Good question. In literal terms, no, I normally would not just allow someone to pound on me (physically or verbally), without putting up any resistance. But I think that teaching can be useful, if we apply it with common sense. Perhaps Jesus meant we should not escalate things, if at all possible. Paul said "If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men." There is a time for self-defense (and for family defense). I don't think Jesus (or Paul) would be happy with situations like abused wives "forgiving" and going back to their husbands again and again, only to suffer abuse again and again.
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Hebrews 13:23 Know ye that our brother Timothy is set at liberty
Some wounds are so deep that you can't even reach them. It is my understanding/observation that most issues that most human beings have are related to: abandonment, rejection, and self deprecation.
Where do they come from and where do they get put when you detach from them? Why do walls go up and bridges get burned?
Just some thoughts on my mind tonight. The image of God gets tarnished in some people's minds, hearts, & emotions. How does one change the lens that color their world gray or black?
Just some points to ponder for those who like to dig deep.
Blessings, Rhoni
I found myself with some people in my life, as long as I bounced back and forgave them for their stupid actions. Things would be fine for a period of time and they got used to having a soft spot because what would Jesus do? The I finally decided to give stop allowing them to continue in the process. It has been a few years and the Lord may work it out in the future. The next conversation will be about the pain and how it will not ever happen again.
I found myself with some people in my life, as long as I bounced back and forgave them for their stupid actions. Things would be fine for a period of time and they got used to having a soft spot because what would Jesus do? The I finally decided to give stop allowing them to continue in the process. It has been a few years and the Lord may work it out in the future. The next conversation will be about the pain and how it will not ever happen again.
Yes, sometimes you have to draw a line in the sand. I am not sure if there is more scripture for forgiving than drawing a line or if forgiving is just more focused on. Anyone?
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When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
Sad but sometimes we have to draw a line...many times our greatest hurts comes from people we have helped the most...BUT we have to find a way to get over it or the hurt will destroy us...
I walked away from some of the people that I loved deeply not long ago...does it still hurt? Yes, it does...Am I glad I walked away? Yes...
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Sad but sometimes we have to draw a line...many times our greatest hurts comes from people we have helped the most...BUT we have to find a way to get over it or the hurt will destroy us...
I walked away from some of the people that I loved deeply not long ago...does it still hurt? Yes, it does...Am I glad I walked away? Yes...
Yeah, I know how that feels....sometimes that has to happen. Does anyone have scripture for drawing a line? It's not something that is often taught on.
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Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the people doing it. ~Chinese Proverb
When I was young and clever, I wanted to change the world. Now that I am older and wiser, I strive to change myself. ~
The walls I've surrounding myself with were originally built to keep out further hurt and abuse. However, I've come to see that instead all I have managed to do is erect walls that trap me inside with my hurts.
The very walls that I put up to protect me from the 2 people who SHOULD have loved and protected me most, also keeps out the legitimate people who do love me and the ones who could help me tear the walls down; including (sad to say) at times, even Christ.
Even after you have forgiven someone, learning to trust again is not always easy.
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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
My momma used to say, "quick picking at the scab if you want it to heal"........
Bro.RevDWW, You just brought back a memory from my past. I have also
heard a similar phrase: " Quit picking at the scab or you will get it infected
and it'll never heal". A child will pick at a scab and keep it bleeding. Some-
times adults do too!
My Mom grew up as a preachers kid, but something happened to her as an older teenager that turned her away from God and church. She married my Dad, and they both became alcoholics and abusive. When I was only 3 years old, Mom and Dad divorced, (I never saw Dad again). Mom decided to move back to the town where she had grown up, it was the town where all her family still lived.
I was blessed to grow up, hear truth preached, and to receive the Holy Ghost in the same church my Mom grew up in. It was here that I learned about Jesus. Every Sunday and Wednesday, either my Grandmother or my Aunt would come and get us children and take us to church. I remember learning to pray at my Grandmother's knee when I was around 4 years old. It was around this time that I started praying for Jesus to save my mommy. I prayed this daily.
Growing up was not easy. I feel Mom did the best that she could, she simply had too many problems, problems that only Jesus could solve. In spite of all that Mom did or didn't do while we were growing up and in spite of whatever problems she had with God or the church, I am thankful that she never talked bad about the church, and she never tried to stop us from going to church.
As a kid, I never saw Mom in church, never heard her pray, but I never stopped praying for her. I grew up, was emancipated at 16, eventually got married and had children of my own, and still I prayed for Jesus to save my "mommy".
After praying that daily for over 30 years, Jesus answered that prayer! Five years ago my Mom found an altar of repentance and has come back to a right relationship with Him!!!!!!!!!
Mom has since apologized for all that she did to us during our childhood. I don't blame her, I know it was her alcoholism and her being away from God.
I am so thankful for my Mom!! I am so appreciative to just be able to sit and discuss the goodness of Jesus and the Word of God with her. There were times I didn't think I would ever see this day come, but GOD IS FAITHFUL!!!!!!!!!
I wrote this on Mother's Day, about the Mother who abused me growing up. As you can see, forgiveness HAS taken place. The hurt that comes from 30 years of hurt, abuse and rejection, however did not disappear simply because I chose to forgive Mom. The walls built up didn't suddenly crumble just because she said. "I'm sorry". Then there's the fact Dad died, and reconciliation never took place.
One thing to remember, healing is a process and that is what is happening with me. I am in the PROCESS. By the help of a patient and merciful Savior. I will get there.
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Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.
Sad but sometimes we have to draw a line...many times our greatest hurts comes from people we have helped the most...BUT we have to find a way to get over it or the hurt will destroy us...
I walked away from some of the people that I loved deeply not long ago...does it still hurt? Yes, it does...Am I glad I walked away? Yes...
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