For those who want to know...RULES at my church! - Page 22

Thad · #**211** 10-30-2007, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by CareyM

I hate that you went through all of this, but it is a bit comforting to find those who have gone through similar circumstances. There are so many who don't even believe or know that this stuff really happens in "the church".

I've seen MANY dictators! It seems to be more prevelant in the west for some reason.

carey, you are right, many that have not been around it cannot comprehend it. People, trust me, they are out there!! even in the year 2007!!

We had one in our area (back in the 80s & 90s) who use to beat his members up physically if they disobeyed him.

I have a friend who told me about another one in his area who had a paddle in his office and would give grown Men and women a whipping for breaking the standards or rules

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LaVonne · #**212** 10-30-2007, 12:15 PM

Something that still causes me hurt is that my Pastor would not pray for me. I would be in the altar time and time again crying...just wishing my pastor would lay hands on me and pray for me. Know what he would do, every time...he would approach me, interrupt my prayers and then ask me to make a flyer, give me a task to do or ask if I'd gotten something done. It made me feel so unloved...

Esther · #**213** 10-30-2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by CareyM

Something that still causes me hurt is that my Pastor would not pray for me. I would be in the altar time and time again crying...just wishing my pastor would lay hands on me and pray for me. Know what he would do, every time...he would approach me, interrupt my prayers and then ask me to make a flyer, give me a task to do or ask if I'd gotten something done. It made me feel so unloved...

Good grief that is unreal!

Esther · #**214** 10-30-2007, 01:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Thad

I've seen MANY dictators! It seems to be more prevelant in the west for some reason.

carey, you are right, many that have not been around it cannot comprehend it. People, trust me, they are out there!! even in the year 2007!!

We had one in our area (back in the 80s & 90s) who use to beat his members up physically if they disobeyed him.

I have a friend who told me about another one in his area who had a paddle in his office and would give grown Men and women a whipping for breaking the standards or rules

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Any grown man or woman that would allow that needs help! As does the pastor.

Esther · #**215** 10-30-2007, 01:24 PM

I am glad MOST pastors are NOT like these cited here.

MrsMcD · #**216** 10-30-2007, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Esther

I am glad MOST pastors are NOT like these cited here.

Me too sister.

Thad · #**217** 10-30-2007, 01:31 PM

This has been a FANTASTIC Thread ! ! !

I'm still waiting for Sis TS to post what i requested- I'm running out of breathe TS !!!

MrsMcD · #**218** 10-30-2007, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by CareyM

Something that still causes me hurt is that my Pastor would not pray for me. I would be in the altar time and time again crying...just wishing my pastor would lay hands on me and pray for me. Know what he would do, every time...he would approach me, interrupt my prayers and then ask me to make a flyer, give me a task to do or ask if I'd gotten something done. It made me feel so unloved...

I use to have saints interrupt me during prayer for flyers, copies, etc. but never the pastor. I use to get so mad. I constantly had to pray through when I was the church secretary. I couldn't imagine how it would be if it was the pastor.

#**219** 10-30-2007, 01:39 PM

I know I told ya'll about the one who was in my section that you had to give all of your check to him and he would pay you an allowance. He had some other weird stuff going on their but I cannot remember what it was. He was found out years later to have been having an affair.

I was raised in a crazy church also. We had so many rules.......... Anytime a woman visitor would come in pants, she was told at the door she would go to hell. My church was crazy into End Time Stuff and that is all that was preached on for a loong time. That and Standards.

dizzyde · #**220** 10-30-2007, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Thad

Yes, I have heard of pastors not allowing members to go to college- they will backslide was the reasoning.

I've seen kids backslide in BIBLE SCHOOL ! lol

then again, there are pastor's that don't allow bible Sch. either

I've actually seen more backslide in Bible college. I would never have allowed my daughter to go to Bible college right out of high school. There are some NASTY attitudes flying around. When they are a little older and have a little more discernment it is one thing, but not that young.