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LaGirl · #**491** 02-24-2007, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyChocolate

June 16th! going on 12 wonderful years...It's funny to think that I've almost been with home 1/2 of my life!

june 6th will be 9 years for us

LaGirl · #**492** 02-24-2007, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by LadyChocolate

92-98 long courtship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

we met in aug.93 and were married in june of 95!

i was in high school when we met. i graduated high school in 1993, he graduated college in 1993.
we met at La Camp meeting. bro stoneking was preaching that year. we actually met on the elevator WITH bro stoneking on there...lol seems he has been in our life a LONG time :-)

Rhoni · #**493** 02-24-2007, 07:39 PM

To all those who read this column: Many times counselors/therapists become counselors/therapists because they have unresolved issues that they need to understand and hope that in the counseling process with others...that things will come to light within themselves so they can make sense of and resolve the past. Such it has been with me.

I am fortunate to have good friends who speak the truth to me even when they know it will hurt. Love makes all the difference. With this in mind, I want to say that it has been brought to my attention by a good friend that I appear to post with bitterness about my ex-husband and his family. We have been divorced for 14 years and he has been married for 14 years in June to someone else. The separation and divorce were extremely difficult for me for many reasons, one of which was the fact I married a preacher on purpose. The purpose being that they did not get divorced. Divorce has been transgenerational in my family. I thought I would be the one to break the curse. I was wrong. The divorce was traumatic for me and compounded by the fact that I was handicapped by a severe car accident, a single parent, and unemployed.

My children have been put in the middle for the majority of their lives and have never been able to make peace with it. I have only thought about myself since my son got engaged and not about him. I know that he didn't purposely leave myself and my family out of the loop, and I know he loves me more than I even realize. It was wrong of me to make his private issues public for all to know and comment about. This was wrong of me. I love my children and grandchildren very much. They are and have been my world for quite sometime. They will always be an integral part, the best part of my life and even the best of me.

There is NOTHING they can do to make me not love them. I am sorry that they, like myself are products of a divorce. As a Christian Counselor I know there is healing for all those involved. I have NO DESIRE to ever go back to my ex-husband. I have not loved him for longer than I can remember, but I wish him no ill will, nor that of his family. I am glad that he is happily married to someone he can share his life with.

The anger and bitterness are not there anymore. There will always be a part of me hurt because of my high expectations that were not met, but I forgave them way back in 2003 and I am praying that God will free me of the hurt I feel whenever there is a family function that puts us in the same room, the same gathering, the same circle of family and friends.

Please feel free to PM me if you think I am posting without thinking. I am hereby declaring the war over and love and peace to abound in my life, with my children and grandchildren. Forgive me forum members, and children for making our private issues public. I will do my best to post more responsibily.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda/Mom

Barb · #**494** 02-24-2007, 08:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

To all those who read this column: Many times counselors/therapists become counselors/therapists because they have unresolved issues that they need to understand and hope that in the counseling process with others...that things will come to light within themselves so they can make sense of and resolve the past. Such it has been with me.

I am fortunate to have good friends who speak the truth to me even when they know it will hurt. Love makes all the difference. With this in mind, I want to say that it has been brought to my attention by a good friend that I appear to post with bitterness about my ex-husband and his family. We have been divorced for 14 years and he has been married for 14 years in June to someone else. The separation and divorce were extremely difficult for me for many reasons, one of which was the fact I married a preacher on purpose. The purpose being that they did not get divorced. Divorce has been transgenerational in my family. I thought I would be the one to break the curse. I was wrong. The divorce was traumatic for me and compounded by the fact that I was handicapped by a severe car accident, a single parent, and unemployed.

My children have been put in the middle for the majority of their lives and have never been able to make peace with it. I have only thought about myself since my son got engaged and not about him. I know that he didn't purposely leave myself and my family out of the loop, and I know he loves me more than I even realize. It was wrong of me to make his private issues public for all to know and comment about. This was wrong of me. I love my children and grandchildren very much. They are and have been my world for quite sometime. They will always be an integral part, the best part of my life and even the best of me.

There is NOTHING they can do to make me not love them. I am sorry that they, like myself are products of a divorce. As a Christian Counselor I know there is healing for all those involved. I have NO DESIRE to ever go back to my ex-husband. I have not loved him for longer than I can remember, but I wish him no ill will, nor that of his family. I am glad that he is happily married to someone he can share his life with.

The anger and bitterness are not there anymore. There will always be a part of me hurt because of my high expectations that were not met, but I forgave them way back in 2003 and I am praying that God will free me of the hurt I feel whenever there is a family function that puts us in the same room, the same gathering, the same circle of family and friends.

Please feel free to PM me if you think I am posting without thinking. I am hereby declaring the war over and love and peace to abound in my life, with my children and grandchildren. Forgive me forum members, and children for making our private issues public. I will do my best to post more responsibily.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda/Mom

Good for you, girl!! This is perfect...go to the wedding and enjoy your family. You all deserve happiness...

#**495** 02-24-2007, 09:08 PM

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Originally Posted by AmazingGrace

Good evening ladies.

Glad to see everyone is doing good! We just got home from Oklahoma, my girlfriend had her baby yesterday, she has always been like a sister to me so it was so exciting for me getting to be in the delivery room and be a part of such a wonderful little life coming into this world!!! He is adorable!! Aaron Sabastian and he weighed 8 lbs 13 oz and has the cutest black curly hair.... One dr came into the nursery this morning and didnt believe he was only 12 hrs old he said I know he is at least 3 weeks! He is so big and alert and just lays and coos and he slept all night and he has just been sleeping... never cries and just loves to be loved and thats the fun part cuz I love loving on him!!!

Another exciting part... my daughter who I told yall about that had to send in some information and then they would consider accepting her into the Who's who of outstanding students... well she was accepted!!!! She is so excited and so are we!!! She has earned this and I am so proud of her! Shes my baby!

Yall have a wonderful evening I am gonna go spend it with the family!

Being in the delivery room is so awesome...I was privedled to share the birthing of one of my church Sister's baby. I was her coach...her hubby tried to be in there with their first and could not handle it. It was the most wonderful experience to be there trough her labor and be there when the baby was born...I will always be greatful to her for sharing that with me. Her hubby was brave enough to be there for her last one, so I was glad of that for both of them.

Congratulations to your dear daughter...it's wonderful for her to be honored for her hard work...

#**496** 02-24-2007, 09:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

To all those who read this column: Many times counselors/therapists become counselors/therapists because they have unresolved issues that they need to understand and hope that in the counseling process with others...that things will come to light within themselves so they can make sense of and resolve the past. Such it has been with me.

I am fortunate to have good friends who speak the truth to me even when they know it will hurt. Love makes all the difference. With this in mind, I want to say that it has been brought to my attention by a good friend that I appear to post with bitterness about my ex-husband and his family. We have been divorced for 14 years and he has been married for 14 years in June to someone else. The separation and divorce were extremely difficult for me for many reasons, one of which was the fact I married a preacher on purpose. The purpose being that they did not get divorced. Divorce has been transgenerational in my family. I thought I would be the one to break the curse. I was wrong. The divorce was traumatic for me and compounded by the fact that I was handicapped by a severe car accident, a single parent, and unemployed.

My children have been put in the middle for the majority of their lives and have never been able to make peace with it. I have only thought about myself since my son got engaged and not about him. I know that he didn't purposely leave myself and my family out of the loop, and I know he loves me more than I even realize. It was wrong of me to make his private issues public for all to know and comment about. This was wrong of me. I love my children and grandchildren very much. They are and have been my world for quite sometime. They will always be an integral part, the best part of my life and even the best of me.

There is NOTHING they can do to make me not love them. I am sorry that they, like myself are products of a divorce. As a Christian Counselor I know there is healing for all those involved. I have NO DESIRE to ever go back to my ex-husband. I have not loved him for longer than I can remember, but I wish him no ill will, nor that of his family. I am glad that he is happily married to someone he can share his life with.

The anger and bitterness are not there anymore. There will always be a part of me hurt because of my high expectations that were not met, but I forgave them way back in 2003 and I am praying that God will free me of the hurt I feel whenever there is a family function that puts us in the same room, the same gathering, the same circle of family and friends.

Please feel free to PM me if you think I am posting without thinking. I am hereby declaring the war over and love and peace to abound in my life, with my children and grandchildren. Forgive me forum members, and children for making our private issues public. I will do my best to post more responsibily.

Love & Blessings, Rhonda/Mom

Dearest Sister...Pain can blind us at times. and I know how bitterness can blind us too. I have been in both with my family, divorce many years ago, and church family, friends...but you do have to heal, and let go of it, because you can't move on until you do. I hold no anger against anyone anymore. You don't have to worry about anything you said here, we all love you and want the best for you...you have to forgive yourself first...you deserve to be happy and at peace...I am praying for you still sis...

Much love and blessing to you too....

Rhoni · #**497** 02-25-2007, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

Dearest Sister...Pain can blind us at times. and I know how bitterness can blind us too. I have been in both with my family, divorce many years ago, and church family, friends...but you do have to heal, and let go of it, because you can't move on until you do. I hold no anger against anyone anymore. You don't have to worry about anything you said here, we all love you and want the best for you...you have to forgive yourself first...you deserve to be happy and at peace...I am praying for you still sis...

Much love and blessing to you too....

Sis. Truthseeker,

God forgave me and I forgave myself a long time ago...the aftermath is that the effects have a rippling effect and are like the waves of the sea. Time errodes the sands on the shore changing the form of the land mass until it becomes something different.

The something different it is becoming is bringing peace and detachment...healing. It is/has been healing time. It is a process and had to come to this point. I recognize the hand of God in it all.

Love & Blessings, Rhoni

Falla39 · #**498** 02-25-2007, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Sis. Truthseeker,

God forgave me and I forgave myself a long time ago...the aftermath is that the effects have a rippling effect and are like the waves of the sea. Time errodes the sands on the shore changing the form of the land mass until it becomes something different.

The something different it is becoming is bringing peace and detachment...healing. It is/has been healing time. It is a process and had to come to this point. I recognize the hand of God in it all.

Love & Blessings, Rhoni

Sis. Rhoni,

Your last sentence is SO important! When we can see that He was

there all the time, leading, guiding, molding, making us into that

vessel useful or meet for the Master's use. Not resisting the Potter's

wheel but yielding to His Hands as He fashions the clay!! I love the

words to a song from a few years ago, "He Didn't Throw The Clay Away"

speaks to me. If we would all be honest, He could have at some point

"thrown the clay (us) away, but He didn't and I so so thankful!!! When

He picks us up we are little more than a "mudball" or "lumb of clay".

Oh, but to just yield to His Nail-scarred Hands as He picks us up and

places us on the wheel to mold and make us into what HE would have

us be!! As I have mentioned before I love the song, sung by Bro. Ewing

that Sis. Joan, his wife, wrote, The chorus says:

Create in me Your Image, O, LORD.
Let me be all You've dreamed I could be.
And when You have finished Your work, LORD, in me,
I pray that Jesus is all they can see!

And when He is finished with His work in us, we will be His Hands

extended, reaching out to the oppressed, the weary, the lonely,

those who don't know the Way, the Truth and The Life (JESUS).

Sis. Rhoni, if that beautiful piece of fine china could speak as it

goes though the process, it would say, "Ouch, that hurts"! and

especially when it is in the oven or kiln for the final firing, no doubt

it would yell, "It's too hot in here", but just wait until He puts that

final finishing touch on us. We shall be be ready and prepared by HIM!

As our mouths open, Living Water shall come forth as we tell of HIS

Love and Mercy and Grace!! How He has fashioned, tested and cleansed

these earthen vessels and filled them with HIMSELF!! Drink from these

waters, drink from these waters, and you'll never thirst again!!!

Blessings, dear Little Sister,

Falla39