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Originally Posted by longhairgirl
Wow! I was just forming a nice response to your last post in my head, and get on and see this. That's not very nice!
I won't stay long because this was not what I was looking for. I deal with enough UPC bashing everyday, I don't want to deal with it on the internet also  I was looking for a like minded internet forum. I am a memeber of the Dave Ramsey TMMO, and I am frankly sick of all the getting around the no cussing rule and people being vulgar. But I knew I would miss the online community feel. So I find one that is called Apostolic Friends, and I frankly don't want to deal with explaining myself and my standards to people over and over all the time. Just don't want to deal with it, hope that's allowed
Now, for the nice response I was thinking. I wasn't raised in church, so I did study out each standard one by one. And it goes without saying that the inside is more important than the outside. The most important things any Christian can do is worship, pray, fast, and love others as much as possible.
I seriously didn't want to offend anyone on here. My original post was for the OP...possibly how her husband is feeling. I've seen what happens when one spouse leaves the church...usually the other spouse leaves also or the marriage ends in divorce. Sometimes, they can make it work but that is rare. Once again, OP I am praying for you |
I wasn't trying to be 'not nice'. Infact I am one of the nicest on here. I am trying to give you food for thought. It is one thing to say that you believe something like standards and follow them and a whole different thing when it comes to following Jesus. I meant no harm or malice with my statements. At times it is difficult to tell the tone of any post. I was merely comparing and contrasting.
But if you really came to the internet to find people that are ALL like minded then you are living in a dream world. It is impossible for everyone, conservative or not, to believe the same. You might be surprized at what actually goes on here. There are UPC bashers and then there are people like me that I don't believe the standards are essential to living a healthy christian life and at times can become more of a god to us that God actually is, but still attend UPC churches. You are welcome to stay here and post. Your opinions will be heard and discussed. Don't take offense if someone is opposed to your exact beliefs. I would bet that even people in your own church that you call friends don't really see eye-to-eye.
My main point is that first I didn't mean to offend and if I did I am sorry. But it did kinda throw some of us off when pretty much the first thing you said was that you weren't staying because basically we were right enough or whatever. AFF is a place where one can come and help to find balance in life both spiritual and physical. If you still choose not to stay please make sure that it because you feel you need to move on not because someone has hurt your feelings or that you feel someone was trying to hurt your feelings. You know the way you feel about standards and the doctrine you believe, how very personal it is to you, well that is how we all feel. There is no need to come out of the corner with your hands up ready for a fight. No one wants to fight with you. Honestly this community will do more fighting for you than against you. Sure there is room for great debates and sometimes they get deep and occasionally cross lines, but that is merely because we are so passionate about how we believe. Generally no one is still mad by the end of the day.
Again stay and enjoy what you enjoy and ignore what you don't. I believe that everyone that is one here for the right reasons will ultimately benefit by being here. Will all that being said this is not a "Members Only" club. Anyone is free to join in the fun. But please, please, please don't think that someone is jumping your beliefs or making fun of them. Because at the end of the day we are all brothers and sisters in Christ whether we agree on everything or not. Stay apart of the family a little longer you might come to loving this place.
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