Romantic Love in 2007 - Is there hope?

[Praxeas]

maybe, if they are in the church, they have grown up outside of church and come from broken families and are afraid to take a chance on commitment and expect it to not fall apart in a few years or a spouse to leave them as seems to happen a lot nowadays...even in "the church"

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Praxeas

lol...aren't most songs like that? I always get a kick when years later I realized what they were REALLY saying.

We listened to Lola when we were kids getting high and thinking what a great song it was....then years later and sober we realized he was singing about a guy in drag coming on to him

Oh Prax, that's too funny!

One of Rod Stewart's songs was like that for me - - NEVER realized what I had been singing all that time.

[Praxeas]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

Oh Prax, that's too funny!

One of Rod Stewart's songs was like that for me - - NEVER realized what I had been singing all that time.

haha..you know there is actually a website or used to be where people would put how they heard the lyrics..you get all kinds of crazy results

[Felicity]

Remarriage? Would depend on the man.

[Rhoni]

Originally Posted by Felicity

Remarriage? Would depend on the man.

My sister says if something happens to her husband she would never remarry. She hasn't been single for the better part of 14 years!

I think there are very good comments on this thread...I have been busy at work and unable to post...but I would say that it is a bit scary to me to think I will live the rest of my life alone. Am I independent? Absolutely! But I wish to share my life with someone who cares whether I come home at night and how my day has been. Not to mention the things we aren't supposed to mention here

Blessings, Rhoni

[Rhoni]

Actually, the reason I began this thread was my concern about those who have never experienced love, or have never married. They say they want to, but their views on love are so skewed that they are finding themselves alone, or are settling for spouses that they do not truly love. This is a concern and if you follow the single's conferences...there is a group of what I call "professional singles' who frequent them without any intention of ever committing or settling down. It is all so sad to me. Of course, I am a hopeless romantic and still believe in forever love and soulmates!

Blessings, Rhoni

[tamor]

Originally Posted by Pressing-On

Rhoni,
Whatever happened to being in the will of God and asking God to put that person in your life? Why go looking for a soul mate? Perhaps you don't mean it the way it sounds.

Sure you can feel some excitement being in a singles conference and wondering, "Will I meet that person during this function?" That's normal. It is going to be a struggle waiting for the "time" to happen, but underneath it all it has to be settled in the mind, "God, I am waiting on you."

Good post, P.O.

It is normal. I've been divorced. And I am remarried. It was not a struggle for me waiting because I said from before the time that I filed for divorce, "God I am waiting on you." I wanted God more than I ever wanted a man in my life, and sometimes I miss that intimate alone time with Him.

I understand what the Bible is saying when it talks about being single, because I had a holy intimacy with God that could rival nothing. I prayed and told Him that I did not want to date because I didn't want to share that time. Guess what? He sent him anyway -ha. But, I have the thrill of being married to someone who is my best friend but he is more in love with God than he is with me. Just the way I like it!

Originally Posted by Digging4Truth

Not knowing the people you know I can't say anything definite about their situation but I can say a few things in general.

1. This is a selfish generation and those who even really know what love is and how to love are few and far between. Not non-existent... just few and far between.

2. I think sometimes people who are out looking for "romantic love" are looking for some googly eyed relationship where they float around on cloud nine. That isn't romantic love. That is a dream world handed to us by books, tv etc. Romantic love is a day by day, feet on the ground, through good times & bad love for someone you are glad to have by your side. Romantic love is a friendship first and a friendship last. All the rest is just sandwiched inside the fact that, when the day is done, these 2 people just love to be with each other. THAT... my friend... after 16 years of marriage you are still excited when your best friend comes home from work... is as romantic as it gets.

3. Taking point 1 & 2 into mind I think people are looking for a forest and the trees keep getting in the way. I see so many people who are looking their soul mate in the face but just can't see it because their friend is standing there.

As I said... I can't say anything definitive for the people you speak of because I don't know them. But all too often a search for some dreamy definition of romantic love cheats people out of a life time of romance.

Romantic love is a choice you make when you find that friend (of the opposite sex, of course ) who is always by your side and you couldn't dream of doing without.

Very good! I also think there are people who love being in love and the feelings that come with it, once that feeling gone they move on.

[Ron]

Originally Posted by Praxeas

lol...aren't most songs like that? I always get a kick when years later I realized what they were REALLY saying.

We listened to Lola when we were kids getting high and thinking what a great song it was....then years later and sober we realized he was singing about a guy in drag coming on to him

Actually I believe it was about his ex!

[Digging4Truth]

Originally Posted by CupCake

Very good!

Thank you CupCake...

I have been wanting to say that since I first saw your nick...LOL

You have to admit... it just begs to be said.