Dear Rhoni - Page 6

Rhoni · #51 02-19-2007, 05:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Felicity

Lavish honour and love, respect and yes - even gifts - on your pastor and pastor's wife. Most of them are more than well deserving and it will only benefit the church in that she will want to be an even better pastor's wife and the church will reap blessing and honour and respect from the Lord.

You reap what you sow. Sow this kind of love, honour and generosity and you will receive it. It's the law of the harvest.

I know this is true! Thank-you for sharing this Sister Felicity! Your church is blessed to have you, and you are blessed to have them.

Love, Rhoni

Margies3 · #52 02-19-2007, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Dear Margie,

As much as you feel anger toward Katie's mother...she feels more. When revealing such information as this you need to think of just why you are wanting to tell her this? You see, I look at this from a different perspective...Katie's mother got brave enough to finally tell the truth. Maybe she was expecting your mother to do something about it. Your mother did nothing. So, before telling her, which I recommend you not...think about it.

Many women , such as Katie's mother, was also sufferring abuse and she didn't know how to save herself much less her children. Her self-esteem had been shattered. Her expectations of family life shattered. She didn't know she had any power or control.

Katie is speaking up, encourage her to go to counseling to work through all of her issues from the past. Affirm her and also, when she speaks of her mother...tell her what I have just told you: "I am sure your mother loved you so much. We don't know how she was abused, and why she felt she had no strength to fight. It would only benefit you, Katie, to forgive your mother and pray for her healing of the past also. Look how God has brought you out and what God has blessed you with. You are still standing."

Nothing good can come of telling Katie these things unless...somewhere down the road, when healing is happening...she needs to know that HER mother did tell someone, but because they were so sure that Mom would not leave her children in that situation they did not act on it. No person knows what they would do in the same situation unless they have been there.

I had a girl friend growing up. We knew something was wrong in the home but didn't know what. We were children also. In later years we found out that her father had been molesting all the girls at home. He was one thing at church [a lay preacher] and another thing at home. What could we have done if we knew? We will never know. But thankfully my friend has had healing, but many others in her family have not.

I will reiterate, do not mention what you know to Katie unless it benfits her healing knowing that her mother did reach out and tell, but only do so under Godly professional counsleing.

Blessings, Rhoni

Thank you, Rhoni. This is excellent advice. I was already leaning that direction (not telling Katie), but wanted to bounce it off of someone else who would understand. I appreciate you taking time to respond. God bless you!!

(And I'm still praying about your wedding situation. God has answers that we don't even know about. He reveals them when He's ready.)

Rhoni · #53 02-19-2007, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Margies3

Thank you, Rhoni. This is excellent advice. I was already leaning that direction (not telling Katie), but wanted to bounce it off of someone else who would understand. I appreciate you taking time to respond. God bless you!!

(And I'm still praying about your wedding situation. God has answers that we don't even know about. He reveals them when He's ready.)

Margie,

We all need prayer and counseling from time to time...even the counselors among us. One of the main reasons for me going into counseling was to better understand myself and others around me. The Bible tells us that the heart is deceitful above all things, and who can know it? Thank God for all the ministering angels we have here on the forum...and you are one of them!

Love & Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni · #54 02-19-2007, 01:30 PM

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Dear Rhoni,

I am a moderator on an online board. Everytime I get after the members, they cell phone me wanting special privilages. How can I relate to them I cannot be impartial without sometimes even banning them?

Signed,
Fair and Balanced

Tee Hee...

Rhoni · #55 02-19-2007, 01:33 PM

Dear F&B,

The truth is you can't be altogether unbiased, but you can try to be as consistent as possible with the rules to the forum.

Many of us would like to think you like us better than all the others...you know how people are. I do feel that every situation should be looked at individually as well as collectively.

Let Grace and mercy reign as long as it is directed toward Rhoni

!

Blessings, Rhoni

Rhoni · #56 02-19-2007, 01:33 PM

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Dear Rhoni,

I am confused. There are members who ask to have accounts deleted. They then are back two days later. What do I do?

Signed,

Overworked Admin

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Rhoni · #57 02-19-2007, 01:36 PM

Dear Overworked Administrator,

Continue to do what you have been doing. Give the poster a couple hours, a couple days, or even a month to cool off, calm down, get their emotions in check, and then if they really want to do it...wait some time longer because we all know that AFF is an addiction...if I remember correctly...kind of like CRACK COCAINE.

Blessings, Rhoni

rgcraig · #58 02-19-2007, 06:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Rhoni

Tee Hee...

That was hilarious!

Falla39 · #59 02-20-2007, 11:41 PM

Sis, Rhoni,

Thinking about you and just wanted to say hello and I am

praying for you, Little Sister!

God is going to work out all our situations because HE CAN!!!

It is so wonderful to be able to cast it all on Him for He cares

for us! There is NO ONE who doesn't need this Friend called JESUS!!

Praying for Lana and family also!

Blessings,

Falla39

Rhoni · #60 02-21-2007, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Falla39

Sis, Rhoni,

Thinking about you and just wanted to say hello and I am

praying for you, Little Sister!

God is going to work out all our situations because HE CAN!!!

It is so wonderful to be able to cast it all on Him for He cares

for us! There is NO ONE who doesn't need this Friend called JESUS!!

Praying for Lana and family also!

Blessings,

Falla39

God is taking care of things in my heart. I believe that when Lana has her next MRI it will show there is no trace of a tumor...not even scar tissue where it was!

Love & Blessings, Rhoni