To tell or not to tell an adopted child

[Mosby48]

Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Another thing I think is very important is for the birthparents... even if you have no intentions of meeting the child ever... tell your other family... just in case... my biological parents never told a soul.... Therefore it didnt set too well with my siblings at first... they were ummmm shocked to say the least!

I went from being an only child who knew he was adopted but with no details, to being 58 with 7 half brothers and sisters!!!

[CC1]

Originally Posted by Mosby48

If you had an adopted child, would you tell them what you know about their birth parents? If so, at what stage of their lives? (I realize some adopting parents don't know much about the birth parents but let's assume you do.)

I have not read any of this thread other than the original post I am quoting here so perhaps someone else has my same idea.

I believe you should hold back the knowledge about the child being adopted until you are really, really, mad at them. Then use it by saying something like "Oh yeah? Well guess what! You are adopted!!!!!!! So I know you didn't get this kind of behaviour from me or your dad!!!!!!!!"

I am sure that this is the kind of parenting that Rhoni would affirm if she had not run off.

[Trouvere]

Truth needs to be made known but can be painful.I believe a wise praying mother and father know when to share it.Not every person who gives up a child has become a winner.Some don't want to ever know the person they
gave up.Being supportive and loving and sharing the truth in love is the key.
I have a close relative who did not find out her dad was not her biological dad until she was 24.It rocked her foundation.Thankfully she got closer to Jesus than
she ever was.