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[Aquila]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I don't agree with you here, but since my post, which was relevant to the conversation, was deleted, I can't tell you why.

Nonetheless, I don't agree with you.

I think the boundries of intimate practices should also be something both decide on together without the influence of others. Some men and women are insecure and fear their mate doing this. Others are not and have no issue... how do they say it? "As long as you think of me."

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Aquila

I think the boundries of intimate practices should also be something both decide on together without the influence of others. Some men and women are insecure and fear their mate doing this. Others are not and have no issue... how do they say it? "As long as you think of me."

I think that Dave made some very excellent points. I don't see a man and woman needing to resort to fulling their needs, individually, in a good, healthy marriage. I think it would take away from the intensity of intimate time together.

Is that better, Renda?! LOL!

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Aquila

I think the boundries of intimate practices should also be something both decide on together without the influence of others. Some men and women are insecure and fear their mate doing this. Others are not and have no issue... how do they say it? "As long as you think of me."

As long as you think of me??? Yeah, right - sure they are thinking of their mate.

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I think that Dave made some very excellent points. I don't see a man and woman needing to resort to fulling their needs, individually, in a good, healthy marriage. I think it would take away from the intensity of intimate time together.

Is that better, Renda?! LOL!

Yeah, you have to talk in code. lol

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

Yeah, you have to talk in code. lol

Well, I can partly understand, but it still leaves questions unanswered as some people need it laid out plainly - no beating around the bush, so to speak.

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I think that Dave made some very excellent points. I don't see a man and woman needing to resort to fulling their needs, individually, in a good, healthy marriage. I think it would take away from the intensity of intimate time together.

Is that better, Renda?! LOL!

I agree that it's not ideal. I think we can all agree that it's best to share this with one's mate. But if I were away for an extended period of time, for example deployed for war or on the road, I'd not judge my wife if when I got home she said, "Honey, I've missed you so much. The other day I was thinking about you and...[insert naughty smile]." I wouldn't judge or condemn her. Nor do I think that it's a "sin".

I do agree that this isn't necessary on a daily basis and indeed it can take away from the intensity of intimate time together.

So we agree on quite a bit.

[Aquila]

Originally Posted by MrsMcD

As long as you think of me??? Yeah, right - sure they are thinking of their mate.

Seeing that nearly everyone has done it (and truth be told, will do it again at some point) I'd seriously question my wife if she made a statement like this. Does this mean that she finds it difficult to focus on thinking about me when she's alone like this?

I'd say that's a valid question.

[Aquila]

Love play and intimate behaviors are very personal and are very different for each couple. I'd say that what works for one couple may not work for another. Some couples might be able to give each other this much freedom without insecurity, while another couple couldn't. It's like "games" and "role playing"... you know... the whole, "I'll be the King and you can be the concubine..." kind of thing. Some couples would revel, enjoy themselves, and laugh about their time together. Others would feel odd. Some couples wear intimate items, use various lotions, or even employ intimate items in their love making.

We need to understand that this subject calls for some privacy, respect, and flexibility. I'd handle it on a couple by couple basis.

[Aquila]

I'd like to know if anyone reading this thread has NEVER done it. I'll wager nearly everyone reading this thread has done it. And odds are... you'll do it again. It's a universal human behavior. Simple rule. Keep your focus on your mate. Think of new places you'd like to go, a secluded beach, being alone in a fine art museum featuring the works of the world's greatest French Impressionists, imagine being in a vinyard alone under the moon light. Imagine being in another time and perhaps in another place. This doesn't need to be "dirty" if one is thinking about one's spouse.

[MrsMcD]

Originally Posted by Aquila

I'd like to know if anyone reading this thread has NEVER done it. I'll wager nearly everyone reading this thread has done it. And odds are... you'll do it again. It's a universal human behavior. Simple rule. Keep your focus on your mate. Think of new places you'd like to go, a secluded beach, being alone in a fine art museum featuring the works of the world's greatest French Impressionists, imagine being in a vinyard alone under the moon light. Imagine being in another time and perhaps in another place. This doesn't need to be "dirty" if one is thinking about one's spouse.

Have you ever read "Everyman's Battle?" My husband has it and we both read it. Great book that deals with these issues.