What if a mate wants to imagine being with someone else while with mate, is that approriate? I know someone who asked his wife if he could call her someone else during intimacy. I guess this would be ok since it's just make believe like kids playing cops and robbers.
Truth, I agree with you. A spouse should never imagine being with someone else while with their mate. However, pretending that their wife is a French maid is entirely different.
Depends on what you mean? It's not uncommon for a man to hold his wife down by the wrists. Is that wrong too...even if it enhances the act for her?
Please note, it's about sensory deprivation. The inability to move is the relinquishment of control, submission, to one's mate. Often it fulfills a very important need... a need to be surrendered to the one you love and trust.
I'm familiar with BDSM.
I don't have the answers. I asked you why you draw that line there, between bondage and pain. What, to you, makes pain unacceptable, but restraint ok?
Bah....I really hope this isn't going places the forum isn't ok with it going....Just yell at me or something Renda.
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But my point is primarily, some folks are indeed addicts and need serious prayer and counsel. Others aren't "addicts". Some just have healthy interest that has to be channeled into their marriages or something more constructive.
But the article is about addicts. Not those with a healthy interest to be channeled.
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God did it for us. Out of sheer generosity he put us in right standing with himself. A pure gift. He got us out of the mess we're in and restored us to where he always wanted us to be. And he did it by means of Jesus Christ. ~Romans 3:24 from The Message
I think the answer to some of these questions would be whatever takes place - it needs to be agreed upon by both spouses. Nothing should ever be forced.
The topics have wandered from the original posting which all threads tend to do. I think we'll allowed some to push the boundries.
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I think the answer to some of these questions would be whatever takes place - it needs to be agreed upon by both spouses. Nothing should ever be forced.
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Unless, of course, God has limits to impose on you, as some think He does. And who knows? Maybe He does! But, alas, if He does, He's not going to tell us what they are. He just expects us to guess, and hooboy! We better guess right! (Which we could also say about a lot of things!
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Not if your imagining that your wife is a French maid.
What's the difference between fantasizing about your wife in an apron and your wife dressed up provocatively?
What if God provided you a wife who enjoys dressing provocatively?
I'm not saying that it's okay to pretend she's a French maid and not your wife...that would be sin. But if your wife is just dressing up to take your breath away, where's the sin? She might wear any number of items... but for some reason a French maid outfit is "sin"? Remember, "sin" can send you to Hell. Something doesn't wash with me. Are you saying it's wrong for her to wear anything?
I'm not refering to bedroom attire, but role playing by acting out scenarios such as pretending man is having affair with the maid, mail lady, doctor, nurse etc.....
Playing patient doctor is not just attire but acting out a sinful act.
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I think the answer to some of these questions would be whatever takes place - it needs to be agreed upon by both spouses. Nothing should ever be forced.
The topics have wandered from the original posting which all threads tend to do. I think we'll allowed some to push the boundries.
But at the same time they could both be agreeing to sin or immoral acts.
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The sinful thoughts subdue,
Or they will take the reins themselves
And someday master you. --Anon.
The most deadly sins do not leap upon us, they creep up on us.
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