10 Rules for Helping the Sick

OneAccord · #1 11-30-2007, 08:42 PM

Help me finish this:

1. Don't make me have to ask for help. This makes me feel dependent, like I'm a burden on you. If you want to help, just look around... theres plenty to do.

2. Don't say you will, then don't. Nothing is so discouraging as to depend on someones promise, only to have them to fail to follow through.

3. Think. Infections, viruses and germs are my biggest threat. A 20 second use of hand sanitizer just might help me to live a long time. Got a cold, been exposed to the flu? DON'T VISIT... a phone call is much better.

4. Visits are welcome everyday, not just the day I come home from the hospital. Short visits are better, I tire easily. Can't visit? A phone call every now and then would be nice.

5. I'm sorry for your loved ones sickness. But mine is different. The medicine they were on may not work for me. Just because they were sick and passed away, doesn't mean I will. Depression is my enemy. Don't add to my depression by comparing me to your deceased loved one.

6. My caregiver may need a break every now and then. They are now trying to live two lives. Mine and theirs. Why not volunteer to come by and give them a break....I'd enjoy your company.

Ideas?? Thanks, you don't know how much this will help.

freeatlast · #2 11-30-2007, 08:52 PM

Remember the kindest "well person" when struggling with a serious illness will lash out at the ones that are closest to them.

OneAccord · #3 11-30-2007, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast

Remember the kindest "well person" when struggling with a serious illness will lash out at the ones that are closest to them.

Thats very true, FreeAtLast. Thanks!

OneAccord · #4 11-30-2007, 09:01 PM

Don't tell me my sickness is my fault because I lack faith or there is sin in my life. I believe in God as much as you do, and I try to live as good as I know how to live. Besides, I already have enough guilt. I am sick just because I am sick.

freeatlast · #5 11-30-2007, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by OneAccord

Don't tell me my sickness is my fault because I lack faith or there is sin in my life. I believe in God as much as you do, and I try to live as good as I know how to live. Besides, I already have enough guilt. I am sick just because I am sick.

Oh my word OA !! You brought back a memory.

We went thru cnacer with my 17 yr old daughter.

We had recently left a church and went to other church in our area.

The church we left was one of those that you just could'nt leave. They practice shunning.

Our hearts were allready hurting when we heard that this was thought by some of our old friends. That God was somehow punishing us for changing churches (both upc BTW)

People that stupid should just stay away from any one who is sick.

Also OA your first 6 rules are right on the money.

ILG · #6 11-30-2007, 09:13 PM

Looks like some good rules!

OneAccord · #7 11-30-2007, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast

Oh my word OA !! You brought back a memory.

We went thru cnacer with my 17 yr old daughter.

We had recently left a church and went to other church in our area.

The church we left was one of those that you just could'nt leave. They practice shunning.

Our hearts were allready hurting when we heard that this was thought by some of our old friends. That God was somehow punishing us for changing churches (both upc BTW)

People that stupid should just stay away from any one who is sick.

Also OA your first 6 rules are right on the money.

I'm sorry for what you went thru with your daughter. And for how you were treated. Its a shame how mis-guided some people are. And its a fact that people will stand in judgement for how they treated people and/or drove them away. I'm writing these rules because everyone of them (including yours) has applied in our situation. I guess I'm just trying in my simple way to teach people the RIGHT way to really help someone with serious illness. Thanks for your imput.

I just might have to change this to "20 rules for helping the sick".

freeatlast · #8 11-30-2007, 09:31 PM

We taught a course on this to our church about a year ago.

It also about how to be of help and comfort to someone who has lost a loved one.

It would be a good bible study night series for any church to learn these things.

Thanks for posting this thread oneaccord.

I know you are in a "rough patch" right now. Know that we are praying for you.

OneAccord · #9 11-30-2007, 09:42 PM

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Originally Posted by freeatlast

We taught a course on this to our church about a year ago.

It also about how to be of help and comfort to someone who has lost a loved one.

It would be a good bible study night series for any church to learn these things.

Thanks for posting this thread oneaccord.

I know you are in a "rough patch" right now. Know that we are praying for you.

Thanks for your prayers. I had a man tell me a few weeks ago to bring my wife to his church so he could cast the devil out of her. He actually told me she was possessed of the devil. The fact is, he's never laid eyes on my wife. You KNOW I went to his church.....NOT!