****(((Sister Beezer's Story)))****

[Thad]

*** YOU MUST READ THIS !! ***

If you haven't done so, please take the time to read this :
In All the 5+ years I have been on the forum, never have a read a worse case of church abuse! this moved me like no other post i've ever read.


Originally posted-Sis.Beezer:
wow i have been reading this thread for almost an hour now, it is incredible. and i was beginning to think i was one of the only ones who had been through such a mess. i was in two different churches like this. believe me, they are very real and very abusive.

the first church i was in, here are some of the rules:
1) no one under any circumstance could wear the color red, or own anything that was red, no red cars, nothing
2) i was not married by the time i moved to this church, so i was required to give the pastor, keys to my house, my car, he had his name put on my bank account. single women could not even run to the grocery store alone.
3) besides the normal you cant cut your hair rule, they had it, if you were 14 or under you were required to wear your hair down. no pony tails, no bows, no clips, nothing. after 14 you were required to wear your hair up at all times until you married. then you could wear your hair down, only in the presence of your spouse. only thing allowed in your hair was bobby pins. not even hair spray was allowed.
4) you could not purchase anything or take a job without the pastors approval and when you first move there or join that church, if he didnt like your job, or home or car, you were forced to change it, imediately.
5) under no circumstances was a single person allowed to have any visitor in their home unless it was same sexed relatives. i was under constant watch because i was a single mother with two sons. he at one point tried to force me to move my sons out of my home, because he said it did not look right for boys to live with a single lady (omg i was their mother!)
6) no sports were allowed at all for anyone at any time. you couldnt even go in your own yard and play catch with your own children and heaven forbid if you shot a basket!
7) they allowed no dating at all. if a guy liked a girl, he met with the pastor for a year, then the pastor went to the girls parents if he approved, and told them that he had her husband. then the marriage was planned between the pastor and parents. after marriage, he said when they could have children and when they couldnt.

i could go on but i am sure this one post wouldnt hold it all. sigh the next church was just as bad, almost the same rules stated applied, plus a few new ones

1) no electronic devices were allowed, no tv, no cell phone, no computer, no radio, no MICROWAVES even, we were required to use wind up alarm clocks even!!
2) if you wanted to go out to eat after a service, you were only allowed to go with your immediate family, and had to order it to take home.
3) under no circumstance were you ever allowed to visit another church, OF ANY KIND! i made the mistake of visiting a revival that a friend from work was going to at her church, and they were apostolic! i wont say what i went through over that one.
4) we were not allowed to go to any kind of doctor, dentist or anyone in the medical profession, no medication is allowed at any time, not so much as an asprin.

anyways the list is endless. what made me finally leave and never go back was, one night around 3am, the pastor came into my home, i was in bed asleep as was my youngest son, he was 15 at the time. the pastor drug my son out of his bed, with the help of four other elders, they took him out into the street into the church building that was across the street and beat him from head to toe. when i asked as to why this was happening, i was told that God told him that my son was watching porn on a tv hidden in his closet! there was no tv anywhere in my home at the time, for we were not allowed any electronics.

this is very real, and there are so many that are being spiritually abused at the hands of so called pastors. if you have not experience this you need to thank God that he protected you, but for many this is very real and very damaging. dont look down on those who leave the churches all together because of this. these kinds of abuses are the worst. its one thing to be abused by friends or family, but when you are abused by your pastor and church it does something that is not easily healed. its easy to sit and pass judgement on us, but until you have walked in our shoes you have no idea just how deep this pain goes.

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

I have been involved in a series of PM's with SisBeezer since seeing the thread title trying to see if this was the SisBeezer we knew from so long ago. We have worried, prayed and wondered where she was and how she was doing for years now.

My wife and I were friends with SisBeezer nearly a decade ago when she was going through some of what has been mentioned here.

She made a move to another place that promised help but it was a "frying pan into the fire" scenario and prayed very seriously for her and her family.

I know other people who have come from the same church and the stories being told here are par for the course for the place where she was.

The church this sister attended wasn't your average abuse situation. It was far and above anything I have ever heard from any other place in my life.

Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Yes I am... she is a very dear friend of mine The accounts given here are true and I have been a friend to her for years and will continue to be that... I am with everyone else... I know we all do it but for once I wish we could do a little more reading before we go to sayin.... oh this couldnt have happened! I know her and some others who have had these type things happen and its not near as rare as we would like to think!

[Thad]

HERE IS WHAT I'm ASKING.....


Sis Beezer is going to come and post and give more details of what has gone on and where she is today.


I'm asking the forum to please lend your support for this lady. give her some advice, let's try to help and restore her.


she has let me know that she is still hurting - let's show her what this forum can do !





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[Thad]

Sis Beezer, where are now ??


how did you escape from this ?? who helped you finally get away from the tyrant ??


how is your son? how has he adjusted ???



are you attending any church ? where do you stand spiritually at this point in your life /

[Scott Hutchinson]

My simple advice is this man can and often fails but Jesus Christ will never fail us.Also don't forsake Oneness and Jesus Name just because some Whackos crept in among the First Century truth.

[Thad]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

My simple advice is this man can and often fails but Jesus Christ will never fail us.Also don't forsake Oneness and Jesus Name just because some Whackos crept in among the First Century truth.

Very good scott

[rgcraig]

Sis Breezer,

Do you have a good church to attend now? I hope that you have people around you that can encourage you and help you get past all this.

If you need contacts of someone in your area that you can trust, I'm sure there are many on here that can help find someone.

Originally Posted by Thad

Sis Beezer, where are now ??

how did you escape from this ?? who helped you finally get away from the tyrant ??

the only way i was able to get away from them was to run to another state in the middle of the night. i had to stay in hiding for almost two years, and for almost four years they kept finding me.

how is your son? how has he adjusted ???

sadly to say, no my son never got over all this, in fact neither of them did. there was so much more that i never mentioned that we went through, you have to keep in mind, this was a 6 year ordeal. my son the youngest one that was beaten by the pastor is now in prison. and hates God, church people with a passion. my oldest son, is now a satanist and thanks church folks for showing him the way, (as he puts it, not my words)

are you attending any church ? where do you stand spiritually at this point in your life

sadly to say, no i do not attend church as of yet. although i have tried many times, and miss being in church, i go a few services, and then am overcome by so much hurt, pain, grief, anger, i end up leaving.

where i stand spiritually fluctuates from day to day or week to week. in my heart i know this was NOT Gods doings, but on a daily walk its hard to make my head belive it.

[Scott Hutchinson]

Originally Posted by Thad

Very good scott

Thanks ,I know people who were in churches that had probelms and they left and went to a non-pentecostal or a Trinity church which I never could tell people to do.

Even though sometimes leadership has gotten abusive which is sad, what the early church taught is always the truth.

[Scott Hutchinson]

Even though this man erred ,naming his name here won't be edifying to the cause of Christ.

well at this point, its far easier to go to a trinity church than a oneness, since i have known nothing but trouble in oneness churches. so my question would be, is it better to never go to any church than not go to a oneness church?