A question for apostolic parents.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Rico

We all agree that pastors carry a certain amount of authority in the lives of saints God has entrusted them to lead, right? If you agree that God has done this, do you also believe that God will honor that authority if he instructs you to do something that may not be completely spelled out in the Bible?

I hate to drag standards into this question, but let's say your pastor believes in long sleeves, and asks the church to adopt that standard. You don't see anywhere in the Bible that God requires long sleeves. If you do not adopt that standard is it possible that God will see you as being disobedient, even though He never explicitly said He requires long sleeves from His people?

I'll use an illustration. My husband and I do not believe that tithing is a NT practice. We do believe that 10% is a good measure to work with. We do pay our tithes and beyond.

We had a pastor, some years ago, tell us that it was a shame that we were so talented, but he couldn't use us if we didn't pay our tithes.

Well, my husband was determined he wouldn't do it. He wasn't going to pay to be used.

The next day at work the Lord spoke to him and told him to pay his tithes to keep the unity.

I believe that we are being "perfected" and not everything coming over the pulpit is going to be right, but in order to keep unity we need to "as far as possible, follow peace with all men".

When the Word says, "As far as possible...." there are some things I cannot do if it stresses out my life and I become ineffective. I have to leave that portion of service or leadership to someone else. I have to protect my spirit.

I also believe the Word says, Hebrews 13:7 "Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation."

"Considering" means in the Greek - "too look again, attentively."

Now, having said all of that, I must say that I make plans, but God directs my steps. In my life He tells me where to live, what church to attend and just about everything important, He leads me into that.

So, it is my very strong opinion that if a man is preaching something that is not Biblical then we must pray to check our hearts first and change us if need be, pray that God will speak to the pastor and change him if need be, pray that God will move him if need be or pray that God will move you.

I have never seen it done any other way. He is going to take care of His children and if you stay in His will - He will always have a pastor for you.

Not all of them are going to be good because we are on a journey of perfection and we go through things for a purpose. Pastor and saint alike! We cannot look around and judge or compare our lives with other people. We look at where we are and line that up with our communication to God.

There are some places that I thought I would shrivel up and die from not being fed. God gave me a scripture - Psalm 31:21 "Blessed be the LORD: for he hath shewed me his marvellous kindness in a strong city."

And

Hebrews 13:21 "Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen."

Sorry for putting on a preach - but I am firmly adamant that I am not my own. I am bought with a price. If I am in a situation, it is for my perfection.

Luk 21:19 "In your patience possess ye your souls."

You know that's the truth!

[Felicity]

Good post !

[Rico]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

I'll use an illustration. My husband and I do not believe that tithing is a NT practice. We do believe that 10% is a good measure to work with. We do pay our tithes and beyond.

We had a pastor, some years ago, tell us that it was a shame that we were so talented, but he couldn't use us if we didn't pay our tithes.

Well, my husband was determined he wouldn't do it. He wasn't going to pay to be used.

The next day at work the Lord spoke to him and told him to pay his tithes to keep the unity.

I believe that we are being "perfected" and not everything coming over the pulpit is going to be right, but in order to keep unity we need to "as far as possible, follow peace with all men".

When the Word says, "As far as possible...." there are some things I cannot do if it stresses out my life and I become ineffective. I have to leave that portion of service or leadership to someone else. I have to protect my spirit.

I also believe the Word says, Hebrews 13:7 "Remember them which have the rule over you, who have spoken unto you the word of God: whose faith follow, considering the end of their conversation."

"Considering" means in the Greek - "too look again, attentively."

Now, having said all of that, I must say that I make plans, but God directs my steps. In my life He tells me where to live, what church to attend and just about everything important, He leads me into that.

So, it is my very strong opinion that if a man is preaching something that is not Biblical then we must pray to check our hearts first and change us if need be, pray that God will speak to the pastor and change him if need be, pray that God will move him if need be or pray that God will move you.

I have never seen it done any other way. He is going to take care of His children and if you stay in His will - He will always have a pastor for you.

Not all of them are going to be good because we are on a journey of perfection and we go through things for a purpose. Pastor and saint alike! We cannot look around and judge or compare our lives with other people. We look at where we are and line that up with our communication to God.

There are some places that I thought I would shrivel up and die from not being fed. God gave me a scripture - Psalm 31:21 "Blessed be the LORD: for he hath shewed me his marvellous kindness in a strong city."

And

Hebrews 13:21 "Make you perfect in every good work to do his will, working in you that which is wellpleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ; to whom be glory for ever and ever. Amen."

Sorry for putting on a preach - but I am firmly adamant that I am not my own. I am bought with a price. If I am in a situation, it is for my perfection.

Luk 21:19 "In your patience possess ye your souls."

You know that's the truth!

This is a very good post, Sister.

I will tell you what I think is going on. I think God is preparing me for wherever He has in mind to plant me next. I honestly feel these last few years of making church changes are coming to an end. He's been dealing with me on several levels; everything from pastoral authority to reviving prison ministry in my life. I am so excited because I have waited for God to send me somewhere where I can grow roots. Maybe I will post a chart of the journey I have been on and all the different things I have learned since leaving the uc church several years ago.

[Pressing-On]

Originally Posted by Rico

This is a very good post, Sister.

I will tell you what I think is going on. I think God is preparing me for wherever He has in mind to plant me next. I honestly feel these last few years of making church changes are coming to an end. He's been dealing with me on several levels; everything from pastoral authority to reviving prison ministry in my life. I am so excited because I have waited for God to send me somewhere where I can grow roots. Maybe I will post a chart of the journey I have been on and all the different things I have learned since leaving the uc church several years ago.

Amen. I've posted with you long enough to know that, in your heart, you desire the Will of God in your life. When we come through things, all the while listening, we become stronger and more fervent in our ministry. Mistakes can be healed and replaced with purpose.

God bless you on your journey, Rico!

[Evang.Benincasa]

Originally Posted by Rico

I was thinking about something today. We all know the Bible teaches children are to obey their parents; honor your mother and father sort of stuff.
Well, I got to thinking about what God does when we make rules for our children. Do you y'all believe that God creates situations to expose our children's disobediance towards us parents?

Let me give you an example. Let's say a parent sets a certain radius of miles his child is allowed drive away from home. Let's say it's because the parent knows there is a larger city close by, and also knows it takes a bit more skill to drive in that town than what his child has. So, Dad tells Jr. he is not allowed to go into City "A."

At first the child obeys his father's wishes and stays out of City "A." Eventually temptation takes over, the child disobeys his dad, and goes into the forbidden city. He gets away with it a few times and going into City "A" becomes a regular habit.

One day the child goes into the city, just like he has done several times before. This time, however, the car breaks down, he has to call Dad, and Dad finds out his son has been disobeying him by going into City "A."

Do you believe that God created the situation of the car breaking down because He honors the Dad's authority over his children and the disobedience needed to be exposed because of His honoring that authority?

Or, do you believe that God had nothing to do with the car breaking down, wasn't honoring the father's authority in any way, and the whole thing happened just because it did?

I am going somewhere with this, but I want to see what the responses from our members are before I reveal why this has all been on my mind. Thank you for offering your opinion.

I think the Lord's hand was in it and put Jr in the trick bag so dad can take care of Jr's behavior.

In Jesus Name

Brother Benincasa

www.OnTimeJournal.com

[Rico]

This has been running right at 50/50.

I truly Believe that Jesus will put events in a parents life to be able to find out what their children are doing... Good or Bad. It has happened to my husband and I on several ocassions. I try to teach my children to live everyday as if Jesus would return today... and to never be in a place or to be doing something that you would not want Jesus himself to find you in...

[Trouvere]

I thank God for a heads up all the time.It has been my experince that when
they are headed down the wrong path Jesus gives me a nudge.

[Rico]

*bump* It's running 9-7.

[Evang.Benincasa]

Originally Posted by Rico

Wait until you guys read about what was waiting for me when I got home.


My desk is an area that is completely off limits to my children. They aren't allowed to touch anything whatsoever that is sitting there. Well, I have a collection of lighters, one of which happened to still be on my desk upstairs. Unbeknownst to me, my youngest daughter had been secretly playing with that lighter lately. She'd go into the room, get the lighter, play with it, and then put it back so I wouldn't know someone had taken it. Today it all caught up with her.

She was in her room playing with the lighter and set a piece of paper on fire. When she couldn't blow the fire out and the paper got too hot, she dropped the paper on the floor. The corner of her blanket on fire, which in turn caught some cots under the bed on fire, which in turn caught the mattress on fire, all on one corner of the bed. My son was able to put the fire out and, other than the aforementioned items, nothing else was burned. No one was hurt, thankfully.

Given the fact that I have had this sort of thing on my mind this week, I believe God is showing me I am on the right track with my thinking. A situation that perfectly fits what I have been wondering about has happened in my life. One of my children has been disobeying me and I believe God exposed her disobedience.

I have all the confirmation I need. What are the chances that a hypothetical situation that I started a thread on this very week would come to life right before my eyes, especially with me knowing the other part of what I have had on my mind that y'all don't know about yet? Slim to none.

I have been asking God if this is one of His ways that doesn't make sense to us as humans and I believe He has given me His answer.

You see, I have had pastors on my mind quite a bit lately. Contrary to what some have accused me of being, namely a preacher hater, I have never hated preachers. The people I have shared some of my closest guarded secrets with have been the pastors in my life. When I began to see the ways in which pastors go beyond what the Bible teaches I started questioning how much authority God gives them in our lives. Exactly how much authority they have isn't really spelled out in the Bible, with the exception of things God has said to those who have gone to the extreme of actually hurting the people they are supposed to be serving.

It is something I have struggled with over the years. What I have struggled with isn't so much the idea that pastors have authority in their congregants lives. It is with how much authority God gives them and whether or not he honors some of the decisions they make that go outside of what is spelled out in black and white in His Word.

I've gone from one extreme to the other in my thinking. I started out thinking I was obligated to obey everything they say, regardless of what it was. If the preacher said, "You can't go see your mother this weekend" I would not go. If the preacher said to put our children in the church school I went along with it. If the preacher said not to buy this car, or not to move to this house, etc. etc., I obeyed, thinking they had the authority to make those kinds of decisions for me.

I have walked in the other extreme that says, "If it isn't spelled out word for word in the Bible then he has no right to tell me what I should or shouldn't be doing." Any little thing the preacher said that was even a little bit out of the Word I felt no obligation to obey and was not afraid of making it known. This is where I have been most recently in my thinking.

Then, the other day the Lord and I had some alone time. I was on my way to my new job, thinking about church, the Lord, His Word, etc. This scenario I gave you in the opening thread is the scenario I presented to God. I basically asked God, "Do you honor some of the things pastors say that maybe aren't spelled out completely in your Word? God, do you honor the authority you have placed in their lives to the extent of honoring some things they want from people, even if it isn't really something you necessarily expect from us?"

This is when the story about the son disobeying his dad came to mind. When it happened I felt that God was answering my question by asking me if I believed He ever reveals a child's disobedience to his parents.

When it happened it seemed to make sense to me. "Yes," I thought, "I believe it's possible that You reveal disobedience to a child's parent." Maybe not all the time, but, yes, I believe it happens. "Why wouldn't it be the same way with you and your pastor?" is what I felt like God was saying to me.

See, pastors are a sort of father in our lives. The role they play in the life of a saint shares some characteristics with the role my natural father plays in my life. They are there to provide guidance, advice, direction, nurturing, an example of what it means to be Christlike, and yes, even some boundries. They are not there to be our father, although I know the Bible talks about us not having many spiritual fathers, but some of the things they do for us spiritually run parallel with the types of things our natural fathers do in our lives.

It may not be a big deal to God that the son in my story was going into the city. But because it was important to the father that his son not go into the city, and because God honors the authority He has placed in the life of that son, God exposed the disobedience. I can now see how this same principle would apply in the relationship between pastor and saint.

I think I am going to make a change in how I see pastors. I think from now on I am going to make an effort to do some obeying even if what the pastor is asking from me isn't spelled out word for word in the Bible. Am I going to go back to "whatever the preacher says goes" kind of thinking? No. But I am not going to stay in the "it has to be explicitly spelled out before I believe it's for me" category either.

I am going to start giving the pastor the benefit of my doubts from today forward. I am going to be more willing to go along with some things, regardless of how I feel about them personally. Before you ask, no, I am not planning on shaving my beard! (I had to head that one off at the pass!)

By the way, I know how some of you around here like to take the ball and run with it. While I am saying that God is changing the way I see some things, I am not saying I now believe in every dress standard, rule, mandate, edict, (whatever you want to call it,) that will come forth from the pulpit of whichever pastor I end up submitting to. "Submitting" There's a word I haven't used in a long time.

Great post. Brother Rico, your daughter must of been very shook up, I hope you weren't too hard on her. Don't get me wrong I know it was very dangerous what she had done, but all I can think about is that her fear of the moment was a punishment, and also the terror she must of felt.

Me personally would have destroyed every lighter in the house, but that's me.

My daughter Anastasia got caught in an exercise bicycle once, and her leg was jammed between the frame of the bike. I told her time after time to stay off of it but she disobeyed and had her leg trapped between the pedal and the frame. She was so scared, and I grabbed the frame and a claw hammer and pried the frame in two pieces freeing my daughter's leg. As she was sobbing in her mother’s arms I picked up the bike and tossed it into the trash. Now that is just me, and wouldn't expect anyone else to do the same.

I hate to see children in fear or scared, that just blows my mind. I hate to see feelings hurt, or a child embarrassed. If their pride is hurt that is a totally different thing, but a child in fear, I try to take care of that at the speed of light.

Isn't that what a good minister should do? Make sure he protects his Brothers and Sisters, always looking out for their best interest, and never lording over what belongs to God? The people who we work with are God's garden, which contains God's babies. The ministry is supposed to be the older Brothers and must be always looking out for their Brothers and Sisters, never allowing them to be damaged. We are called to help and not hurt that is the first rule. We are to love one another. If we love one another we will never cause pain to one another, If anything hurts a Brother or Sister, we must be willing to throw it away.

Like I said that's just me.

Love you Brother Rico.

In Jesus name

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