Stew,
Why would they join in the first place if they felt conflicted? They know they are going to end up in the Middle East, so what's the point of enlisting?
I know career military people who are Muslim and or Arabic who didn't join assuming they would be fighting in the Middle East. I know some who joined for the same reasons that many other people join...because they love America and would like to defend her. I don't think it's as simple as saying no Arabic or Muslim should join the military. We went years and years without these types of wars in the Middle East. If we would have attacked one of the other Axis of Evil like North Korea should our only approach be "why did you join"?
When you have so many Americans wondering why we get involved in certain things, you have to recognize that Arab American Muslims are that much more conflicted.
I think that there are legitimate things that should be candidly explored.
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