Mega upc church in Turmoil ?????

Originally Posted by Truthseeker

don't you know it's a family business?

I actually heard first ear a choir director, daughter of the pastor, tell the choir that they needed to get a grip and understand that the reason she was so emotional about their performance was because the church was their family business and she wanted it to be the best it could be.

Her brother was the Sunday School Director, her husband was the youth leader, her uncle was director of ushers, her aunt was outreach director, another aunt was head hostess and greeter, I was the only non family member in leadership in that church.

[LaGirl]

Originally Posted by philjones

I actually heard first ear a choir director, daughter of the pastor, tell the choir that they needed to get a grip and understand that the reason she was so emotional about their performance was because the church was their family business and she wanted it to be the best it could be.

Her brother was the Sunday School Director, her husband was the youth leader, her uncle was director of ushers, her aunt was outreach director, another aunt was head hostess and greeter, I was the only non family member in leadership in that church.

WOW! you were extended family!

[Margies3]

Originally Posted by Thad

i know very little about it right now - the name will not be revealed by me

it's going to be discussed, talked about, diasected, whether you like it or not Margerie. welcome to Pentecost .

when you're high Profile and nationally known everyone wants to know.

Just another reason why I am happy to be able to say that I am no longer Pentecostal. Sad, isn't it - I've found in other church organizations that when problems happen, it does not get spread around like gossip. And when someone does happen to hear about it, the first thing they want to do is PRAY.

Maybe that's something that those who thrive on this kind of stuff should give some thought to.

[deltaguitar]

Originally Posted by LaGirl

you mean against the father n laws will?

Yes, lets say that the son-in-law is the assistant pastor for like 15 years. The church decides it is time for father-in-law to retire.

Could cause some family problems.

[Blubayou]

Originally Posted by Ferd

isnt that how we got blubayou to join our little club?

Ferd- I had lurked a long time before posting about our situation. I did try to set the record straight with just the facts. I do not know if I was successful or not.

[ManOfWord]

Originally Posted by philjones

I actually heard first ear a choir director, daughter of the pastor, tell the choir that they needed to get a grip and understand that the reason she was so emotional about their performance was because the church was their family business and she wanted it to be the best it could be.

Her brother was the Sunday School Director, her husband was the youth leader, her uncle was director of ushers, her aunt was outreach director, another aunt was head hostess and greeter, I was the only non family member in leadership in that church.

I am very close to a UPC church which is currently in a grave situation due, in part, to this very thing. Too much family, not enough accountability. It's a formula for disaster.

This NO ONE in my family, in any position at NLC, or in line to "inherit" a position!

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by philjones

I actually heard first ear a choir director, daughter of the pastor, tell the choir that they needed to get a grip and understand that the reason she was so emotional about their performance was because the church was their family business and she wanted it to be the best it could be.

Her brother was the Sunday School Director, her husband was the youth leader, her uncle was director of ushers, her aunt was outreach director, another aunt was head hostess and greeter, I was the only non family member in leadership in that church.

What a shame. We how much to learn in regards to the church acting as a body of Christ.

[LaVonne]

Originally Posted by LaGirl

TELL ME ABOUT IT!!!!
it is like family is the ONLY ones called to the ministry!

Sometimes I wonder if some are really called!

[Truthseeker]

Originally Posted by CareyM

Sometimes I wonder if some are really called!

Good point!

I wonder how one voted in is really called.

This is not a popular opinion on this thread BUT if my husband and I founded a church and poured our sweat and guts and put years of ministry into it and we had a son who was called into the ministry and he was the man for the church ABSOLUTLEY he would be the next pastor. sorry.