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Originally Posted by Aquila
This seems like an issue that's facing more single Christian and Apostolic men than we might realize.
Would it be wrong for an Apostolic brother to get some game?
You know... learn how to break the ice, flirt, use humour, tease, and understand how to provoke various emotional responses in women?
In the animal kingdom, men are often the most colorful and flamboyant. They have their song, their dance, and their brilliantly colored feathers. I know single guys who can't score a date that are great guys. But I've talked to girls who turned them down and I hear, "He's really nice. But he's really plain.", or, "He's really nice, but I don't think he's my type.", or, "He's really nice... but really... who is he?", or this one, "He's really nice...but he dresses like my dad." LOL Lastly, this one, "I really think he's neat... but he's too nice." (Read insecure and seemingly co-dependent, begging for a date).
Guys, if she feels you're begging for a date... she's most likely turn you down, at least on the first attempt. Why? Because if you appear to beg... you just sent a subconscious signal that she's worthy of someone better than YOU (negative social value). Is there any surprise that the first attempt fails miserably? But too many of us guys don't pick up on something this subtle. Even the women who receive this subtle message don't realize this is what's happening until it's discussed some time later.
These great friends of mine who go dateless are... well... BORING. Or at least they are perceived as being boring. They have no song to sing, no dance to dance, no feathers to ruffle. Is there an art to being a charming, confident, funny, and interesting man? A man who can give a woman the impression that his asking her out on a date isn't him begging or pleading for a chance... but rather... him extending the honor of inviting her to spend some time with him?
There's a reason why I'm asking...
Thoughts?
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I think you totally nailed it, Aquila. A man not displaying a natural confidence (and the fake kind won't work on the women that matter) has no chance here. Matt, if you review your past...conquests, to use shorthand, you'll see that those women were attracted to you because of your demeanor here. You can attract a mommy-type the other way, but is that what you want?
Being a bit less "available" is naturally intriguing to anyone, and happens best by accident, you being engaged so fully in some kind of creation that you just didn't notice her sexually, really...generalizing, this concept translates into a lack of that "hungry" look that attractive women are so used to, and its complete absence from your face makes them wonder if their makeup is alright or something, lol, again using shorthand, but this is what you're going for as a man.
I always used to wonder how some short, dumpy broke guys got some of their dates, lol...this is how.
Ps, be careful what you wish for.
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