Romantic Love in 2007 - Is there hope?

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

After reading your welcome to your wife yesterday - I don't believe this for one bit! She is lucky to have found you!

LOL...

Ahhhhhhhhhh... but you haven't seen pictures.

I try very hard to be a good man... always have. But one day I found a woman who would love me for what I am & who I am.

I am, shall we say, a large man. Texas sized as my wife would say.

I never thought I would find someone I loved who would love me back. Most ladies would judge me in a second as a no-go.

But this lady... Darty.... saw me for who I was inside and chose to make her decision on that criteria. For that... she will be queen for a day every single day that I live.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

LOL...

Ahhhhhhhhhh... but you haven't seen pictures.

I try very hard to be a good man... always have. But one day I found a woman who would love me for what I am & who I am.

I am, shall we say, a large man. Texas sized as my wife would say.

I never thought I would find someone I loved who would love me back. Most ladies would judge me in a second as a no-go.

But this lady... Darty.... saw me for who I was inside and chose to make her decision on that criteria. For that... she will be queen for a day every single day that I live.

Rhoni,

Here in lies the problem with some.........they are looking for the wrong thing! This is truly romantic!!!!!!!!!

[COOPER]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

The reason for this thread is because I have been in close communication in the past couple of years with many single's [never been married] between the ages of 40-55 years old.

You would think It would be easier at this age. Maybe they need to find younger mates. Trade in that 40 for two twenties!

Originally Posted by Rhoni

The reason for this thread is because I have been in close communication in the past couple of years with many single's [never been married] between the ages of 40-55 years old.

The feeling I get from talking to them is one of hopelessness, an unbelief in the existence of romantic love, and a helplessness as to them finding the right mate, therefore they are willing to settle for people and things they would never have settled for in the past.

My question for those who really care to answer is this: Do you think this is a sign or our times? Is it unrealistic expectations? Is it that we really don't believe in true romantic...one in a million love? Do we even know how to begin our search for love, does it exist, is it a fallacy? Do you really think you could marry a number of people and be happy or is there one 'soulmate' that you should/could find?

What do you tell these who have never been married who feel that going into their late adulthood that there is hope?

Sincerely, Rhoni

You may expect less and less.

With the politically correct climate that has allowed the ever growing influence of aggressive feminism, the almost total absence of gender exclusive institutions, the emasculation of the younger white males, causing the ever deceasing number of white male role models for younger men, the absence of romantic love will continue to increase.

Little boys can no longer be little boys in today's social settings. Female teachers, female staff workers, absence of father in the home, and the continued female militancy is leaving the young white male romantically impotent.

As he turns more and more to sodomy, many of the opposite sex are turning to lesbianism feeling that they have been abandoned by the stronger sex. The traditional male role model is now held in disdain and contempt leaving the young male mind confused.

The effeminate, metro sexual are to be emulated and are held out to be role models. These effeminate men are everywhere now. You can watch t.v. except that every new anchor man, weather man, and most of those of prominent role are the very picture of effeminate.

The other side of the coin are the women that are held out as role models before the public as persons to be emulated. The likes of Katie Kurick, Barbra Walters, Barbra Boxer, Hillary Clinton, on and on are now the role models for young women who are now asserting their dominance provided for them in the atmosphere of politically correct. Meanwhile, the male ego is squashed, subjugating him to less than what God created him to be.

In the politically correct world of perversion, the incidence of the emasculated male will rise exponentially, until America has become another Sodom and Gomorrah, ripe for the swift destruction of God.

The only thing that can hinder is the church. Sadly, this same despicable worldly mind has crept in. Like a rotten apple in the barrel, the spoilage can only increase without an operation of the Holy Ghost and the preaching of the Word, to excise this spirit.

Will it happen? Sadly, no. From coast to coast, America is on fire. She is burning as she sleeps and our religious Neros are fiddling their favorite tunes, soothing their conscience, trying not to be too radical, lest they too become marginalied by their peers.

Oh, Elijah. Where art thou? Jezebel doth call for thy head. The fearful, the false, the weak, the effiminate religious leaders must be summoned to Carmel.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by The Antagonist

You may expect less and less.

With the politically correct climate that has allowed the ever growing influence of aggressive feminism, the almost total absence of gender exclusive institutions, the emasculation of the younger white males, causing the ever deceasing number of white male role models for younger men, the absence of romantic love will continue to increase.

Little boys can no longer be little boys in today's social settings. Female teachers, female staff workers, absence of father in the home, and the continued female militancy is leaving the young white male romantically impotent.

As he turns more and more to sodomy, many of the opposite sex are turning to lesbianism feeling that they have been abandoned by the stronger sex. The traditional male role model is now held in disdain and contempt leaving the young male mind confused.

The effeminate, metro sexual are to be emulated and are held out to be role models. These effeminate men are everywhere now. You can watch t.v. except that every new anchor man, weather man, and most of those of prominent role are the very picture of effeminate.

The other side of the coin are the women that are held out as role models before the public as persons to be emulated. The likes of Katie Kurick, Barbra Walters, Barbra Boxer, Hillary Clinton, on and on are now the role models for young women who are now asserting their dominance provided for them in the atmosphere of politically correct. Meanwhile, the male ego is squashed, subjugating him to less than what God created him to be.

In the politically correct world of perversion, the incidence of the emasculated male will rise exponentially, until America has become another Sodom and Gomorrah, ripe for the swift destruction of God.

The only thing that can hinder is the church. Sadly, this same despicable worldly mind has crept in. Like a rotten apple in the barrel, the spoilage can only increase without an operation of the Holy Ghost and the preaching of the Word, to excise this spirit.

Will it happen? Sadly, no. From coast to coast, America is on fire. She is burning as she sleeps and our religious Neros are fiddling their favorite tunes, soothing their conscience, trying not to be too radical, lest they too become marginalied by their peers.

Oh, Elijah. Where art thou? Jezebel doth call for thy head. The fearful, the false, the weak, the effiminate religious leaders must be summoned to Carmel.

Well, this is uplifting!

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Well, this is uplifting!

LOL

My thoughts exactly.

[TRIPLE E]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

The reason for this thread is because I have been in close communication in the past couple of years with many single's [never been married] between the ages of 40-55 years old.

The feeling I get from talking to them is one of hopelessness, an unbelief in the existence of romantic love, and a helplessness as to them finding the right mate, therefore they are willing to settle for people and things they would never have settled for in the past.

My question for those who really care to answer is this: Do you think this is a sign or our times? Is it unrealistic expectations? Is it that we really don't believe in true romantic...one in a million love? Do we even know how to begin our search for love, does it exist, is it a fallacy? Do you really think you could marry a number of people and be happy or is there one 'soulmate' that you should/could find?

What do you tell these who have never been married who feel that going into their late adulthood that there is hope?

Sincerely, Rhoni

Remind them of Abraham and Sarah!

[Ron]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Not knowing the people you know I can't say anything definite about their situation but I can say a few things in general.

1. This is a selfish generation and those who even really know what love is and how to love are few and far between. Not non-existent... just few and far between.

2. I think sometimes people who are out looking for "romantic love" are looking for some googly eyed relationship where they float around on cloud nine. That isn't romantic love. That is a dream world handed to us by books, tv etc. Romantic love is a day by day, feet on the ground, through good times & bad love for someone you are glad to have by your side. Romantic love is a friendship first and a friendship last. All the rest is just sandwiched inside the fact that, when the day is done, these 2 people just love to be with each other. THAT... my friend... after 16 years of marriage you are still excited when your best friend comes home from work... is as romantic as it gets.

3. Taking point 1 & 2 into mind I think people are looking for a forest and the trees keep getting in the way. I see so many people who are looking their soul mate in the face but just can't see it because their friend is standing there.

As I said... I can't say anything definitive for the people you speak of because I don't know them. But all too often a search for some dreamy definition of romantic love cheats people out of a life time of romance.

Romantic love is a choice you make when you find that friend (of the opposite sex, of course ) who is always by your side and you couldn't dream of doing without.

D4T spoken like a true married (in love) wise man.

I couldn't agree more.

It also is a lot of work!!!

[Felicity]

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Not knowing the people you know I can't say anything definite about their situation but I can say a few things in general.

1. This is a selfish generation and those who even really know what love is and how to love are few and far between. Not non-existent... just few and far between.

2. I think sometimes people who are out looking for "romantic love" are looking for some googly eyed relationship where they float around on cloud nine. That isn't romantic love. That is a dream world handed to us by books, tv etc. Romantic love is a day by day, feet on the ground, through good times & bad love for someone you are glad to have by your side. Romantic love is a friendship first and a friendship last. All the rest is just sandwiched inside the fact that, when the day is done, these 2 people just love to be with each other. THAT... my friend... after 16 years of marriage you are still excited when your best friend comes home from work... is as romantic as it gets.

3. Taking point 1 & 2 into mind I think people are looking for a forest and the trees keep getting in the way. I see so many people who are looking their soul mate in the face but just can't see it because their friend is standing there.

As I said... I can't say anything definitive for the people you speak of because I don't know them. But all too often a search for some dreamy definition of romantic love cheats people out of a life time of romance.

Romantic love is a choice you make when you find that friend (of the opposite sex, of course ) who is always by your side and you couldn't dream of doing without.

Really really good post!

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Rhoni

The reason for this thread is because I have been in close communication in the past couple of years with many single's [never been married] between the ages of 40-55 years old.

The feeling I get from talking to them is one of hopelessness, an unbelief in the existence of romantic love, and a helplessness as to them finding the right mate, therefore they are willing to settle for people and things they would never have settled for in the past.

My question for those who really care to answer is this: Do you think this is a sign or our times? Is it unrealistic expectations? Is it that we really don't believe in true romantic...one in a million love? Do we even know how to begin our search for love, does it exist, is it a fallacy? Do you really think you could marry a number of people and be happy or is there one 'soulmate' that you should/could find?

What do you tell these who have never been married who feel that going into their late adulthood that there is hope?

Sincerely, Rhoni

Rhoni,
Whatever happened to being in the will of God and asking God to put that person in your life? Why go looking for a soul mate? Perhaps you don't mean it the way it sounds.

Sure you can feel some excitement being in a singles conference and wondering, "Will I meet that person during this function?" That's normal. It is going to be a struggle waiting for the "time" to happen, but underneath it all it has to be settled in the mind, "God, I am waiting on you."