Divorce?

[shazeep]

just an observation here, as i have never been married; i'm mostly struck here by his abandonment of her (in spirit), but y'all are discussing her possible separation from him. They are already separated, and he has instigated this. While i feel sympathy for him, a perfectly legit view is that he has decided to now take advantage of the relationship for as long as she will enable him to do so.

Scripturally speaking, he has no right to deteriorate his body, which belongs to her, or to abdicate his position as the head, and it seems obvious that nothing will change until she changes it. Ma'am, you might consider that spiritually and emotionally disengaging from him for a time would essentially be bowing to his will and desire--move into the spare room or something, and stop changing his diaper for awhile, imo. He is also a child of God, and God does not need your help here, possibly.

[ILG]

I think she has every right to not be physical with him. I would say that is his choice by the choices he is making.

[shazeep]

Originally Posted by ILG

I think she has every right to not be physical with him. I would say that is his choice by the choices he is making.

that is my opinion also--now, if he did not respond to a little cold shoulder, then maybe some mental health intercession is indicated; but in the end one cannot provide __________ (happiness, contentment, fulfillment, whatever) for another person, and it could be argued that you are attempting to succumb to their invitation to be their 'source,' if that makes any sense--or deciding on your own that you will fill this role. One's actions come with consequences, and shielding him from these will prolly only bring you more pain.