Both men and women deal with lust, just in different ways. A man may be tempted to have illicit sex for instant physical gratification, a woman may be tempted to have illicit sex in order to achieve intimacy. Either way, both must resist their temptation, and the outcome is sinful on both sides.
I have found that women DO struggle with lust, e.g., sinful desires, and while they may not take on the same characteristics as what a man struggles with, their struggles are just as present and just as difficult.
I have a friend whose husband had an affair, and so she had one in an act of revenge. The problem: his affair was meaningless (to him), and her affair destroyed them both, because she became emotionally entangled with the other man. His lust was for sex, hers was for revenge. Either way, they both committed adultery, and the marriage was lost.
Men daydream about naked women, and women daydream about fully clothed men sweeping them off their feet and taking them *away* to the castle in the skies. IMO, either daydream is wrong, unless your spouse stars in the fantasy.
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
Bro. Blume,
I think also that women do not think about sex in the same light as men. Women, for the most part, look at the act of sex as intimacy between two caring people in a committed relationship and they give physically to receive love. Men often times 'pretend' to give love in an effort to seduce a woman to the sex act.
I don't give sex to get love. I'm already loved, therefore I can enjoy sex. If I was doing it to "receive love" I would feel used.
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Women, for the most part, could care less about looking at other men naked whereas men seem to get a thrill from looking at other women whether they act on it or not.
In counseling couples about watching porn together, most times the woman feels dirty and that the man is being unfaithful, whereas the man sees it as a precurser to some good sex with his wife. This is a fact although not Biblical.
I really have never understood this fascination. If you have a wife, why not just look at HER naked??????? That's probably a question you can't answer...LOL!!!
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"God, send me anywhere, only go with me. Lay any burden on me, only sustain me. And sever any tie in my heart except the tie that binds my heart to Yours."
--David Livingstone
"To see no being, not God’s or any, but you also go thither,
To see no possession but you may possess it—enjoying all without labor or purchase—
abstracting the feast, yet not abstracting one particle of it;…."
--Walt Whitman, Leaves of Grass, Song of the Open Road
The thing I see is we are given natural desires,both men and women what we do with them is when we can get into trouble.
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People who are always looking for fault,can find it easily all they have to do,is look into their mirror.
There they can find plenty of fault.
I don't give sex to get love. I'm already loved, therefore I can enjoy sex. If I was doing it to "receive love" I would feel used.
I really have never understood this fascination. If you have a wife, why not just look at HER naked??????? That's probably a question you can't answer...LOL!!!
I think the thing with porn and men is the male pysche that likes being physically wanted by women. Those seductive picture of women pose with a message "I want you, come and get it" It's fantasy world for men, kinda like romance novel for women feed the womens mind.
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Today pull up the little weeds,
The sinful thoughts subdue,
Or they will take the reins themselves
And someday master you. --Anon.
The most deadly sins do not leap upon us, they creep up on us.
Bro. Blume,
I think also that women do not think about sex in the same light as men. Women, for the most part, look at the act of sex as intimacy between two caring people in a committed relationship and they give physically to receive love. Men often times 'pretend' to give love in an effort to seduce a woman to the sex act.
Women, for the most part, could care less about looking at other men naked whereas men seem to get a thrill from looking at other women whether they act on it or not.
In counseling couples about watching porn together, most times the woman feels dirty and that the man is being unfaithful, whereas the man sees it as a precurser to some good sex with his wife. This is a fact although not Biblical.
The Bible tells married men to be satisfied with the wife of his youth and only take pleasure in her breasts.
Blessings, Rhoni
Now, I agree with those words. Amen. (All of them I mean).
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"Many Christians do not try to understand what was written in a verse in the Bible. Instead they approach the passage to prove what they already believe."
George - as in curious
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