Seven Days of Sex... Woo Hoo!! :)

[George]

Originally Posted by Neck

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I agree.

If I were to counsel couples before they were to marry.

I would ask them to talk intimately about.

More than..... at what table each friend and family member would sit at.

I would share that they need to talk about money, workload and intimate relations.

I do not know about anyone else on this thread.

I am 44 and have been married in Dec 22 years.

So this coming March marks me being married half of my still young life.

I remember sitting and talking with my girlfriend and asking many things about her dreams and hopes.

I also asked her for the OK to talk about intimate things.

We went into engagement and marriage with intimate understandings.

These understandings were not contractual or devisive.

They were understandings of protection and behavior to have us bond together in both spirit and body.

So there were no hidden agenda's or hidden fetish.

If we were going to change as many ended marriages end because someone has changed.

We were going to change with each other.

While growing up in the church atmosphere that I did as a child.

I saw many a men teating their closest human contact in their adult life as if they were a machine and not a mutual intimate bond.

What I see as confusion in many marriages and intimacy even in the church today.

Is summed up in selfishness, control, fear, stress, and anxiety.

This leads to stress in a relationship.

How many ladies on this thread.

Start to feel stress as the days of the week start to tick towards Saturday morning.

When a relationship is pure and intimacy is true.

These moments are not dreaded or avoided.

They are shared, intimate and loving.

I did not need to read any self help books to understand intimacy.

I started out with a conversation with my girlfriend.

From there we made our mistakes in life and we made them together.

In the past 22 years we have laughed, cried, worried, prayed, loved and (wow) stayed together.

What I see today in society are acts being acted out.

Without the bonds of love and intimacy.

Anyone want to better thier intimate life start with a conversation.

Use that same example into your relationship with Chrsit and have more conversations with him.

My pastor requires several hours of premarital counseling and he encourages them to talk out every aspect of the marriage including sex. He will give them a list of questions and leave the room so they have privacy to discuss intimate issues. He covers "evverrrthang!" There have been many couples thank him because they felt pushing them into these discussions with each other gave them a better sex life. Several times, brides who were raised in the church and had no experience at all, have written letters thanking him because their parents had never talked to them about sex.

Neck, it sounds like you would make a great premarital counselor. If I were your pastor, I would give you the job of premarital counseling.