They tend to hurt anyone that tries to get close to them.
You know, maybe they aren't trying to hurt. They may be hurting. It could be a defense mechanism.
It might be that you aren't dealing w/ a bubble person, but w/ someone who has rejection issues.
They could be keeping people at bay for fear of being rejected. ( w/ these feelings stemming from something in their past )
It could be, ( in their mind ), reject others, before they are rejected. I've known someone like this and it isn't always easy to overcome this mindset. But, with God all things are possible.
Sinatra
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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
When I was young I WAS SO PAINFULLY shy.I always wore my coat inside because it covered me and it was like a protective armer.I would sit in the back of the class and watch every one and enjoy the activity on the outside looking in.I wanted to get involved but was to afraid to so I spent many years missing out on things because every one thaught I was stuck up and that I thaught I was better than every one else.During this time period I would become close in my heart for certain poepleexcept those who I liked never knew I liked them because I couldnt get the couredge to let them know.As time passed God helped me with this problem,but I cant be the center of attention in a large groupb or my legs goes all rubbery,and I feel like Im going to pass uot and get sick to my stomach and break out in cold sweats its awful to me.when I got to an age when I had to sing in church I thaught I was going to have a heart attack and die right there on the platform,but they let me turn to rthe side so that I could get started and then Jesus would be with me and everything was fine unless I got off key.Things are better now but even though I want to be loved and hugged in church I still have the tendancy to stiffen when Im showing affection in church.There have been poeple who have cared enough to push through all that and I have become very close to them.The reason behind this story is because the bubble poeple want to be reached they just dont know how to be the first to reach out and sometimes it takes awhile but you have to keep pushing its for that souls own good! God wants you to keep pushing and that bubble person wants you to keep pushing also.Those poeple feel bad every time they make the other person feel rejected because that is not thier intent at all.
Thank you for this post.
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You know, maybe they aren't trying to hurt. They may be hurting. It could be a defense mechanism.
It might be that you aren't dealing w/ a bubble person, but w/ someone who has rejection issues.
They could be keeping people at bay for fear of being rejected. ( w/ these feelings stemming from something in their past )
It could be, ( in their mind ), reject others, before they are rejected. I've known someone like this and it isn't always easy to overcome this mindset. But, with God all things are possible.
Sinatra
One other thought, children of divorce often have issues with rejection.
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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
May God give his children wisdom to discern the right time and the right way to approach all things even the bubble people.
Ecc 8:5-6.... a wise man's heart discerneth both time and judgment. Because to every purpose there is time and judgment, therefore the misery of man is great upon him.
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His banner over me is LOVE.... My soul followeth hard after thee....Love one another with a pure heart fervently. Jesus saith unto her, Said I not unto thee, that, if thou wouldest believe, thou shouldest see the glory of God?
To be a servant of God, it will cost us our total commitment to God, and God alone. His burden must be our burden... Sis Alvear
Ya know some people are easy to hug and others I have a hard time with it myself.
I wasn't raised in a huggy kissy family and it gets uncomfortable sometimes, but I think I have learned not to spend so much time thinking about it.--You do it, and go on.
I have had someone tell me they dont hug, while I was hugging them in front of many people, it was embarrassing and so I never tried it again-I almost avoid her now she made such a big deal about it. Fortunately I do not see her much.
When I was young I WAS SO PAINFULLY shy.I always wore my coat inside because it covered me and it was like a protective armer.I would sit in the back of the class and watch every one and enjoy the activity on the outside looking in.I wanted to get involved but was to afraid to so I spent many years missing out on things because every one thaught I was stuck up and that I thaught I was better than every one else.During this time period I would become close in my heart for certain poepleexcept those who I liked never knew I liked them because I couldnt get the couredge to let them know.As time passed God helped me with this problem,but I cant be the center of attention in a large groupb or my legs goes all rubbery,and I feel like Im going to pass uot and get sick to my stomach and break out in cold sweats its awful to me.when I got to an age when I had to sing in church I thaught I was going to have a heart attack and die right there on the platform,but they let me turn to rthe side so that I could get started and then Jesus would be with me and everything was fine unless I got off key.Things are better now but even though I want to be loved and hugged in church I still have the tendancy to stiffen when Im showing affection in church.There have been poeple who have cared enough to push through all that and I have become very close to them.The reason behind this story is because the bubble poeple want to be reached they just dont know how to be the first to reach out and sometimes it takes awhile but you have to keep pushing its for that souls own good! God wants you to keep pushing and that bubble person wants you to keep pushing also.Those poeple feel bad every time they make the other person feel rejected because that is not thier intent at all.
I was like this until about two years ago. God worked a miracle in my life and changed me. I was 27 years old before I ever started honestly opening up to people.