How to get over the Greatest Hurt

[rgcraig]

What do you guys think about this quote:

"The good news is that you don't have to change the past in order to get over it. What you have to change is the MEANING of the past.

If you make the right moves, you will come to view certain events as birth pains that led to a new AND IMPROVED life. THAT'S how you "get over" the past."

*From Today's Christian Marriage

[missourimary]

Renda, I was going to say this earlier, so in answer to your question:
...And sometimes, I have needed to recognize I couldn't get OVER a hurt, but rather eventually grew around it, like a tree next to a barbed wire fence. The tree can rub against the wire and resist it. This will only weaken the tree. Or the tree can grow around it. It doesn't deny the wire is there. It would prefer the wire not to be there, maybe. But rather than allowing the wire to weaken it, it grows around it, and in doing so, the tree becomes stronger.

There is no one right way to get over all hurts. The allegory of the tree is not a way to say "get over it." It's just that some wounds never really heal-at least not the way we would like. The tree will never be the same, for the barbed wire running through it's heart. And the wire doesn't belong there. But the tree will live anyway.

I was going to add this earlier, but didn't want to upset anyone. There are things I will never get over, but that I have lived through.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by missourimary

Renda, I was going to say this earlier, so in answer to your question:
...And sometimes, I have needed to recognize I couldn't get OVER a hurt, but rather eventually grew around it, like a tree next to a barbed wire fence. The tree can rub against the wire and resist it. This will only weaken the tree. Or the tree can grow around it. It doesn't deny the wire is there. It would prefer the wire not to be there, maybe. But rather than allowing the wire to weaken it, it grows around it, and in doing so, the tree becomes stronger.

There is no one right way to get over all hurts. The allegory of the tree is not a way to say "get over it." It's just that some wounds never really heal-at least not the way we would like. The tree will never be the same, for the barbed wire running through it's heart. And the wire doesn't belong there. But the tree will live anyway.

I was going to add this earlier, but didn't want to upset anyone. There are things I will never get over, but that I have lived through.

I believe what you've said is good, but the wire didn't stop the tree from growing. The tree grew around the wire - did it change the shape of the tree, yes, but it didn't stop it from growing.

You can't change the wire being there (past), but you will continue to grow (future).

Someone that continues to go back to the hurt and apply it to now probably won't ever get over the hurt.

Disclaimer: I'm just posting as a person with an opinion like everyone else.

[missourimary]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

I believe what you've said is good, but the wire didn't stop the tree from growing. The tree grew around the wire - did it change the shape of the tree, yes, but it didn't stop it from growing.

You can't change the wire being there (past), but you will continue to grow (future).

Someone that continues to go back to the hurt and apply it to now probably won't ever get over the hurt.

Disclaimer: I'm just posting as a person with an opinion like everyone else.

Take it from someone who had to trim a few fence rows... the tree that grew around the fence is a lot more likely to withstand the axe.

[tamor]

Originally Posted by rgcraig

What do you guys think about this quote:

"The good news is that you don't have to change the past in order to get over it. What you have to change is the MEANING of the past.

If you make the right moves, you will come to view certain events as birth pains that led to a new AND IMPROVED life. THAT'S how you "get over" the past."

*From Today's Christian Marriage

Good post!

[seguidordejesus]

Originally Posted by Dora

Ok. Who's baaaack?????

You, too

[Michael Phelps]

Originally Posted by Timmy

(Actually, no. I was J/K, 100%. )

No, several people have, you are right! I heard Jerry Jones preach it, and I even preached it once myself!

[missourimary]

I heard a message entitled "Scars" years ago that really made sense, too.

[Dora]

I wrote a song called "Scars." God takes hurts and turns them into places of strength.

[rgcraig]

Originally Posted by Dora

I wrote a song called "Scars." God takes hurts and turns them into places of strength.

When your finals are over maybe you can post the words!