of a leader and the arrogance of a manipulator with a title. Leadership will always win out in time. Positional authority can easily be obtained and just as easily lost, leadership requires hard work and dedication everyday and when the day is over you answer to God and your conscience.
Just a reminder...
"If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;...
...If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run -
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And - which is more - you'll be a Man my son! "
Rudyard Kipling
Learn from the situation, become better from it or you will become bitter.
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"Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow." ~Aesop
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
The hardest lesson for the young is that time is on thier side. Almost any situation they may find themselves in will improve with time. if a young person can learn that time is their friend, a lot of angst can be avoided.
No matter what the situation. no matter what the issue is, be right in your spirit, right in yoiur attitude, and right in your action.
and even if things dont turn out the way you want, everyone will notice the guy who maintined personal integrity.
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The hardest lesson for the young is that time is on thier side. Almost any situation they may find themselves in will improve with time. if a young person can learn that time is their friend, a lot of angst can be avoided.
No matter what the situation. no matter what the issue is, be right in your spirit, right in yoiur attitude, and right in your action.
and even if things dont turn out the way you want, everyone will notice the guy who maintined personal integrity.
Yep. And the thing is a year from now this won't matter a bit, but the lessons he can learn from them could last a lifetime. Learn the lesson move on to bigger lessons, fail and you get to retake the class over.
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"Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow." ~Aesop
I think it's cool that you're able to inspire your son.
I hope that I can take the lessons I have learned and let him start a lap up in the race of life. Somethings you have to learn for yourself other things you can learn from others. I hope he will take advantage of the lessons I have learned.
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"Beware lest you lose the substance by grasping at the shadow." ~Aesop
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