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Originally Posted by Jodiah91
LOL. . .well, I admit that sometimes if I've had a particular bad day at work, I come home and look for an argument just to vent. My husband refuses to take the bait which, in my irritated state, only irritates me more. I'm trying to work on it  And when I feel strongly about something or believe that I am right, I do like to state my case. Maybe 'debate' was a better word? My dad always told me I should have been a lawyer! |
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Debate would definitely be a better word. Of the changes that my wife and I have made in one another I have helped my wife change the way she word things.
When we first got married I would tell her. Shape your words differently. They are too pointed. Make them rounder & smoother.
She just looked at me.
But after I explained she understood. We have a philosophy that works well for us. Words mean things. So we are careful in our choice of words because they come from the tongue which is sharp and can destroy & kill.
I think that mankind as a whole would benefit from people being more thoughtful (both the meaning of kindness and the meaning of putting good thought into their words) when they speak.
It has certainly been one of the cornerstones of the fantastic relationship that my wife and I have.
It sounds as though your husband and I are similar in some ways. My wife came from a family that argues a lot but I would never return it if she tried.
But I was willing to discuss it with her if she would like to sit down and talk.
It was frustrating at first but now it is the way we live and it leaves our home void of the raised voices and hurtful sayings that were only said because we failed to realize that words mean things.
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