I need help!!!

[KeptByTheWord]

One thing I would say further too, is this. Please don't get married too young, with the marriage based on an emotional, unstable situation. I would definitely advice against moving in with your girlfriend's family. This would serve to further confuse your situation. Sounds like your grandparents, if possible, if that is the only choice you have to get out of a bad situation, would be the best choice, based on the limited information you have provided. Again, I am praying for you.

[MissBrattified]

This is a terrible place to be getting/giving advice in such a situation, but I can't help myself: Please don't use marriage as your ticket out. You are WAY too young to get married. I know it doesn't seem like that, and you do seem like a very *mature* 16 year old, but trust me--10 years from now you will be a completely different person--and so will your young wife.

As for moving out--moving in with your grandparents sounds like the best idea. Moving in with your girlfriend's family sounds like a big complicated mess in the making.

I checked a law website and it says you aren't legally allowed to move out until 18 in Missouri, so if I were you I would check with a lawyer. Most lawyers will consult with you for free, and filing papers isn't very expensive--so don't be afraid to call a lawyer who specializes in family law. What you don't want to happen is to leave and then become a ward of a court, in which case they may choose a foster home for you and it may not be where you want to be at all.

[n david]

Originally Posted by JacobSauceda

Do you know the law in Missouri? Or could you help me find it at least?

I would recommend what MsBrattified suggested, to find a lawyer who offers free consultation and speak with them. I did this once to get advice on a blind contract I mistakenly signed. Most are limited to 30 minutes, so be prepared. Also, if they write a letter or pull information, at least in my case, it ceased becoming a free consultation and I had to pay.

In any case, I cannot stress enough the need to pray and seek Godly counseling. I don't know your situation. I saw JD commented on getting law enforcement involved. Whatever is going on, you need a spiritual elder from whom you can receive Godly counsel. Whether that's a Pastor or someone else, get Godly counsel from an elder.

Marriage at this time, with emotions running high is not a good idea at any age. Especially as a teenager.

Last, running from issues generally never solves anything. It will always be there. You have to face whatever it is and not run from whatever you're dealing with.

Again, I don't know what your situation is, but with the rare exception of physical or sexual abuse, I would be against leaving the home.

[MissBrattified]

Originally Posted by n david

...Again, I don't know what your situation is, but with the rare exception of physical or sexual abuse, I would be against leaving the home.

I completely agree with you. Unless there is something going on that is physically intolerable, moving out is a bad idea.

[A239]

Thank you all for helping me make my decision. I have reviewed my options and your posts, and have decided to move out when I am 17. I will be living with my grandparents. If, for whatever reason I can not, I will then live my girlfriend. I have cleared it with her parents, and my grandparents. I tried speaking with my mother about the issue, and it only made matters worse. Again, thank you all. God bless.

[KeptByTheWord]

I hope you'll consider moving in with your girlfriend's family a last resort. If you're 17, you should have a job, or be considering going to college, and hopefully be able to get out on your own. Be very careful about getting married so young, and with such difficult circumstances surrounding it. Will be praying for you.

[Disciple4life]

First I would encourage you to just call your local police station. Be nice and just ask them about the law. Tell them that you don't want to break the law and need some information. I am sure they will be happy to help.

Second if you do not decide to do that you could just follow our advice by the results of the poll. You have to do whatever the poll says!!!

[MawMaw]

Praying for God to direct you in all this Jacob.
I hope you have a Pastor you can turn to
and confide in.
I also hope you wait a good while longer before
you commit to marriage.
God bless you.

[Jermyn Davidson]

Originally Posted by Jermyn Davidson

I want to publicly urge you to get law enforcement involved in your situation!

Ok bro,
You need to know that I have contacted the Missouri Department of Social Services to report a suspected case of prolonged, well you KNOW what you're going through.

You probably don't like my decision to do this, but you're only 16 and if you are upset over my decision, it is because of your youthful ignorance.

I can deal with that better than dealing with the potential "What If's".

http://www.dss.mo.gov/cd/can.htm


The Scott County Children's Division is now involved in your case.

I will be providing a transcript of our conversation to them.


You wanted to leave that hole, here's your chance!


PLEASE DO NOT LIE TO THEM WHEN THEY ASK YOU ABOUT WHAT IS GOING ON AND FOR HOW LONG IT HAS BEEN GOING ON!

IF YOU WANT TO PROTECT "THEM", PROTECT THEM BY ALLOWING THE LORD, WHO WILL USE THE GOVERNMENT FOR HIS OWN WILL, TO DEAL WITH "THEM!"

[A239]

I asked for advice, not involvement.