Can you love more than one??? - Page 2

Rhoni · #11 05-05-2009, 03:05 PM

I think that when your needs are not getting met by a spouse for whatever reason, it puts you in a place of temptation to form a bond with another person who can meet this need [It isn't always about sex]. In order to affair proof your marriage you must know that not any one person can meet all your needs. You must not be tempted to form relationships which might jeopardize your relationship.

For this reason, the scriptures talk about not defrauding one another. The Bible is full of helpful ways to keep yourself single-minded and not searching for another to meet a need you feel your spouse isn't meeting for you. And, just remember...prayer changes things.

Blessings, Rhoni

Ron · #12 05-05-2009, 03:06 PM

FTR, I could not love more than one person in the way an intimate love is supposed to be between a man & wife.

Stilllll, those Mormons may be on to something......

Hoovie · #13 05-05-2009, 03:06 PM

One can try... but it's like a ball and chain.

EA · #14 05-05-2009, 03:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

I know that we have talked about this on here a couple times and I wanted to rehash it cause I think it is an interesting topic. Do you believe or not believe that it is possible to love more than one person at a time? Example can a wife love her husband and yet also love another person intimately? I am not talking about loving kids the same, but that is a fair example on showing multiple strands of love at once.

I think that it is very possible--but not saying I am right. That being said I am not for it and I think that it is wrong. Just want to debate the topic. I do think that while loving two people that the love can not be equal between the two. I think that one person will for whatever reason have more love given to them over the other person. Like a wife or husband might give more love to the spouse because of the kids they share or the time spent together and yet still love another person too.

Disclaimer:
this topic doesn't reflect my life but I am bringing up as a topic of debate.

I do think it's possible.

It's just as possible to love more than one as it is to be attracted to more than one.

Rhoni · #15 05-05-2009, 03:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Edward Anglin

I do think it's possible.

It's just as possible to love more than one as it is to be attracted to more than one.

We finally agree...i knew there would be something.

Blessings, Rhoni

Jack Shephard · #16 05-05-2009, 03:10 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Edward Anglin

I do think it's possible.

It's just as possible to love more than one as it is to be attracted to more than one.

I agree with you. I think that attraction can turn into emotional attachments, but doesn't have to turn into love. I guess that why I bring this up is that someone told me that you can only love one and the other would be lust.....not sure that I agree with that. But you are right here.

Ron · #17 05-05-2009, 03:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JTULLOCK

I agree with you. I think that attraction can turn into emotional attachments, but doesn't have to turn into love. I guess that why I bring this up is that someone told me that you can only love one and the other would be lust.....not sure that I agree with that. But you are right here.

Now hold on, are we talking love or infatuation?
There is a difference.

Jack Shephard · #18 05-05-2009, 03:15 PM

I am actually talking about love, but I was told by someone the other day that it is impossible to love more than one person. That one was love and the other lust or both were lust.

*AQuietPlace* · #19 05-05-2009, 03:18 PM

I think it is possible, but you should go to great lengths to avoid it.

The person who told you the other 'love' would be lust has a good point. True love is sacrificial, and usually if you find yourself 'loving' two people, one of those 'loves' is a selfish love. Usually.

Rhoni · #20 05-05-2009, 03:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rhoni

I think that when your needs are not getting met by a spouse for whatever reason, it puts you in a place of temptation to form a bond with another person who can meet this need [It isn't always about sex]. In order to affair proof your marriage you must know that not any one person can meet all your needs. You must not be tempted to form relationships which might jeopardize your relationship.

For this reason, the scriptures talk about not defrauding one another. The Bible is full of helpful ways to keep yourself single-minded and not searching for another to meet a need you feel your spouse isn't meeting for you. And, just remember...prayer changes things.

Blessings, Rhoni

Quote:

Originally Posted by *AQuietPlace*

I think it is possible, but you should go to great lengths to avoid it.

The person who said the other would be lust has a good point. True love is sacrificial, and usually if you find yourself 'loving' two people, one of those 'loves' is a selfish love. Usually.