ok, I'll bite! It's 2am and I am wide awake and bored... Now for the question..
I would definitely say I am harder on myself than others.... Not that I put myself down and think that I can't ever get things right... Nope.
Let's see if I can wade thru a fuzzy brain and put this in words....few words!
I don't like being "harder" on other people. I may think that someone may need to step it up a notch in certain areas, but I too quickly reminded of my own short comings.
I would say that the only place where I am harder on others, would be with my children. I want so much to instill in them integrity, character and Christ like attributes that I am hard on them. (in that motherly way) For example: One of my children was extremely upset with a neighbor's child. He was so mad at this child and was soo close to losing his temper. He came in to talk about it and while we were talking, alot of hurts begin to come out. Not just this pesty kid next door but from kids of the past who caused a lot of pain. this was a great opportunity to speak to him about forgiveness...
SHortly after that, he had another encounter with this other kid and he came in fuming and went straight to the restroom. The next day he told me that he was sooo mad at this kid and he had to come in. He went into the restroom and begin to pray for this child. (instead of pounding him into the ground! ) My son is only 10. But at the point, we was "teaching me" because I had just let myself become "furious over past situations... It's funny because I excuse my own actions is this area but yet I see how wrong it is, and I am harder on my children about these things.
Teaching them to not let people get to you and let the past stay in the past....I need to practice that! LOL
did I say "few words" ?
Oh, and if I didn't make sense.... then um... I don't know what to say!
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ok, I'll bite! It's 2am and I am wide awake and bored... Now for the question..
I would definitely say I am harder on myself than others.... Not that I put myself down and think that I can't ever get things right... Nope.
Let's see if I can wade thru a fuzzy brain and put this in words....few words!
I don't like being "harder" on other people. I may think that someone may need to step it up a notch in certain areas, but I too quickly reminded of my own short comings.
I would say that the only place where I am harder on others, would be with my children. I want so much to instill in them integrity, character and Christ like attributes that I am hard on them. (in that motherly way) For example: One of my children was extremely upset with a neighbor's child. He was so mad at this child and was soo close to losing his temper. He came in to talk about it and while we were talking, alot of hurts begin to come out. Not just this pesty kid next door but from kids of the past who caused a lot of pain. this was a great opportunity to speak to him about forgiveness...
SHortly after that, he had another encounter with this other kid and he came in fuming and went straight to the restroom. The next day he told me that he was sooo mad at this kid and he had to come in. He went into the restroom and begin to pray for this child. (instead of pounding him into the ground! ) My son is only 10. But at the point, we was "teaching me" because I had just let myself become "furious over past situations... It's funny because I excuse my own actions is this area but yet I see how wrong it is, and I am harder on my children about these things.
Teaching them to not let people get to you and let the past stay in the past....I need to practice that! LOL
did I say "few words" ?
Oh, and if I didn't make sense.... then um... I don't know what to say!
What I heard you say is that through the years there are things we have learned and want to instill them in others/our children but often times they are things we continually struggle with.
Ok, so I think I'm going to toss some gas on this then follow that up by lighting the match.
You know what I really think? I think there is a lot of really politically correct posts in this thread. Rhoni, in all honestly I rolled my eyes at this thread. My first thought was it was way too Shrinkish. I mean it would take a licensed councilor to even come up with this crazy question.
but then I start reading the posts and all I can really think is, there sure is a bunch of folk not being really honest with themselves. Rhoni, I am sorry for my initial view. I was wrong. its a good question. Sad think is, most folk just arent being honest with either us or themselves!
PEOPLE PLEASE, there has never been a day when the majority of us have been harder on ourselves than we are on others! Get over it!
This is the nice and polite thing to say. Its politically correct to say that we give others a great pass when we hold ourselves to some high standard.
the fact is, when some idiot cuts you off in traffic, you want to dog cuss them and when you cut someone off in traffic, and they dog cuss you, you want to retaliate!
MOST of us (read almost every single one of us) are staring in our own movie and everyone else is a bit player. When OUR kids say something out of line, generally they HEARD IT FROM US but they get their little bottoms popped... (euphemistically of course)
The idiot next door doesn't cut his grass, and its and eyesore, when the idiot living in our house doesn't cut the grass, its cuz we didn't have time!
PEOPLE PLEASE, every last one of us, cuts ourselves more slack than we do those around us... All these platitudes about being longsuffering with humanity is just us doing our best to make sure the rest of the world cuts us some slack.
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ok, I'll bite! It's 2am and I am wide awake and bored... Now for the question..
I would definitely say I am harder on myself than others.... Not that I put myself down and think that I can't ever get things right... Nope.
Let's see if I can wade thru a fuzzy brain and put this in words....few words!
I don't like being "harder" on other people. I may think that someone may need to step it up a notch in certain areas, but I too quickly reminded of my own short comings.
I would say that the only place where I am harder on others, would be with my children. I want so much to instill in them integrity, character and Christ like attributes that I am hard on them. (in that motherly way) For example: One of my children was extremely upset with a neighbor's child. He was so mad at this child and was soo close to losing his temper. He came in to talk about it and while we were talking, alot of hurts begin to come out. Not just this pesty kid next door but from kids of the past who caused a lot of pain. this was a great opportunity to speak to him about forgiveness...
SHortly after that, he had another encounter with this other kid and he came in fuming and went straight to the restroom. The next day he told me that he was sooo mad at this kid and he had to come in. He went into the restroom and begin to pray for this child. (instead of pounding him into the ground! ) My son is only 10. But at the point, we was "teaching me" because I had just let myself become "furious over past situations... It's funny because I excuse my own actions is this area but yet I see how wrong it is, and I am harder on my children about these things.
Teaching them to not let people get to you and let the past stay in the past....I need to practice that! LOL
did I say "few words" ?
Oh, and if I didn't make sense.... then um... I don't know what to say!
Lady Chocolate, you are one of the few honest people posting in this thread!
KUDOS!
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the fact is, when some idiot cuts you off in traffic, you want to dog cuss them and when you cut someone off in traffic, and they dog cuss you, you want to retaliate!
MOST of us (read almost every single one of us) are staring in our own movie and everyone else is a bit player. When OUR kids say something out of line, generally they HEARD IT FROM US but they get their little bottoms popped... (euphemistically of course)
The idiot next door doesn't cut his grass, and its and eyesore, when the idiot living in our house doesn't cut the grass, its cuz we didn't have time!
PEOPLE PLEASE, every last one of us, cuts ourselves more slack than we do those around us... All these platitudes about being longsuffering with humanity is just us doing our best to make sure the rest of the world cuts us some slack.
LOL! We have tried to keep our children from name calling...BUT just yesterday, I was in a parking lot and this woman came racing down the parking lot and had I not slammed my brakes, she woulda hit me... Instantly I said, "What an idiot".... I then had to instantly tell my boys that it's not right to call names and I should not have... But I also told them, she was driving like an idiot! LOL
YOu know, people can learn form their mistakes and make life easier on everyone. I am still fairly young, (at least I think) and I was very judgemental. I would look down my nose at those who just didn't measure up. Church people, non church goers anyone.
I judged the lady who didn't dress up for church or who didn't wear the right shoes with the right clothes... I remember when all I had to wear a jean dress and khaki skirts to go to church because I had absolutely nothing. I couldn't live up to my own standards... I learned real soon to stop judging others because when I heard the judgements made on me, it really hurt...
I would judge the people of the world for the life they lived. After God took me thru some trials and made me see who I really was, I saw others thru different eyes. People in the world should have more slack from us Christians because they are trying to make life's choices with out the help from God. How sad! Their lives are empty and void and the last thing they need is for a "Christian" to expect more out of them than they do of fellow church goers!
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I never met a chocolate I didn't like!
*sigh* I did nothing yesterday.... I wasn't finished so I did nothing again today!
What I heard you say is that through the years there are things we have learned and want to instill them in others/our children but often times they are things we continually struggle with.
Did I hear you correctly?
Blessings, Rhoni
I think what I might have been trying to say is that, we are all going to struggle with different things and we need to work on them continually... We can teach others, like I teach my children, but we have to be working on those things in our own lives also..... We cannot expect others to "learn" from us if we don't practice what we preach!
I try each day. sometimes I score a big 100% ( not often) and sometimes I fail...If I am trying then I can take someone by the hand and say, "I don't have all the answers, I don't do it perfect but we can be better by helping eachother!
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