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06-03-2008, 02:40 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Thanks Dan!
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Mature Singles Rule!!!!
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We started that one this past week in our church. A group of us are going to meet monthly and do something fun. I agree...MATURE singles rule! 
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06-03-2008, 02:47 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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 Ladies, surely you don't use sex to manipulate and control your spouses.  I thought we were doing better than that? |
No way!
But it does start in the kitchen, you know...or at Dillard's. 
Wise husbands understand this. 
Christian wives do not deliberately withhold as a means of control. I can truthfully say that is something I have never done.
However, there is no intimacy when the relationship is bad. How is that possible? You have to resolve issues before you can be close in any capacity, sexual or otherwise. That isn't withholding--that's just common sense.
But I've never said anything remotely close to: "You won't get sex until you ______."
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"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
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06-03-2008, 02:49 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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We started that one this past week in our church. A group of us are going to meet monthly and do something fun. I agree...MATURE singles rule! |
they ususally have more money too, lol,dt
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06-03-2008, 02:58 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
No way!
But it does start in the kitchen, you know...or at Dillard's.
Wise husbands understand this.
Christian wives do not deliberately withhold as a means of control. I can truthfully say that is something I have never done.
However, there is no intimacy when the relationship is bad. How is that possible? You have to resolve issues before you can be close in any capacity, sexual or otherwise. That isn't withholding--that's just common sense.
But I've never said anything remotely close to: "You won't get sex until you ______." |
Sometimes they do withhold as part of the game and if both are playing it at the same time I think it's fine.
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06-03-2008, 03:02 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Originally Posted by Pressing-On
Sometimes they do withhold as part of the game and if both are playing it at the same time I think it's fine. |
TMI!!!!!!!
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He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
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06-03-2008, 03:02 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Sometimes they do withhold as part of the game and if both are playing it at the same time I think it's fine. |
Nope - I don't believe it's ever right.
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06-03-2008, 03:03 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
i agree renda, not good, ever, dt
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06-03-2008, 03:09 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Nope - I don't believe it's ever right.
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06-03-2008, 03:15 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Originally Posted by Pressing-On
Sometimes they do withhold as part of the game and if both are playing it at the same time I think it's fine. |
*delete*
...I didn't mean that quite like it sounded.
I don't think games are necessary in marriage. I think honesty and communication and sharing/solving problems together is much better. Flirting is good, though.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
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06-03-2008, 03:20 PM
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Re: AFF AllStar Staff Draft: If you had a mega-chu
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Originally Posted by MissBrattified
*delete*
...I didn't mean that quite like it sounded.
I don't think games are necessary in marriage. I think honesty and communication and sharing/solving problems together is much better. Flirting is good, though.
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Flirting is what I define by games. Thank you for pointing that out. I would have needed and wanted to clarify that. Games/flirting are good and healthy if both are playing. I'll be married 21 years this summer. We have not changed. We still enjoy each other's company. Well, as long as he isn't home from work for too many days in a row.
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