Spiritual Co-dendency in the churches?

COOPER · #1 03-09-2007, 08:00 AM

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Co-Dependency is an unhealthy reliance on another person for every thought, action, and feeling. It consists of people who seem to be defined by another other person. One person relies so much on another person’s opinion -- that the daily functions they once had as an individual are lost. That individual is no longer capable of making his or her own choices.

A person who is co-dependant is constantly striving to please another person and have made them selves so self-less that they begin to lose who they are. Their life becomes a sacrifice for another person.

A person who is co-dependant ceases to be them self and becomes part of two. A person’s want for someone else in their life is overcome with the need to have someone else in their life in order to function. The person feels the need to spend every waking moment thinking about that other person, being with them, talking to them, or thinking of ways to make that person happier.

Are you Co-dependent to your Pastor and Church?

Rhoni · #2 03-09-2007, 08:02 AM

I have had probelms with co-dependency in the past but more as a Pastor's wife...I think Apostolic circles tend to unknowingly promote co-dependency...

COOPER · #3 03-09-2007, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

I have had problems with co-dependency in the past but more as a Pastor's wife...I think Apostolic circles tend to unknowingly promote co-dependency...

Oh, Thank you so much for your honesty.

Admin: Would you please correct my mis-spelling of Spiritual in the thread header?

Please and thank you.

Digging4Truth · #4 03-09-2007, 08:46 AM

I used to have real issues with co-dependency. I was the quintessential "yes man".

I am in the midst of a long process of "finding my own" in the word and in the body of Christ.

What I believe now I believe from fervent study and prayer. I do my best to show honor to those who don't agree with what I have seen and I also work hard to hear what they have to say because I certainly don't know everything and I try to be fully open in weighing again any doctrine I hold if someone comes to me with a differing opinion that is based on the word of God.

There are great advantages to being where I am now. There are great costs to being where I am now.

The advantages.
I have never been so in love with my God as I am now.
I have never felt so alive in my life of living for Him.
I have never had the word fill me with such excitement and awe.
I have never felt so strong.
I have never felt so free.
I have never had such a deep level of relationship with God as I have now.
I have never felt such hope that I can really reach this world.

The costs
I have never felt so alienated by the people of the church.
I have never felt like such an outsider.
I have lost the identity I used to have and am having to form a new one and this process is scary beyond explanation.

But... as I find my new place in this world I am confident of 2 things.

The rewards will far outweigh the costs.
I am going to reach more people with this message of salvation, grace, mercy & hope than I could have ever imagined.

But I will state... I am wildly co-dependent on my God and His Word and I have no desire to seek a cure.

Ferd · #5 03-09-2007, 08:49 AM

no

mizpeh · #6 03-09-2007, 09:04 AM

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But I will state... I am wildly co-dependent on my God and His Word and I have no desire to seek a cure.

Diggin, I really like this last bit. God bless you richly as you in your search for truth.

COOPER · #7 03-09-2007, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

I used to have real issues with co-dependency. I was the quintessential "yes man".

I am in the midst of a long process of "finding my own" in the word and in the body of Christ.

What I believe now I believe from fervent study and prayer. I do my best to show honor to those who don't agree with what I have seen and I also work hard to hear what they have to say because I certainly don't know everything and I try to be fully open in weighing again any doctrine I hold if someone comes to me with a differing opinion that is based on the word of God.

There are great advantages to being where I am now. There are great costs to being where I am now.

The advantages.
I have never been so in love with my God as I am now.
I have never felt so alive in my life of living for Him.
I have never had the word fill me with such excitement and awe.
I have never felt so strong.
I have never felt so free.
I have never had such a deep level of relationship with God as I have now.
I have never felt such hope that I can really reach this world.

The costs
I have never felt so alienated by the people of the church.
I have never felt like such an outsider.
I have lost the identity I used to have and am having to form a new one and this process is scary beyond explanation.

But... as I find my new place in this world I am confident of 2 things.

The rewards will far outweigh the costs.
I am going to reach more people with this message of salvation, grace, mercy & hope than I could have ever imagined.

But I will state... I am wildly co-dependent on my God and His Word and I have no desire to seek a cure.

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