Wow.....I Found this Shocking and Sad

rgcraig · #1 05-28-2010, 12:16 PM

You really want to believe that we've made progress along the prejudice/racial lines, but I've decided we haven't.

Our company is extremely PC focused (politically correct - not Pentecostal church).

In one of my departments, I have two employees and they are people of color. A new employee with IT has come aboard and has tried to stir things up in that department and basically she's trying to take over. She is also a person of color.

Both employees had complained about the trouble she was giving them.

I had a "come to Jesus" meeting with her and told her to back off my employees and do her job. She thanked me for the meeting and said that just that morning she had prayed that God would show her what she was doing wrong.

THEN.....she went to one of my employees and read her the right act - mad and upset that she came to me with the problems. She even called her a skank and said she had thought of ways to get back at her, but decided not to.
She didn't think the male employee would complain (but he did too).

When I talked with my two employees about this situation, the male employee asked if he could be upfront with me. I said absolutely - it's all about candor.

He said, the reason she is so upset that we told you what she was doing and you talked to her about it is because she thought since we are all three people of color that we'd be her homies and stick with her. She never thought we'd come tell our white manager.

I WAS FLOORED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sad thing, I think he's right.

Elizabeth · #2 05-28-2010, 12:30 PM

Renda,
That must have been eye opening. I guess we take certain things like not being prejudice to go both ways for granted. Looks like on one end a certain code of ethics is expected, but not necessarily returned from the one expected to be treated a certain way. So some expect not to be prejudice against but that same person will turn around and practice prejudice ways and think it is fine.

rgcraig · #3 05-28-2010, 12:32 PM

It's a completely different world in the south.

Sarah · #4 05-28-2010, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

It's a completely different world in the south.

Yes....COMPLETELY different!

tamor · #5 05-28-2010, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by rgcraig

It's a completely different world in the south.

Yes it is Renda. And I have heard those same kind of comments myself.

allstate1 · #6 05-28-2010, 01:58 PM

10 years of working in black funeral home and I have lost count of the times I have heard " I dont want no white man touching me" !

notofworks · #7 05-28-2010, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by allstate1

10 years of working in black funeral home and I have lost count of the times I have heard " I dont want no white man touching me" !

Yeah!!!! Let's run all o' them people outta this country!!! I'm tellin' ya what, them-ere black people just mistreat us whites, after all the nice things we done for'em!!!!! I just can't understand why them people ain't more grateful!!

Jermyn Davidson · #8 05-28-2010, 02:29 PM

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Originally Posted by notofworks

Yeah!!!! Let's run all o' them people outta this country!!! I'm tellin' ya what, them-ere black people just mistreat us whites, after all the nice things we done for'em!!!!! I just can't understand why them people ain't more grateful!!

Bro,

There is not an excuse for ignorance like Renda described-- not an excuse for anyone, regardless of their color.

At times, the people who have PERSONALLY given me the most heartache and grief have been hispanic and black people.

Some people, regardless of their color, just don't know how to carry themselves in a professionally acceptable manner.

If this person was my supervisor, I would have told her boss about her ignorance too.

rgcraig · #9 05-28-2010, 02:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

Bro,

There is not an excuse for ignorance like Renda described-- not an excuse for anyone, regardless of their color.

At times, the people who have PERSONALLY given me the most heartache and grief have been hispanic and black people.

Some people, regardless of their color, just don't know how to carry themselves in a professionally acceptable manner.

If this person was my supervisor, I would have told her boss about her ignorance too.

She's been here two months and has already had two reports to HR (on her).

This person isn't anyone's supervisor either.

rgcraig · #10 05-28-2010, 02:35 PM

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Originally Posted by notofworks

Yeah!!!! Let's run all o' them people outta this country!!! I'm tellin' ya what, them-ere black people just mistreat us whites, after all the nice things we done for'em!!!!! I just can't understand why them people ain't more grateful!!

You're off on this one.

Until this came up, I didn't even realize I was dealing with three people of color - - I just don't look at things in that way.