How to Apologize!

StillStanding · #1 02-10-2007, 05:59 PM

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

whollyHis · #2 02-10-2007, 06:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

This is a pet peeve of mine- that is NOT an apology- it's 'cop-out'.

#3 02-10-2007, 06:02 PM

Nice ... I hope I never have to use this thread, but emotions can run high at times....but I am gonna do my best to be kind to all and treat them as I would like to be treated....

Love and blessing

RevDWW · #4 02-10-2007, 06:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pianoman

AFF is in the honeymoon phase, so I thought I would start this thread to teach folks how to apologize when they've obviously offended someone. Folks can refer to this thread when they need to apologize!

1. Admit you were wrong.
2. Acknowledge the hurt you have caused.
3. Ask for forgiveness.
4. Promise to never do it again

e.g. I was wrong for attacking you personally like I did. I know my actions have caused you much hurt, pain and anger. Could you please find it in your heart to forgive me? From here on out, I will treat you with respect!

Good luck!

note: I'm tired of hearing apologies that say, "If I hurt you"! Of course you hurt them!!!

Yes, I forgive you................

Ron · #5 02-10-2007, 06:03 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by whollyHis

This is a pet peeve of mine- that is NOT an apology- it's 'cop-out'.

Is it? Have you ever apoligized when you didn't thin k you did anything wrong?
What about love your enemies? There is a lot of things we are commanded to do wether we feel like it or not.

How is that a cop out?

secretplace · #6 02-10-2007, 06:08 PM

I like it when they say....if I've said anything about you...I feel like saying "tell me more".

RevDWW · #7 02-10-2007, 06:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by whollyHis

This is a pet peeve of mine- that is NOT an apology- it's 'cop-out'.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ron

Is it? Have you ever apoligized when you didn't thin k you did anything wrong?
What about love your enemies? There is a lot of things we are commanded to do wether we feel like it or not.

How is that a cop out?

It may not be a cop out, it could be an admission of guilt, but without malice. You said or did something that hurt someone but that was not the true intent!

whollyHis · #8 02-10-2007, 06:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ron

Is it? Have you ever apoligized when you didn't thin k you did anything wrong?
What about love your enemies? There is a lot of things we are commanded to do wether we feel like it or not.

How is that a cop out?

When you KNOW you have offended or hurt someone, and you apologize by saying,"IF I have done anything, I am sorry..." You KNOW you have- take accountabilty for it...sorry if I pushed your button, Ron...

Even if you don't feel that you have erred, if someone got offended by your words, or your actions, then you need to say, "I am sorry that I hurt you, I'll try to never do that again.." JMO

Ron · #9 02-10-2007, 06:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by whollyHis

When you KNOW you have offended or hurt someone, and you apologize by saying,"IF I have done anything, I am sorry..." You KNOW you have- take accountabilty for it...sorry if I pushed your button, Ron...

Even if you don't feel that you have erred, if someone got offended by your words, or your actions, then you need to say, "I am sorry that I hurt you, I'll try to never do that again.." JMO

You haven't pushed my button-I am sor....

No really, some people may feel that you took it wrong, and have no reason to be offended.

Just another side to the equation,

JMHO!

ManOfWord · #10 02-10-2007, 06:26 PM

Humble pie NEVER tastes good!!!

When you have hurt someone, and you know it because they tell you, or you can see the bleeding wound, simply admit the hurt, take responsibility, ask for forgiveness and let them respond...............

"Obviously what I did or said hurt you more than I can understand. I can assure you that it was not my intent to do so. I am so sorry for the hurt I caused. Please forgive me and know that I will try my best to not let it happen again."