I used to mock people who made that kind of claim to end a marriage.
Irreconcilable differences.
I used to think that there was no difference so great that a resolution could not be reached. I used to think that the "irreconcilable differences" claim was just an excuse to get out of a marriage, and swap up. But the older I get, the more I realize there really are some differences that cannot be resolved.
Understand that I am not excusing divorce. I still believe that a person has a moral obligation to stand by the vows they made to their spouse, and to God. But I can see how two people can diverge after a while. How life can effect major personality changes. So much so, that a person becomes unrecognizable after a while. This is why quality time in marriage must have its place. It minimizes the differences as people grow together.
I have several questions about "irreconcilable differences".
How should we handle the irreconcilable differences that arise in our lives outside of marriage?
How long do you stay with an employer you are consistently at odds with?
How long do you stay in an organization you disagree with?
How long do you stay in a church that is headed in a different direction than you want to go?
What level of disagreement is tolerable and acceptable? At what point do you cut bait and run?
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Originally Posted by tbpew
Irreconcilable differences is an interesting “state of affairs” that each of us have probably had experience with during our life since receiving the Holy Ghost. These circumstances do (and should) stir a lot of worthwhile introspection.
Is it a spiritual witness of “not agreeing” and therefore unable to walk together?
Or
Is it a witness of an area where our old man is still alive? More specifically, an area where we are still dealing with carnal-mindedness that prompts us we to desire to possess things that we are not able to have.
The James Chap. 4 setting may apply in the worst of these…. From whence [come] wars and fightings among you? [come they] not hence, [even] of your lusts that war in your members?
Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume [it] upon your lusts
I appreciate the post that made the comparison with the covenant relationships and non-covenant relationships. I guess it is fairly common knowledge around here that I do not view local church assemblies as a covenant relationship. We are not married to our local church or the founding/senior pastor. Brethren, yes. Betrothed, no.
I keep thinking that these stress-producing relationships are allowed to be at work in our lives to search our own hearts. If we can allow the Spirit to guide our personal understanding concerning our own role in these, the hidden motive of our hearts can be made apparent and our soul can prosper.
If we can gain clarity in the Holy Ghost, we are always blessed by the individuals and circumstances that seem so utterly detestable.
His word burns in my heart like a fire...Fire Fall Down
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Originally Posted by Pastor Poster
Marriage was just a segway
The MRS called in sick tonight and asked if I could do the correcting for her:
The term you meant, PP, is segue NOT segway.
Segue: move smoothly: to make a smooth, almost imperceptible transition from one state, situation, or subject to another (e.g. segued into a discussion of the playoffs without missing a beat)
In reference to marriage...I think "irreconcilable differences" usually is code for: I'm tired of fighting.
To me, it means, "He wants to do drugs and I don't want my nursing license to be in constant jeopardy, as well as the placement of my children in my home."
It also means, "You can make more money than I can, therefore, I will stay home while you work."
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To me, it means, "He wants to do drugs and I don't want my nursing license to be in constant jeopardy, as well as the placement of my children in my home."
It also means, "You can make more money than I can, therefore, I will stay home while you work."
Amen HO. To me it means that we had different interpretations of what our wedding vows meant.
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The MRS called in sick tonight and asked if I could do the correcting for her:
The term you meant, PP, is segue NOT segway.
Segue: move smoothly: to make a smooth, almost imperceptible transition from one state, situation, or subject to another (e.g. segued into a discussion of the playoffs without missing a beat)
Man, it must be fun to correct my mistakes. After all, they are so few and far between. It's great to know you are there to pick me up, if ever I fall.
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