Children of Lost Parents and Standards?

[Arphaxad]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

This is a true story and this sadly happened, there was a child in a beginners SS class whose parents were not saved.The child came to the SS class wearing earrings and the SS.teacher told her she couldn't come to the church wearing those ,well the child quit coming to SS.

that aint right, SS teachers don't run the church.
there was a guy that had piercings that was baptized, he removed them prior and put them on again afterwards and someone( not one in authority) told him that he couldn't wear them again at all, whether at church or not. I asked him why he said that, and that we will probably never see that guy again. Well, he never came again. The sad thing is the pentecostal police guy is backslidden now.


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[pelathais]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

This is a true story and this sadly happened, there was a child in a beginners SS class whose parents were not saved.The child came to the SS class wearing earrings and the SS.teacher told her she couldn't come to the church wearing those ,well the child quit coming to SS.

I could see telling the child that she could not preach the sermon from the pulpit that day, but to exclude someone like this, especially a child, is just heartless.

What's the point in even having a church if you run off everyone who visits? That sounds a lot like an environment I was in for years.

[JaneEyre]

Originally Posted by pelathais

I could see telling the child that she could not preach the sermon from the pulpit that day, but to exclude someone like this, especially a child, is just heartless.

What's the point in even having a church if you run off everyone who visits? That sounds a lot like an environment I was in for years.

Yes..I've witnessed those kind of things, too....People would have skirts in the back of the church for the little girls if they came to church in pants. I thought that was carrying things too far. It was so embarrassing to those kids to have to be taken into the Sunday School room to change clothes and sometimes the clothes didn't fit. No wonder that someone dreamed (and posted) that the Angels were folding up little white robes. We can offend our children by talking negatively about the pastors and saints in the church or we can offend the little ones coming to our churches unawares of all of the "to do" lists. Sad, sad, sad. This makes me want to cry.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by myhaloisintheshop

I have to disagree. I have 4 kids and at our church (which is a conservative UPC church I might add) we have probably 20+ kids that come and the girls wear pants and most of the boys wear shorts in the summer.

My boys understand that those kids parents don't come to church so they don't have a choice about their clothing. They understand more than you think!

Then there parents like us who are in church and let their sons wear shorts.

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by NightOwl

OK I know this is an old topic but it got me thinking.
I started going to a UPC church when I was 8, was baptized at 9. I went to church on and off till I was 14 then was going regular I started going as a result of people from the church going door to door. Neither my parents went to church, infact I had a dad that thought the standards were stupid, I had to wear pants even though I did not want to, even to church a couple times. My dad made me keep my hair cut, as he wanted me to always be in style lol.
My pastor never kept me out of anything for it, I was in the youth coral and all
This was in the 80s and we had cable TV. The pastors granddaughter spent the night and after her telling her mom she watched cable over at my house, it was awhile before she spent the night again. But other than that I didn't have any problems not having parents in church

UHHH but do ya still wear ppants, cut your hair and have cable TV?

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

I not a UC to some I'm would be considered as liberal but I'm not anything goes.
One time a child was going to a UPCI church and her parents were not in church ,and a person told the child she couldn't come to their sunday school class wearing ear-rings.Anyways the child quit going and goes nowhere to my knowledge now.
And no that pastor didn't approve of such.

How bout sit the teacher down, pastor goes to the child and invites her back?

[Tina]

Our church doesn't have restrictions on the children participating. The children who come in through the bus ministry often come to church in jeans or shorts. No one ever says a word to them about what they are wearing.

They are not restricted from taking part in kidz church or any related activities. They are allowed to participate in the Easter programs, Christmas programs, etc. Keeping those children involved in church activities is very important. As long as they are coming for the activities, they are being taught-- regardless of how they are dressed when they get on the bus to come to church.

Who cares if a child comes to church in jeans or shorts... or wearing earrings, etc? At least they are coming to church, and wanting to be involved. By keeping the kids involved and excited about things going on at church-- you have the chance to get the unsaved parent(s) to attend service when there's something special going on that their child is participating in.

If you offend the child, and the child doesn't want to come back to church-- you will never have a chance of getting the parents to attend.

Originally Posted by Scott Hutchinson

Suppose you are a Pastor and you have set standards for your church.
Now you have children coming to your church whose parents are lost.
Suppose these children want to sing in the youth choir or participate in Sunday School outings and events.
Do you demand that children from these enviroments comply with the church standards before they can participate in church activities?

Are you refering to adult children or minors? Hey I was once saved, but now I am lost according to my kids(I don't think I am lost, and neither does God)...they will not let us around our grandkids and they won't even hardly talk to us....but that does not stop them in their church....they do it all....ya know to the point of exhaustion...no time for anything outside the church...oh those were the days...I am so glad they are behind me! I am not angry or bitter anymore...still hurt about my kids cause I love them, but happy with my life....and what God is doing in it!

[Scott Hutchinson]

Originally Posted by Sister Truth Seeker

Are you refering to adult children or minors? Hey I was once saved, but now I am lost according to my kids(I don't think I am lost, and neither does God)...they will not let us around our grandkids and they won't even hardly talk to us....but that does not stop them in their church....they do it all....ya know to the point of exhaustion...no time for anything outside the church...oh those were the days...I am so glad they are behind me! I am not angry or bitter anymore...still hurt about my kids cause I love them, but happy with my life....and what God is doing in it!

Sister I was referring to minors.

[NightOwl]

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

UHHH but do ya still wear ppants, cut your hair and have cable TV?

lol no to the first 2 and yes to the last lol

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whats interesting the mom that wouldnt let her daughter come over alot because of cable, now has cable herself