He Called Me Dad

[Rico]

Originally Posted by tamor

Is that because everyone is sitting still looking at the girls in bikinis?

Sister, I don't think I've ever seen more exposed flesh than what I've seen at Santa Monica and Venice Beach. I am talking about thousands of the beautiful people of this world, showing off their blessings. Add to that the other things I saw some skanks do out in public, and it's no wonder why they call Los Angeles the Sodom and Gomorrah of our day. There are a lot of people out there. But, it's not like that everywhere. The suburbs are pretty nice, and the beaches are really nice once you get out of the general Los Angeles area.

[ReformedDave]

Originally Posted by Rico

Southern California, where it never rains, the girls live in bikinis, and it takes an hour to drive 6 blocks!

Near San Diego?

As the one being the child in an adoption just a piece of advice. His mother can feel VERY insecure especially if your son bonds with you and your wife. Please reassure his mom that nothing will change in their relationship.

[ForeverBlessed]

aww.. make me cry Rico.

[Rico]

Originally Posted by ReformedDave

Near San Diego?

As the one being the child in an adoption just a piece of advice. His mother can feel VERY insecure especially if your son bonds with you and your wife. Please reassure his mom that nothing will change in their relationship.

They live in Riverside.



Normally I would agree with you, but she was overjoyed to have heard from us. They had been thinking of doing a search for us, but didn't know my wife and I had ended up together, so they didn't know what name to use to search under. They knew my name, her name, and her mother's name. She said they had assumed my MIL had died years ago because of the illness she had. They were very surprised to hear that it has only been just under two years ago that she died. I don't think her becoming insecure will become an issue, especially with us being half a country apart.

[ReformedDave]

Originally Posted by Rico

They live in Riverside.



Normally I would agree with you, but she was overjoyed to have heard from us. They had been thinking of doing a search for us, but didn't know my wife and I had ended up together, so they didn't know what name to use to search under. They knew my name, her name, and her mother's name. She said they had assumed my MIL had died years ago because of the illness she had. They were very surprised to hear that it has only been just under two years ago that she died. I don't think her becoming insecure will become an issue, especially with us being half a country apart.

I truly hope everything meets your hopes and dreams. I'm happy for you.

[Rico]

Originally Posted by ReformedDave

I truly hope everything meets your hopes and dreams. I'm happy for you.

We are definitely making a point of not coming on too strong RD. I spoke with my mom today and we agreed to wait awhile before we bring her into the picture with contacts and stuff like that. We are gonna take things nice and easy with them, and hope that they will be ready for us to come visit them in the Spring of next year. I think that would be plenty of time for us to share a few emails, some pictures, a few phone calls, that sort of thing. I'd like nothing better than to be able to meet him face to face, throw my arms around him and give him a big old bear hug. I can wait a few more months, though. I've waited this long as it is.

[Margies3]

Originally Posted by Rico

You were adopted? Wow. It's good to see you survived it.

Rico, as an adoptive parent, I want you to know that I find a comment like this to be VERY offensive. That was out of line!

I'm sure that the people who adopted your son loved him as much as if they had given birth to him. I know you've made a comment about how she doesn't seem at all insecure. Well, let me assure you that that is only because she is choosing what she believes is best for her son. Trust me, deep down, she is quaking!

[ReformedDave]

Originally Posted by Margies3

Rico, as an adoptive parent, I want you to know that I find a comment like this to be VERY offensive. That was out of line!

I'm sure that the people who adopted your son loved him as much as if they had given birth to him. I know you've made a comment about how she doesn't seem at all insecure. Well, let me assure you that that is only because she is choosing what she believes is best for her son. Trust me, deep down, she is quaking!

I'm sure Rico didn't mean it to be offensive........

Originally Posted by Rico

Sorry I didn't catch this post. Brother, I appreciate the offer, but we've already decided that we are going to take the Amtrak train there, and we're all going. I can't accept your offer, but I am humbled that you would make it.

Well,, I have plenty of airmiles if you change your mind... but I LOVE to do AMTRACK as well.. but honestly I have found in the long run Amtrac is almost non competitive in pricing.. are you finding the same thing?

[OneAccord]

Originally Posted by Rico

Gang, I have some very exciting news to share with you. As some of you may already know, my wife and I made a baby boy who was born in 1988. Due to the circumstances at the time, he was adopted out to a couple who had tried for 10 years to conceive and were unsuccessful. Over the years, I have tracked the family down, but never attempted to make contact with them. I promised the family I would not interfere and they promised me he would grow up knowing the circumstances around his adoption.

Well, this child of ours is now 19 years old and I thought I would try tracking the family down again. I searched public records, court records, and finally paid a service to give me whatever contact information they had on them. I got the courage up to try the phone numbers I had been given, and I made contact with the family today! In fact, I just got off the phone with them!

His adoptive mother and I spoke on the phone for about an hour. It turns out our son is very borderline retarded. I was shocked to hear this because none of our other children are retarded. They don't know what caused him to be retarded, but we think it may be because he got stuck in the birth canal during delivery and this may have caused him to go without oxygen. He didn't start showing any real symptoms until around the 5th grade, however. His mom says you would not guess he has any issues by looking at him and his handicap is very borderline.

We originally decided she would talk with him about speaking with us, even though she was confident that he would want to talk with us. Within five minutes of us ending our call, she called right back with him on the phone!

Y'all have no idea how nervous I was. It takes a lot to get my nerves rattled, but I was literally shaking. We got the whole family around our phone, put it on speaker, and proceeded to introduce ourselves to him. He does have a slight speech impediment, but he was very excited to talk with his sisters (our son is at a friend's house right now), and he especially wanted to talk with me and my wife.

I couldn't help but tell him that I loved him and missed him and have thought about him so much over the years. He told me he loves me too and called me Dad. We all started crying at that point. Isn't God good? For the first time since I left, I wish I still lived in California.

Anyway, our house is unusually quiet right now. Everyone is off somewhere thinking about the missing member of our family. I don't know what God has planned through all of this, but I want to publicly thank Him for answering a long standing prayer I've had on His desk. I found my son, and he called me Dad.

Wow. I've been meaning to read this thread since it was posted, but, for whatever reason. I kept forgetting. I guess the Lord knew I would need to read this today. I just read it and, boy, Rico, you reached out and grabbed me by the heart. I guesss I'm feeling a little emotional today, but as I read this.... tears filled my eyes. I rejoice with you, brother.

In answer to the thread "Why do you hang around here?". This is one of the reasons I hang around here.

I'll be printing this out and saving it as one of AFF's finest!