Pray For Me That I Can Forgive Those Who've Wronged Me

[JaneEyre]

Pray for me. I don't want to harbor bitterness in my heart. I need to release some issues and allow God to heal me - spiritually and emotionally. I've been hurt deeply by some people in the UPCI and I have avoided them and said that I would never attend another UPCI church other than for a funeral or wedding. To put it simply, I was wronged. Treated unjustly and betrayed. That may sound subjective to you - but I have the facts to prove it. That is no excuse for hatred, resentment and bitterness. Pray that when I say I have forgiven these people that I really have.

Please don't tell me I am a whine baby. LOL
Thank you.

Originally Posted by JaneEyre

Pray for me. I don't want to harbor bitterness in my heart. I need to release some issues and allow God to heal me - spiritually and emotionally. I've been hurt deeply by some people in the UPCI and I have avoided them and said that I would never attend another UPCI church other than for a funeral or wedding. To put it simply, I was wronged. Treated unjustly and betrayed. That may sound subjective to you - but I have the facts to prove it. That is no excuse for hatred, resentment and bitterness. Pray that when I say I have forgiven these people that I really have.

Please don't tell me I am a whine baby. LOL
Thank you.

Jane,

I am praying for your healing and also your wholeness.

I have been where you are and I am not only healed, I am made whole.. no scars -- no wounds... and it only happened when I went to those who I felt had wronged me and asked them to forgive ME for harboring feelings like those you have described. You may be surprised, as I was, what you find out from those you thought had your demise as their goal!

[The Mrs]

Originally Posted by JaneEyre

Pray for me. I don't want to harbor bitterness in my heart. I need to release some issues and allow God to heal me - spiritually and emotionally. I've been hurt deeply by some people in the UPCI and I have avoided them and said that I would never attend another UPCI church other than for a funeral or wedding. To put it simply, I was wronged. Treated unjustly and betrayed. That may sound subjective to you - but I have the facts to prove it. That is no excuse for hatred, resentment and bitterness. Pray that when I say I have forgiven these people that I really have.

Please don't tell me I am a whine baby. LOL
Thank you.

Jane,

You are not alone with your struggles in this. I think the more you get to know some of us, the more you will see there are many that have been in your shoes.

You are on the right road with this request.

The best thing that worked for me was to pray for them. I had to keep praying for them till I felt a love for them. It's a huge step. It takes a lot of dying to self...at least, that was MY experience and how I got through it...I'm sure others will have some great advice as well.

Blessings to you...

[Ron]

Originally Posted by The Mrs

Jane,

You are not alone with your struggles in this. I think the more you get to know some of us, the more you will see there are many that have been in your shoes.

You are on the right road with this request.

The best thing that worked for me was to pray for them. I had to keep praying for them till I felt a love for them. It's a huge step. It takes a lot of dying to self...at least, that was MY experience and how I got through it...I'm sure others will have some great advice as well.

Blessings to you...

Jane, this is a good answer above & very true.
I am sorry that you were hurt and your prayer request above shows you desire to do the right thing.
We all have been hurt at one time or another by other people & unfortunately will be again as Jesus already knew when whe admonished, no commanded us to forgive others.

I will be praying for you that God would give you Grace as you make that decision to release any ought or bitterness & forgive others.

[Felicity]

Recognizing and admitting that we, too, have wronged others at some point or other should help us in the obligation and biblical requirement to forgive others.

Sure, there are degrees of offense, but that doesn't justify excusing our own while being unforgiving toward someone else just because we feel someone else's offense toward us was more grievous.

"This, then, is how you should pray:

Our Father which art in heaven .....

Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us ..... "

[RevBuddy]

Jane:

Your feelings are so natural and resultant of offenses and hurts. I share your experience and your heartache. Please allow the Lord to touch your spirit and your heart. That touch is like no other and He can make all things new. Forgiving is not an action; it's an attitude.

Take up your cross and follow Him...

...you are in my prayers and thoughts...there is an expectancy of His ministry in your life and I await your overcoming testimony...in His glorious Name!

[CC1]

Jane,

I am praying for you. If you let bitterness prevail you will end up being that which you hate.

I know this is easier said than done but you really have to release the hurt to God in prayer and let the Holy Spirit be the comforter that he promised he would be.

[pelathais]

Jane, there are many of us that have had to battle with this. It's bad enough being wronged, but then (at least for me) it seemed like the wrong doers pinned a dragon to my back that burdened me for years.

What has helped me was seeing the same ones who wronged me being put into unfair situations themselves. Any desire for "revenge" that I harbored melted away as I found myself feeling pity for them.

Even if I could have wrecked vengence and justice upon them, I wouldn't have done to them the things that they were forced to endure. Getting to the place where you actually feel sorry for those who have done you wrong brings healing, but it usually takes time.

Hang in there, be the Christian that you know you are and strive to be more Christlike- looking at His perfect example of overcoming injustice.

[JaneEyre]

Originally Posted by pelathais

Jane, there are many of us that have had to battle with this. It's bad enough being wronged, but then (at least for me) it seemed like the wrong doers pinned a dragon to my back that burdened me for years.

What has helped me was seeing the same ones who wronged me being put into unfair situations themselves. Any desire for "revenge" that I harbored melted away as I found myself feeling pity for them.

Even if I could have wrecked vengence and justice upon them, I wouldn't have done to them the things that they were forced to endure. Getting to the place where you actually feel sorry for those who have done you wrong brings healing, but it usually takes time.

Hang in there, be the Christian that you know you are and strive to be more Christlike- looking at His perfect example of overcoming injustice.

God has already started dealing with them. I don't see how He can bless them with what they've done. All they will have in their church are a few elderly people (relatives) and disgruntled saints. God won't go against His Word. The vengeance is His. I wouldn't know how to apply vengeance if I had the choice.

How they can lie down and sleep at night is beyond me. I must forgive them to be forgiven, but sometimes the words I speak don't match the feelings in my heart.

If I speak defeat, I'll be defeated. (But it takes time to feel victorious)...I choose not to be defeated.

If I speak forgiveness, I'll forgive. (But it takes time to feel the forgiveness)...I choose to forgive.

I'm not doing them any harm (unless you count coming here to relieve the tension - and I shall always keep them anonymous) or wishing them any harm. In my thinking they are a pitiful group to have to stoop to what they've done.

Thanks to everyone who has said they prayed or will pray for me. I need it.

[Felicity]

i prayed before like David prayed....... "Kill them God, kill them!" LOL!

Now I just love them.