Your thread about God's vengeance came at the perfect time for me, as I have been struggling with a situation for a little over a year now.
Question for the forum:
I believe I have forgiven someone, though they never asked, but I still have a deep-seated need to discuss the situation with them.
Is this, in your opinion, a good thing to do?
I think that's our human nature. You want to talk it out to feel better about the situation, but if you have truly forgiven them it might be best not to bring it all back up.
Perhaps, in time you can approach them and let them know, brother, I love you. They'll know you have forgiven them even though they haven't asked for it and then they have to deal with their end of the situation in their own heart.
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I think that's our human nature. You want to talk it out to feel better about the situation, but if you have truly forgiven them it might be best not to bring it all back up.
Perhaps, in time you can approach them and let them know, brother, I love you. They'll know you have forgiven them even though they haven't asked for it and then they have to deal with their end of the situation in their own heart.
Haha! We gave basically the same advice but you did it much much succinctly and economically than I did.
__________________ Smiles & Blessings.... ~Felicity Welsh~ (surname courtesy of Jim Yohe)
Your thread about God's vengeance came at the perfect time for me, as I have been struggling with a situation for a little over a year now.
Question for the forum:
I believe I have forgiven someone, though they never asked, but I still have a deep-seated need to discuss the situation with them.
Is this, in your opinion, a good thing to do?
It's hard to give a yes or no answer to this kind of question.
It depends a lot on the attitude of and where the people you've forgiven are at in regard to the situation that needs resolution. The thing is ...... you've forgiven them, but you don't know what their attitude toward the situation or toward you is. You don't know if they've forgiven you. They may not feel that they did anything wrong to need forgiveness for. They may not be as far along with attitude and forgiveness and all as you are and if they aren't, then to bring it up and try to discuss it might make things worse instead of better.
It's hard to know what to do in this kind of situation. Even if forgiveness has been granted and feelings basically resolved on both parts, the other party might not want to rehash the whole thing. So that means that you might not get the opportunity to set the record straight and that's difficult to have to deal with. But it sometimes is the way it has to be.
It's often necessary to let go and put these situations in the hand of God for Him to make opportunity for resolution. Perhaps the opportunity will arise later where you can discuss it, but to go to the people you feel were in the wrong and try to bring it all up and rehash it, is probably not going to work.
It's probably best to leave things as they are. Just do what you know is the right thing to do and go on and leave the other people and all that happened with God.
__________________ Smiles & Blessings.... ~Felicity Welsh~ (surname courtesy of Jim Yohe)
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
I have been where you are Brother, and I would go over in my mind what I would say if the time came that I could have the discussion. Do you feel things are unresolved?
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If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.
2 Chronicles 7:14 KJV
He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God? Micah 6:8 KJV
Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. 1 John 3:2 KJV
May I also add to what the wise ladies have already said...
If you go to the person who you feel you have forgiven to discuss the hurt or past... you may find that said person doesn't feel they need your forgiveness, or doesn't want your forgiveness, or is still haughty and may go through the motions of saying "sorry" but you will feel they really are not. They may also begin to defend themselves or the situation... make excuses... numerous things could happen that are not positive things.
You may find if you did this, that you are not satisfied with the results (or lack of them) and leave with that old anger and hurt that you had left behind.
If the Lord wills, someday He may bring opportunity to discuss these things... but He may not. I would wait on His perfect time... and if it never comes you can rest in knowing you have forgiven.
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Psalm 19:14
Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O LORD, my strength, and my redeemer.
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